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At first glance, it seems like a simple enough question, but it’s something that deserves a moment of consideration.
Personally, one of my most critical turning points was one evening 10 months into my first year of discovering “game.”
It was a cold 4 AM on a foggy Saturday night in the city. There was a scattering of freshly established couples, until recently absolute strangers, canoodling on the street as they made their way to the nearest taxi rank. Amongst them were packs of girls walking hurriedly along with their hands clasping the hems of their miniskirts, pulling them down in a vain effort to display some sort of modesty as they made their way past the flocks of half drunk guys lining the footpath, all of whom were foolishly hooting in a loud last ditch effort to create some sort of connection with the opposite sex before going home … defeated.
And there I was, waiting for a kebab in a 24-hour Middle Eastern restaurant with Phil, a visiting out of town pick up artist who was one of my early mentors.
It had been a particularly grueling night. I had approached at least a couple dozen sets but I had blown out within 10 minutes with each one. I was tired, my eyes felt sunken and bloodshot, my skin was pasty. But until a second ago, I was quietly feeling quite chuffed with myself. Here was a guy I was so damned excited about seeing again. The last time we had hung out, I had only just discovered the thrilling world of pick up, and his last memory of me was as a shy withdrawn computer gaming nerd who had to be pushed hard before uttering the slightest peep.
Now, nearly 9 months later, tonight was my big chance to show him how good I’d gotten. Without the slightest hint of hesitation, I was now an approach machine. I had secret hypnosis tactics and techniques packed to the gills, my coin snatch trick was surpassed by none, I could NLP pattern the shit out of any girl the moment I saw a lapse in her critical defenses. I was animated and funny, high fiving my way through a small repertoire of jokes.
But now I was suddenly disheartened. The glory had vanished like a slap in the face when Phil asked the question:
“So, how many girls have you fucked since I last saw you ?”
I was stunned. Sure, it had popped up before, but this time it just struck me like it never quite had. I had always brushed it off as something forthcoming, like the sex was going to be an inevitable conclusion to the interactions as long as I kept at it. But the way he asked, given that I had spent the better part of the year pretty much following the same routine stack, Phil’s casually posed question seemed to point out the big fat elephant in the room.
Despite the hundreds of approaches, the obsessive memorization and rehearsing, the dozens of pick up and seduction DVDs, eBooks and CDs I was pouring my precious free time and hard earned money into …
The answer to Phil’s question was zero. A big fat fucking zero !
My first wave of thoughts turned to the reservoir of self-doubt and insecurities that were threatening to burst forth. With downcast eyes, I revealed a few of them to my mentor.
Was I too short ? Too chubby ? Too ethnic ?
One by one, he shot them down and buried them with counter examples using people we knew. It was an exercise I’d done before, but at that stage, the process of eradicating self-limiting beliefs hadn’t yet been completed.
He then asked me the next critical question, the one that has stayed with me since.
“What are you in the game for ?”
My first reaction was to blurt out the nominal answer, which was simply “to bang hot chicks.”
Phil chuckled at this, and looked at me again squarely in the eyes.
“Is that all ? Are you sure that’s it ? To bang a hot chick, all you need is a couple hundred bucks and a drive to the closest high-end massage parlor. You can bang a hot little French girl putting herself through university and save yourself 9 months of cramming, rehearsing, heartache and humiliation. Now think about it honestly. Why are you in the game ?”
I was stunned and a little confused. It took me a minute before I understood the implications of what he was saying. But then it was as if something snapped, and the answers came flooding through …
It is an interesting exercise to explore the deeper psychology behind the reasons we do what we do. These days, whenever I ask my students the same question of why they are in the “game,” their answers are all surprisingly similar, given a little scratching beneath the surface.
“I’m afraid of being lonely.”
“I want to feel validation as a man.”
“I want attention from the pretty, popular girls who ignored me in high school.”
“I want to impress my friends, who all have girlfriends except me.”
“I was hurt by a girl, and I just want to prove to her and to everyone else that I can find someone better.”
“I want to find a girlfriend, possibly my future wife … the mother of my children.”
Very often, the answer isn’t just to “bang a hot chick,” even though that’s often the first thing that comes to mind, and the first thing guys will exclaim.
