Q: how to start kino?
how do i escalate to kino
with a girl i found on a internett dating site. i find myself getting kinda lock in a situation where i cant escalate... cos i dont know when to start and how to start the kino.
so any good tips on how and what i should do would be great...
thanks
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Hit the ground running
I'm working on this myself. I was able to get Kino
going in the set
s I was in on Friday night, but I would have liked to have a lot more and get it going earlier in the set
. My bootcamp instructor previously gave me the advice to start every interaction off with Kino
so that you are just naturally touchy with people in a relaxed kinda non- creepy way. A good way to practice this is to start kinoing everyone around you in your day to day interactions. This will help you to calibrate when and how to touch people and get you started integrating Kino
into just part of who you are. Another thing I'm working with is based on Mehow's "microloop". I use Kino
when I deliver a neg or a disqualifier. This conveys interest physically and disinterest verbally, so it balances out the interaction creating a micro-push/pull effect to build attraction. Let me know if you find something that works well for you.
I agree with Stephan.
I agree with Stephan. Instead of seeing Kino
as an on/off thing, I look at it as a continuum. On one end is totally non-sexual touching, like shaking someone's hand or tapping someone on the shoulder. On the other end is sex. And there's a whole range in between. I try to be in the habit of touching in non-sexual ways all the time. Touch her on the arm to make your point, playfully punch someone to be silly, etc. Do this to men, too. Remember that touching other men is one way that alpha males show dominance.
To escalate I have a few stock tricks that work pretty well.
"You have an eyelash on your cheek" [touch her face]
"How'd you get that scar on your arm" [touch her arm]
"Man, I like that ring, where'd you get it" [hold her hand]
Stuff like that. Things that are easy to slip into a conversation and seem innocent enough to backtrack if she doesn't respond well. And that's the important thing - touch her, but pay close attention to how she responds to your touch and calibrate accordingly. If she seems uncomfortable, keep it slow. If she appears to like the touch, take it a step further.
Watch her overall body language, too. Women will often make themselves available for Kino
without taking the first step. They'll place their hand really close, almost touching, to yours, or lean in really close but not touch you, etc. Remember they're often just as nervous about initiating things as you are.
All About Kino
I agree with Freres (Brothers) Stephan and JW.
My suggestion is to go to a bar, club and Starbucks and just watch couples. Observe how they casually touch each other on the hands, wrist, shoulder and forearms to emphasize things in their conversation. Also look at male-male diatonic couples (straight men who are just talking to each other) and female couples. Some people from some cultures touch each otehr more, for example Cubans, Italians and Arabs, in thecourse of a conversation. That touching merely has the function of making both parties feel connected. It is not sexual touching. It is comofrt, and connection touching. So, when you are talking to a girl, and you want to emphasize a point, let's say, telling her how you trained your dog to catch a frizbee, sit close enough to her to be able to reach out, and then as you are talking, if there is some point you are making, just touch her hand or shoulder for a second. Gambler has some great videos on this. It really is not complex. The point of this kino
is to create a sense of intimacy and by non-sexually touching, you are habituating her to being touched, so that when you push it to sensual touching, it won't be sudden or jarring.
Thank you. this will help
Thank you. this will help alot.