This Is Too Easy

We are waiting for Brent Smith at an upper class restaurant / bar. When he and Mitch arrive, they're already with two girls whom they met at the hotel pool. We all say a big hello with hugs all around.

Before Brent can sit down, however, the restaurant manager walks up to him and tells him that we have too many people and they can't seat us. So Brent says, “Let's get the party started ! Where can we take it from here ?” Then we head toward the pool section to eat.

As we walk to the pool, Brent gets straight into it, saying hi and meeting people with girls checking him out. As this is happening, he goes straight into coaching all of us. “Guys, can you see what happening here ? We own the place. Everywhere we go, we own the place.”

Then he turns and talks to this young, very stern, good looking Italian guy (Jess) who is accompanied by a 10 and a few of his friends. These guys don’t want to talk with anyone. Brent jokes around with him and buys him and his friends a round. Then he turns to us and tells us, “This guy is the guy you want to connect with, and no one ever buys him a drink.” The boys around me are perplexed as to why you would buy a round for a guy and his friends.

Okay, fast forward a moment to Sunday night ... the boys from group coaching and myself are at a different club called Hugo’s, a very exclusive place. We get to the door and are refused entry (it's members only night), and I am connected so I usually get in everywhere.

We're standing in the street wondering what we should do, and I get a tap on my shoulder. It's Jess. “How are you ? Is everything ok ?” he asks. I reply, “I am great, mate, how are you ?” He says, “Come with me.” He speaks with security for a few seconds, and we get the all-clear to get into Hugo’s.

That moment was huge for me. I realized that Brent knows what he is talking about when he emphasizes the importance of connecting with the right people.

Ok, back to the group coaching.

So I am still in the first 10 minutes of meeting Brent. And the next 6 hours are nonstop. Brent never sits down, he is never quiet. Remember, we are not just anywhere, we are in the most exclusive restaurant / bar in Sydney.

Brent leads the conversation with fun, enjoyable topics. And if there is nothing to talk about, he or Mitch will affirm to you: “Every girl wants to bang you, this is too easy, etc.”

Regarding making excuse in life, Brent and Mitch teach us that there is no valid excuse except, “I didn't do it.” For example, my only excuse for not getting laid tonight is because “I didn’t do it.” You can make up any story you want about why you couldn't do it. But the most empowering perspective you can take is “Because I didn’t do it.” That way, the next time you realize you can do it if you want to.

The biggest thing I learned that night is that the very sexy girl across the room who makes you squirm when you see her … she doesn't mean anything, nothing at all. Brent doesn't even get turned on by that woman, he is over it, and hence it doesn’t have an effect on him.

So when we see a gorgeous woman, why do we let it mean so much to us ? We're paralyzed with fear and shrink into a ball, but we can simply let it mean nothing as well. No matter how hot a girl is, if you have sex with her, after 6 months or a year, you will really be over it. So just come from that place. You will be happier, and will be less attached to the outcome.

Another little gem: “Have a good inner dialogue with yourself, and then when you are with people, you will dialogue well with them.”

We have a short break at 5:30, then meet again at the restaurant at 7:30. This time, Brent and Mitch are suited up, and again they walk in with two women whom they met in the elevator.

Mitch starts making out with the girl at the table after a few minutes. Brent is once again the center of conversation. It’s exciting to hang around them; there is a sense that anything can happen.

After a bit more coaching, we walk to the Blue Horizon bar where we have our own champagne party overlooking the best of Sydney city. We're bantering with everyone, inviting girls to the after party, giving out our numbers and having a blast. To sum up my night, I had 4 average looking girls keen to go to the after party right away. To which I replied, “I’m here with friends, message me at 2.”

Other events with Brent: a very tall, sexy Russian girl was dancing. Without saying a word, Brent starts dancing with her. Then he leaves, and she calls him back. This happens 3 times over 30 minutes. It was too easy for him to take her back to his place.

Then we're walking through the pool club later that night. Brent is in front of me when a girl just grabs his arm and says “Hey.” Brent turns and asks how she is doing, and within 30 seconds, she takes his number and we leave to go next door. I'm thinking, can any guy interact with a woman in the VIP lounge at 2:30 in the morning (when woman become stand offish) ?

Of course, Brent does it.

We go downstairs, where women are more difficult to deal with. Brent grabs a hot blonde and starts dancing with her; she is totally into it and starts grinding with him. As he is dancing with her, her friends walk up and ask Brent where he is staying ... he gives out his number and leaves.

We call it a night and all head back to the hotel. Brent and Mitch both leave with women. Two Russian girls drive my wing and I to our hotel at 4 in the morning. I don’t ask them to come upstairs for a drink, as we want to save our energy this week for partying. I am meeting with 2 of the girls for coffee at work. I've also made friends with some really connected guys.

We run into girls at Bondi Beach. 2 girls that were into Brent the night before wave at him. He doesn’t know who they are but he spoke to them the night before. Classic.

What really stuck in my mind was how people have way more issues than you do, and are more scared than you are in social settings. So just go out there and lead and have fun, and take people out of their boring lives.

Also, one of my friends there was using Mystery Method. So I met a girl, spoke to her for a minute, introduced him to her and left. He tried his thing on her for 45 minutes, and nothing happened. I walk up to her, looked into her eyes, and said hey. She got so nervous she started giggling. Then she asked me what movies I like, and took my number and said she would show me a few good ones.

If you are a guy that feels a lot of fear or anxiety when you see a girl, you have an advantage. When you see her, just say to yourself, “She wants to have sex with me.” Because you have strong emotions, your mind links the strong emotion to a positive thing. Which in turn creates the new reality. And when you actually talk to her, all the anxiety will turn into confidence. And because you did something that feels scary, you will grow into even more confidence.

All day I keep affirming my new reality. When I'm out with my friends, I share my affirmations with them. Even when you come home and you're not feeling good, just affirm it. Have it on your ipod like I do. At the end of the day, you want to be a person that is fulfilled and doesn't need things to go one way or the other.

How has it changed my life ? I have genuinely taken the path of indifference, being positive and carefree. A girl I was having a casual relationship with canceled three times on me. So I thought, “I live in abundance, like Brent does, and I don’t need this girl.” I met a girl on the train, she messaged me later that same night asking if she could join me, and of course we wound up in my bedroom.

Also, my buddies and I have become more positive with each other. I was fortunate enough to have my best friend and wingman come to the Brent coaching with me, so now we have taken it to the next level. We text each other: “Every woman wants to bang you !” etc. Prior to meeting Brent, I knew the theory really well, but seeing it in action was what I needed to inspire me emotionally to be what I want to be.