| From | : | Cliff |
| Subject | : | I Give Myself All The Permission I Need |
Who am I, and what qualifies me to talk about the potentially daunting topic about the state of man today ? No one gave me a “certificate” to be able to express my understanding. I don’t need anyone else’s permission to express myself, and I give myself all the permission I need. All that I talk about is according to … me.
Perhaps it sounds amusing. Surely every man needs validation from others before he can even open his mouth ? Things should be according to Doctor so-and-so, Professor so-and-so, or this book or that book, shouldn’t it ? Isn’t that why we have colleges, universities, centers of accreditation and qualification ?
How about I turn things around for you ? Everything I write will be according to my own understanding. If, after reading this article, you come to terms with what I mean by “according to me,” then you will have understood many things. If you can talk to anyone and utter the words “according to me,” then this article will have served its purpose.
I sat up and looked around us. The lights were on, and people were all moving about, but none seemed to take notice of us. We had created our own little bubble of intimacy, right there in the middle of a crowded airplane, thousands of feet in the air, moving faster than the speed of sound. I turned towards her. We locked eyes, and moved in closer. Kiss. Deep kiss. Make out.
I broke off the kiss.
Out with a buddy for a pint last night. Him: tall, built, handsome, well-dressed … almost too well dressed. Sort of gay hairdresser looks. Anyway. We are fairly buddy-buddy … fairly masculine guys.
That is until he talks to women, and then the gay seducer emerges.
Chat-up lines are also a cover for insecurity. This week, a glamorous London woman told me that women hear the lines, and listen to men tripping themselves up, but they don't mind because they take a chat-up line for what it is: a way of getting to know someone, like talking about the weather. At least the guys with chat-up lines are making the effort to meet a woman. If they cannot talk to another human being without a script or a technique (which most women see through and forgive men for), that is better than nothing.
Now back to my theory. If a women (HB8-9) sees a man approaching her who is too hot or too high-value compared to what she normally gets, she might fall into defensive mode and be really doubtful about it. She might think that he's a cool guy, but would end up just using her because he obviously doesn't need her … he probably could get any girl.
But what about courage ? Take the same situation, but add some shyness on the guy's part. He is as handsome, as talkative, as intelligent ... but he's not used to approaching strangers like that