The problem is, given the various deeper motivations guys have, they go out and unconsciously game accordingly. Even though they’ll insist to others, and to themselves, that they’re going out to get laid and to “bang a hot chick.”
For example, a guy whose deepest desire is simply to impress his friends will go out and run a flashy set, but once his friends stop paying attention, he will start to flounder in his direction and fail to seal the deal with the girl.
A guy who just wants validation and attention from women will pretty much do the same. He loses a significant incentive to push the interaction towards sex once the girl indicates that she likes him. In these cases, a make-out in the club is deemed as “enough.”
A guy who just wants a “girlfriend, wife … future mother of my children” will fail to follow up with a stunning hot club chick even though she’s gagging for it, because he unconsciously notices her character flaws.
This is fine and dandy if it makes you happy, but my point in all this is that despite all of our deeper motivations, to be a real pick up artist, you need to be aware of these and overcome them if you do want sex … and to bang lots and lots of hot chicks.
Through the years, I’ve watched, read, and listened to about ninety percent of game related DVDs, eBooks and CDs out there. They’ve all added some piece of the puzzle to the understanding of game (some more than others, of course.) But most of them really just talk about the initial part of the seduction process (with only a couple of exceptions.) The sex and the “close” is so detached and abstracted. It’s almost an afterthought.
For all the shit that we put ourselves through in studying the art of seduction, it needs to be related back to getting the girl naked in your bed. To have the image of her panting and wet, stroking your rigid member from the moment you begin the interaction. You need to use this image to push your interaction with her to the very end, however it may turn out.
If you are serious about developing the part of yourself that is a true pick up artist rather than a guy just dabbling in dating information, you need to get serious about getting laid. Having hardcore penetrative sex, and seeing how the information relates to the entire interaction – from approaching, opening the set, and running the routines to the glorious High Definition full color climax. Begin with the end in mind, my friends !
Psychic Seduction. Dialing Subcommunication and Inner Game.
Try this. From open to post coital cuddle, pretend that the girl is psychic and can hear every word that you say in your head.
You can view this as a game to habituate your internal dialogue, both consciously and unconsciously. First to make light of all useless thoughts, and then to banish them, leaving only pure sex.
When I am out of state, I’m usually thinking of random shit, like what to do next, or worrying about not taking action when I should be.
When I’m on, I find that when I look in a girl's eyes, my mind loops thoughts of pure love: how much I love this girl in front of me, both as a person and as a woman. How I love her laugh, or her lips, or eyes. How we are floating in our own golden bubble of love and our hearts are connected by a golden cord of light.
Ownership / dominance: thoughts of how she is mine, and how I’m going to protect her. How I own her in this moment. How she will submit to me, and in doing so, can release herself.
Sex: I see all the nasty things we are going to do to each other's bodies as soon as we are alone. How she is going to beg to be my dirty little cum slut.
Nothing else !
It’s pure, nasty, dominant love. That shit shines from my eyes, beams from my smile, and glows from my skin. It charges my touch. She can relax into this. She knows what I am thinking, but I like to whisper it in her ear anyway just to tease her and to give her value, and make her want it even more.
Anyway, I am going to work on this frame of viewing everyone as being able to hear my internal dialogue to train my to internal congruence, steady state, and laser focus.
Two Universal Truths of Inner Game
I was just talking to my best friend Giant yesterday (I always call him that because he’s as big as a basketball player – and actually does play basketball professionally.) Now this guy has learned the game of meeting and dating naturally to the point of us two walking down the street and him having met yet another woman … while I’m still figuring out where the f*ck he went ! He’s been my mentor ever since the first time he did that to me, and I owe him a lot.
Anyways, we were ranting on and on about inner game – the right state of mind you need to have to meet and date women, your way of thinking, your beliefs and values, your perception and stuff.
Because for a natural, someone who’s naturally good at meeting and dating women, most of what he does is so ingrained, so carved into his very blueprint that he (or she) hardly realizes that he’s doing it or thinking it.
I can still remember two key insights of thinking we stumbled on that helped us out big time unconsciously. Two universal truths of inner game, if you will, and I’d like to share them with you, just to see if others will benefit from them as much as we have.
