How to Get Girls

You will either love me or hate me after you finish reading this but I have to say this.

If this cap fits you, wear it.

You are probably wasting a lot of time trying to learn how to seduce women. You really are.
And the more time you spend doing it the worse it is going to be for you.

And if you put an argument to the contrary, I dare say that you are lying.

Here is why.

First of all, you cannot really seduce a woman. She is either attracted to you or she is not. Fair enough it may take sometime for her to warm up to you BUT it is not your technique, not your hypnotic pattern, your DHVLook up this term or whatever crap has been invented out there, that attracts her to you.

Let me put it this way; if a girl likes you she likes you. Period.

Now, the things that stop you from achieving what you want with women are probably as follows

- Fear of rejection
- Feeling inferior to women/ other people
- Lack of confidence in yourself
- You probably don't believe women are attracted to you.

You also probably don't really like yourself, and you are likely not to have much respect for yourself. Yet you expect the woman to adore you.

Techniques give you false confidence that get you limited results.

Even if they worked (which they don't) you'd still need to be fairly confident and grounded in yourself to get the girl.

But then you wouldn't need techniques.

Look, you can be shy, socially awkkward, short and poor but if you really go pussy hunting, you will get some.

You see, everybody develops their own style. There are some things in common however only you can decide what will work for you.

Back to my argument. Very soon, the very people who swore by their techniques will start telling you that all you need is to develop true confidence so that you can naturally learn how to attract women your way.

I'm hearing RSDLook up this term is doing something like that already (forgive me but I'm not up to speed on the latest magic tricks)

Be honest, the only reason you learn techniques is because you are too SCARED to confront your fear, you would rather act like a female and pretend to be Don Juan whilst you know you don't even have the balls to stand up for who you really are.

Listen man, there are women out there who want you. They will be proud to be your girlfriends, wives and mistresses.

Man up and go get them!

Do you really think women don't know what's going on when you talk to them? Please!

Yes, you can get better with women but that only comes with experience.

Yes, you should learn to become more confident and how to stop acting like a pussy.

And yes, some of the stuff out there will help you to become more confident. But you and I know most of it is total crap.

Even if it is true, it is totally unnecessary. (Common, how can you dissect something as little and trivial as text messages?)

Reading and observing and then bullshitting the girl with some routine will not get you anywhere.

You have one life. Enough said.

6 comments

Shaggy's picture
Tue, 02/02/2010 - 19:23

You are partially right!

I do agree with you that the eternal Internal Game factors, such as confidence, core beliefs, and yunderlying beliefs affect one's game and presentation, but, I disagree with you that "She is either attracted to you or she is not."

It is possible to get a woman's attention, and to get her to find you attractive. It is not, as you imply a case that she from the start, takes some binary position regarding a man who apporaches her. You make it sound like attraction is predetermined, and that game is merely about conquering one's fears of opening, and of defrosting her. No, my brother! How often has a woman admitted that she did not find a fellow attractive, but his charm, warmth and humor grew on her? It IS possible to increase your value in a woman's eyes through strategy and technique.

JeanPaul's picture
Tue, 02/02/2010 - 20:43

You are missing the point

You are missing the point Shaggy.

You said it yourself; charm, warmth and humor. Not strategy and technique.

It is simply a case of her getting to know you better. Besides I said it already - sometimes it may take a while for her to warm up to you.

By exposing your real personality you give her a chance to be attracted to YOU.

Strategy and technique study is for losers. Because it doesn't work but they keep doing it.

Shaggy's picture
Tue, 02/02/2010 - 21:05

JeanePaul we actually agree!!

Except on this point, strategy and technique study is for those who want to learn the basics and the structure. It is most certainly not for losers. I do hope you have frequent flyers miles on yoru credit card, because when the snow gets bad wherever you are, please come to South Florida and we can explore what you and I have said here empirically. The proof is always empricial and not theoretical!!

The invitation is there for coming out with us in South Florida. Shaggy@fuzzyfrog.com

ziggaza's picture
Wed, 05/05/2010 - 17:28

im a nerd

-proof is always empirical and not theoretical.

I have an MA in politics and an MA in philosophy (don`t ask me why on this website :P ). And it is simply not true what you state here. In many ways your comment, the logics of this comment were very popular in the beginning of this century. A certain philosopher (Martin Wittgenstein) who was the godfather of a shortlived philosophical school named Vienna Circle. To keep it short the answer to your reasoning is ;'you have to have an idea of the reality in the first place to ask questions about it. Why? Just empirically test it. Try to answer a question of something you do not know; you cant. You HAVE to have an IDEA, or in other wordt a THEORY in your own head to be able to ask questions about it.

Imo the real answer is we (philosophers) dont know if if theory is the prerequisit of empirical thought. Or the other way around.

JeanPaul's picture
Tue, 02/02/2010 - 22:01

This is good

Nice... I'm the UK right now but I will send you an email so we can stay in touch. I will also send you a link to my website.

You see, once you have your own confidence and self belief you will develop your own way with women through experience.

I have to admit, in the current society we live we do have to do some kind of studying to get out of our conditioning.

However, the so called structure etc. just embeds wrong beliefs even deeper.

Most of the systems out there are based on avoiding rejection and making the girl want you.

There are very few that are based and being authentic and actually overcoming fears.

Don't forget that women are one part of our lives. Having sex or relationships will not solve all our problems.

Then also comes the issue of keeping the women. This is where most systems will actually cause the girls to lose interest in the guys that use them.

The reality is you can only feel truly confident through experience. Years of studying "Mystery Method" etc. will keep you in square one for a long time.

You see for many guys out there, all they know about women is what they've read in books and on the internet.

Virtually nobody talks about the rejection and sometimes actual frustration you may sometimes feel whilst improving the way you relate with women.

We all have to get hurt sometimes, it's part of how we grow.

It is our self-belief. self-love and confidence that take us through.

That's why that's what we really need.

Too many guys expect girls to adore them whilst they don't even like (or respect) themselves.

No strategy or technique can compensate for that.

Shaggy's picture
Wed, 05/05/2010 - 18:12

@zigazza

Well, I was always a fan of Karl Popper and NOT Wittgenstein. As I recall, Wittgenstein and Popper were at personal odds with each other. I have a masters and a doctorate, and I reject scholasticism. Being a keyboard jockey is a version of scholasticism. As part of my doctoral studies, I studied research design, and the logic of my comment is antithetical to Wittgenstein and in fact is more in line with Popper, and I stand by my comment that proof is always empirical, not theoretical.

Friend, I wonder, have you versed yourself in the theoretical model known as the Mystery Method?