FR: My First Post
Hi guys, I'm new in the comunity. First of all i want to inform I'm Polish so my English can be a bit off. I always had problems with women and taking it to the next level. I'm a good looking guy but completly can't talk with women at had none for almoust a year now.
All last week i spent going throuh loads of books and stuff on body language, seduction and related topics. I analized, made notes, wrote hints and blowing my mind over all those things.
I fekt like my head was going to explode from too much data so I decided to put it to use.
I have this neighbour that i kind of have something going with, nothing close. I knew she was in one pub so I just walked in, spotted her, went over confidently, grabed her hand with one hand and took away her drink and put it down with the other. I looked her in the eyes and said:'we are going'(i noticed a spark straith in her eyes away). As I was leading her out of the bar I let her hand go and she grabed it back and wanted to be lead by my(I was absolutely amazed that it worked and i didn't get slapped in the face by her).
I took her to another bar where we sat down and i would be a bit cocky and funny at the same time. I told her to give me her hand and she did it straight away. I sad 'sit next to me i gonne read you hand'. I can't can't do that so i just joked that this long line represent her work on the petrol station and she will do it for the rest of her life', she was laughing. Then i told her to sit back on her place on the other side of the table because she's in 'my space'. She stood up and said very normaly and calm that she is going home. I was like 'WHAT?' but quickly got my shit together and slowly turned side ways and sad 'well ok, bye'. She left and I stayed to practice my body language. Half hour after she went I texted her and 'If you thought I gonne say Please Stay then you must have taken me for someone else'. And thats it guys. Was that some shit test? Now i Think that i shouldn't have texted her at all. What do experts think?
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Joseph Conrad was Polish
Joseph Conrad was Polish. As a young man, he became a merchant sailor for France. That meant he learned French. After that, he ended up in England, where he became one of the greatest writers in English of the 20th century. Your accent will serve you when sarging
women in English. Anything that distinguishes you from every other guy, in a positive way, will help you. Mehow is Polish too, I think.
In any event, It sounds, actually, like you did a great job with her. It also sounds like you are encountering the same problem as me. I am not attending to the attraction phase, well enough and trying to pushing things through comfort too fast.
The best thing you could have done in the situation you described is to feel proud that you were able to open with her and bounce her to a new location. Now, let's look at what actually happened, and I like Mystery's Model of the phases of this process to understand this, why SHOULD she have stayed with you? Do you think she felt comfortable enough with you? Sure, you went in there and did a bold move on a woman who might not have been ready for you to play such a bold move on her. She went with you perhaps because of curiousity, perhaps you are naturally charismatic, perhaps you just created a strong enough frame that evening to pull it off. It sounds like you actually kept her interested and entertained in the second venue, but, maybe you did not calibrate ( tune in to her experience enough) and you kept on the cock-funny stuff too long. Did you observe for enough IOI
s from her? Did you get her to qualify herself to you as to why should have continued interested in her? It seems like you pushed things to some point where you exceeded the level of what she could tolerate for that phase. Perhaps you stayed in some phase too long. In any case, Do not beat yourself up. Instead, look at Myserty's material and try to determine which phase you had her in.
Bold gambits are effective statsistically, meaning, if you do them with enough women, you will succeed enough times. The brilliance of game is that it is bold in a gentler way, and increases the efficacy rate.
Texting her as you did then probably was not effective, because it was too much. What was the emotion you were feeling when you texted her? What was the result you wanted from that communication with her?