FR: First Field Report Ever! 3rd night practicing openers.

First of all, Congrats on rocking out 3 openers. Keep it up and in no time at all you'll have it dialed in. Here are some observations and pointers.

1) Make sure you are giving a false time constraint and rooting your opener. I open like a champ, but if I leave out these two components ("I can only stay for a second" and "I'm asking because...") the sets don't hook as often. They will shut you out before you can DHV.

2) Try sticking to one opener a night or for at least your first three sets. This helps to get you more congruent with the material. Have established answers for the the questions they may ask (this helps especially if you have a wing that you are working with and the topic comes up again) or better yet, don't be so attached to how you answer, just say whatever comes out of your mouth first. You will be moving on from the opener to another thread in a few seconds anyway.

3) You expected the girls in your first set to give you a straight answer and they didn't. This is a good thing! The more you can stir their emotions the more material it gives you to stack forward on. For example you can tease them on their comments and have fun with them to raise their buying temperature/ emotional state.

4) The cheating boyfriend opener has a few holes in it. I like that you are using your own material because it makes it more congruent, but this one in particular doesn't quite sit right. By asking the girls how you should proceed with making a moral judgment in your life is a DLV, A superior man is strong in his convictions. Make this one about your friend rather than you. Maybe try something like " Hey guys, I need a female opinion on something but I only have a second." and bodyrock out. "My buddy and I just saw his little sister's boyfriend making out with some guy outside the Cheesecake Factory! Should he tell his sister and break her heart or does he just let it slide and convince her to find a better guy?" Play with it and see what works or just stick to a community tested opener that is known to work well.

5) Remember to enter the set at the same or slightly higher energy level then the set you are approaching. If you are vibing at a lower level than them they will blow you out quickly because you are bringing them down. Our energy level is our the 1st value demonstration in a set. Are you going to give an instant DLV or an instant DHV. To get my energy level up to approach I will talk shit with my wing about the opinion opener like: "Dude, this is driving me crazy, I just gotta know! Here, you go ask those girls over there, and I'll go ask these girls over here!" and Bang: our energy is up and we are in set in less than 3 seconds. You can also do this on your cell phone if you don't have a wing. Improv your way to elevated energy.

6) As far as speaking loud enough, try to talk myou lower abdomen. First start by breathing into you lower abdomen (inhale & fill the belly) then speak with the exhale from your belly. This is how choral singers and stage actors project their voices. If I am going to a club I will turn the music in the car "up to 11" and then practice the opener I am going to use that night till it sounds loud enough without it sounding like I'm shouting.

The energy you carry behind your opener is most important. If you are cool, confident, and strong in your frame and in your presence, the material does not matter so much. Remember. The opener is as little as the first 30 seconds of seduction,(though it certainly can be longer) However once its through, cut it loose and stack forward ("I really have to get going, but how do you guys all know each other"?) Then just keep stacking forward.

I had an opener I came up with last weekend that was so simple, but it was great for calibrating how good my vibe was coming into the set. "Hey, I only have a second, but give me your input on this. You know the song ______________________ (insert obscure song from the decade you grew up in, for me it was the 80's). Her: "Yeah" You: "Who the hell sings it? I'm asking because we were just having dinner at this seafood place and there was a guy rockin' out on the piano there and singing this song. The whole bar was getting into it, but no one knew who sang the damn song. (This actually happened that night and I opened the cute hostess at the restaurant cause I saw her lip-syncing it). Depending on my delivery I got an array of different responses to it despite my wing;s hesitancy for me to use it. So, just keep all these pieces in mind and keep practicing.
Best of Luck!

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