The universe is a reflection of you
If you approach the world filled with anger towards women out of frustration and negativity about your being and your abilities, it will radiate out into the world, which will then give it back to you. And then you feel justified for having even more negative thoughts, which is a downward spiral into depression, or worse. To clarify: if you’re friendly to a stranger, you smile at them and are generally positive … what happens ? You’ll have a new friend who will smile at you, who is friendly to you, etc. All things in the universe respond in similar fashion.
If the universe is you, stop blaming the universe for things, and instead look for solutions ! Instead of complaining about how the universe always gives you rain and fucks up your perfectly dry clothes, look for ways (solutions) to keep yourself as dry as possible: an umbrella. The bigger picture: take responsibility for everything, absolutely everything … because responsibility is control, and control is power, which is good. It gives you way more control over the outcome of events.
If you are the universe, you set the boundaries … meaning you define how far you can go, and how and what you can do. In other words: you define your limiting beliefs yourself, which is why every time you want to say it's impossible, I’m too (young / old / inexperienced / scared / ugly / fat / short / skinny) and say no to yourself, instead you say yes: all is possible, all is doable, and all is desirable. Anything the mind can conceive, it can believe and achieve, my friend. Killing your limiting beliefs is the biggest part of inner game. Because believing you can’t do something is different from physically not being able to do it. Even crippled people get women, so that’s no excuse, either !
So start living without holding back. Boundaries … uh, do they exist, then ? Be open to all opportunities, and you’ll find you will double the fun (and the amounts) of meeting and dating women. If you make a mistake out of enthusiasm, smile, because you still need to learn the skill, but you are taking action. And one more thing: problems can always be fixed, as long as you look for solutions without dwelling on all kinds of negative emotions. They won’t help you fix things, so focus on what does.
Everything is game, but the game isn’t everything
You can use every object, person, thought and observation in this universe to your advantage, and to get ahead in life. This means you can be picky and challenging. You can tease your boss to get promoted, you can be kind to a little girl and seduce her mom / bigger sister / etc. because of it, you can befriend other men and women that have game and learn from them … or get introduced to cute ones through them. You can also use teddy bears, roses, etc., to seduce women by being romantic or by drawing attention to yourself (this is called peacocking, for those that don’t know.) You can use thoughts to create whatever desirable reality, emotion, empowering belief and mind state you want to make the most out of every situation, and you can use any and all observations to tell good stories, role-play, open and close a conversation, and keep it going. Hell, when I see a chair, I can tell the funniest story ever about what happened to me once when I sat on one (who can’t ?) So everything can be turned into an unfair advantage, my friend. This is my concept of “Total Game:” everything is game. Men, women, old men, old women, objects, emotions … doesn’t matter, because you can use everything as feedback for learning more or[em] use it to seduce.
However, Total Game also means that the game is [em]not everything. You base seduction on your life and not your life on seduction ! You have friends, family, work, education, interests, ambitions and dreams, too … so you shouldn’t make picking up women all that you do. Why ? Because if seduction were your life, this would mean that whenever you are not seducing women, you are thus not having a life, which makes you a response junkie (if you don’t get reactions from women, you are nothing. In other words, pretty much an attention whore !) And having no life is being a pathetic loser. Duh.
Also, you are not a Mystery puppet (www.lovesystems.com/), a David De Angelo clone (www.doubleyourdating.com/), or a Juggler look-a-like (charismaarts.com/) … all these men teach you some of the best game out there. True. But you are not them ! This is why you should base your seduction on your life. I, for example, work at a telephone company, have worked in a dozen or so call centers, and always get to train people to become phone superstars, which means it would be very natural for me to be an expert of phone game, to role-play the teacher-student thing with women a lot, and to teach women things.
You may be a club bouncer. Different people, different objects, different situation … on which you need to base an entirely different style of picking up women because of the noise in the club, drunk people, the rules of your job, etc. Know what I mean ?
Truly being a world-class seducer means making a killing with your unique circumstances: shaping your situation in such a way that you can meet as many women (or the highest quality of women) as you possibly can. It’s basing seduction on your life.
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