FR: Sarging Last Weekend

So Shaggy and I have decided to practice as much as possible by getting out there in the field and opening as many sets as possible and pushing it as far as we can go. We have been going out 3 times a week Thursday through Saturday. One quick note that I have noticed as of this past weekend that proves the theory that practice makes perfect. For at least the past three weeks I have noticed that when we go out, Saturday is always or most successful night, Why is that? Is it just coincidence, superstition or is it the fact that we have had practice and been warming up for the two nights prior? I would have to say, based off the research I have been doing and my energy levels after sarging for two nights, that practicing our openers and routines more and more is getting us into a comfort zone. At any rate, we had an excellent time last weekend and I welcome your feedback on this subject.

Thursday Night, we came to a club we had visited the week before that we seemed to take a liking too. The first thing I did was go around the bar and kinda scan the room. As I went to get a drink, since they were handing them out free for the first hour we were there (pretty sweet deal!), I opened my first set. It was a three set with 2 girls and 1 guy. I first opened the guy asking if they were having a good night and making small talk when I got him to introduce me to the lovely ladies he was with. I used one of my openers and had a short 3 minute conversation with them before I moved on and went to find Shaggy in a set with two German girls. He introduced me and I talked to them briefly, however I found it a little awkward for me because at this point I was still warming up and was not yet socially comfortable. From there I went and opened up a four-set of some pretty cute Latin women (my weakness). I signaled Shaggy to come in and we were actually doing pretty well with them and I began to get into a comfort zone at this point, however we did make the mistake of not engaging the entire group. Also, the fact that it was so loud that my wing couldn't hear what I was saying caused a small mis-communication and we had to eject. Oh well, next set. We moved on to another set by the back bar where it was quieter and the music wasn't so loud. Shaggy actually opened this set with the dental floss opener and was doing quite well when he signaled me in. I went in and started talking to a cute 7.5. We started with a great rapport I negged her and she wasn't really responding well to it. So I DHV'd using my own personal ESP routine, Negged again and she responded quite well to the DHV however, she still wasn't responding in the manner I expected to my negs. Then something great happened. She accidentally spilled her drink and a little got on my shirt and shoes. What a great opportunity for me. "g-d, your so clumsy!" I said in a teasing manner. She then apologized and continued to get some napkins and wipe of my shirt and shoes. At this point, the women Shaggy was talking to seemed to lose interest. However, she was kinda the stuck up snobby type and I really don't think that either of us at this point in the game could have saved that interaction with that women. anyway, I felt like she was attracted to me at this point. I started teaching her some Latin dancing since they were playing some Bachata music. We went to the bar to get a drink. I number closed and Shaggy and I left the bar to debrief and call it a night.

On Friday, we met up at local bar in a nearby outdoor shopping area. We had dinner to discuss some theory as we usually do before going sarging. I was kinda off my game, Shaggy had to basically carry me all night. He opened a couple of sets signaled me in and we had some interesting interactions, but I still had major AA at this point. I don't know what was wrong with me, I just wasn't in the right state of mind. Then we changed venues and went to a nice upscale bar in the downtown area. When we walked in I finally worked up the nerve to open my first set. It was a 3 set that I opened with the two-part kiss opener. They were very receptive but I got stuck and ejected (my AA kicking in). Afterward, Shaggy told me that one of them was giving me IOI's and I could have pushed it forward. I have since then been able to recognize this particular IOI which is not typical, it was very subtle body language. I'm glad I have such a good wing that can observe my interactions and help me learn from them. At any rate I moved on to this cute little latin girl sitting by herself and opened her and she responded very well. We talked for about 30 minutes. Every time her friends came over my wing came in to occupy them so I can continue my conversation, same as I would do for him, we really do work well together. I number closed and we changed venues yet again. We opened a couple more sets, nothing too exciting. We were really getting tired at this point so we called it a night and went home.

Saturday we went to a venue that we had not gone to yet, but wow I really felt like this was a successful night. Almost every set we opened was totally responsive. We opened quite a few sets that night, but I'll give you a brief summary. We walked in and opened a 5-set right away. They were having a bachelorette party, this was really fun because I just stacked a bunch of DHV's together and made it really exciting. At some point, I lost interest in them and moved on. The next set I opened was a 3-set and I knew right away who my target was. I opened again with my favorite opener and hooked them instantly. I signaled Shaggy over and broguht over two chairs so we can sit and join them at the table, but he did it so smooth and subtly that I didn't even notice that I was sitting down (man he's good). I negged, DHV'ed, and built attraction pretty easily with this set. However, one of the girls was the more dominant one of the group and really commanded attention. Through her body language I realized that I had to regain her attention or I would lose the set. I started telling her goofy jokes and talking to her. Unfortunately, I didn't realize I was inadvertently negging her as well which was ineffective for me obtaining my target because she would have to seek the approval of the dominant one. I did number close and I felt I learned a lot from this interaction. Anyway, next set. The next set was group of teachers that I tried to open with an opener that I wasn't really familiar with yet. I opened well and hooked them, but I got a little intimidated by my target, she was gorgeous. I fluffed for a while and totally lost them so I moved on. Then I opened another 2 set, talked to them for a while and had them hooked right away. We were exhausted at this point, so Shaggy and I walked around, said our goodbyes, and debriefed before we headed home.

I will post a Field report from this weekend shortly.

Nightwolf