Disrespected

Burtonyin,
I do love your writing! It sounds like a cross between Hunter S. Thompson and Charles Bukowski. You have this noirish, and pardon me for saying this, slightly bitter humor to your writing, and THAT is the problem! Good pick-up, that is good game, is about being clever and adaptive. She asked you for a light. THAT is great! But, her state was not to talk to you, it was simply to get what she needed and leave. You had value only for the lighter. Once that was gratified, she did not need you. Sharkash, is 100% correct, once you did what she asked (or commanded) you became a tool. You became like every other guy out there she has ever tested by telling them what to do. It is no different than if a girl turns to you and asks you to buy her a drink. Would you do THAT? NEVER! So, change your state. You could have been more playful, and told her, "You get the light if you tell me three interesting things about yourself." She would either get bitchy, or she would respond back playfully, or something in between. But whatever it was, you could have hooked her. You could have interupted her script/trance (because asking for and getting a light is a routine) and told her, "Sit and I will light it" When she asked for your last name, you could have said, "It is Big-Cock, Burt Big-Cock" or "My last name is a secret, come over here and I will whisper it to you." Now, just go back, and tell me what was your state when those girls approached you? Was it fun and happy? Was it playful and entertaining? Was it a bitter bitter and futile? Do you see what I am getting at? It is NOT just having a clever gambit at hand, or some routine prepared, it is about creating the right inner state, so that you respond in a way congruent with how you are feeling and adaptive to the situation.