Who Knows What Girls Find Attractive ?
1. The ability to do.
2. Knowing what not to do.
3. (A very distant third.) Knowing what to do.
The ability to do is really generated from your self-image. In my life, I have exhibited vastly different behavior, both nonverbal and in the things I have said. All of it was dependent upon my self-image. Low self-image causes failure, while high self-image causes success.
The reason what not to do is second is because I have often seen poor self-image blow great opportunities. I had it in the bag many times and then, due to poor self-image, just screwed it up. Of course, for me, much of that was fear of relationships, since I had been abused by the girls I dated.
Who knows what girls find attractive ? All I know is that there are many different types that girls find attractive. So almost any guy, unless he is a total loser, will show up and someone will be interested in him. The higher his self-image, the more women will be interested in him, and the attraction will be deeper.
Another key concept is letting them worry. I used to be afraid of offending people, so I was always reassuring them. Of course, this would come across as too forward, even if not taken that way.
The best seduction comes from within, where the girl seduces herself. By letting them worry about you, you let them seduce themselves. If you work too hard to reassure them that you are attracted, will call them, will spend your money on them, etc. ... game over. They know the outcome and can go back to their lives. Or worse, play you for a fool and seek to separate you from your money or just have you around to do favors for them.
If you let her worry whether or not you will call, or whether or not you really like her, she hooks herself. She will talk to her friends, and her friends may even tell her that she likes you because she is talking so much about you.
I am a lot more comfortable with letting them worry. Of course, these days I put this very important concept to work in my favor.
The thought then is: I like you, but I am not sold. Which is hope plus doubt.
Trying too hard to pick up is failure, and trying to pick up every woman you meet is also failure. Just like those seduction courses that say you can have any woman you want … that appeals to the desperate guys. Those courses are to be avoided just for the fact that the sales pitch is bullshit.
A man must have his standards and say no to going after anyone who is not his type.
If a guy's only standards are “good looking,” this is failure, because really he is desperate even if he does not want to admit that to himself. A man who has been around women knows that there are different types, and he seeks out his type. If you are trying to pick up someone and she does not get the message that you're sizing her up, she will figure that you are desperate.
But if she gets the message that you are sizing he up, her own self-doubts will work to get her to seduce you.
Another metaphor I developed is the life saver.
A desperate guy is drowning in the ocean. If a girl shows him any interest, he clings to her like a life saver. This only pushes her away.
Guys who do not know women project their fantasies onto them. This is why it's important to get to know a woman. In this process of really getting to know her, asking her questions and talking with her is key. She can see that you are interested in her and not just another loser who is in love with his fantasy of her.
Most girls are turned off because a guy likes her without knowing anything about her.
I find myself these days making fun of the loser types when talking with girls. It's fun to make loser voices and go over the most common loser material. It seems to work well in the pick up to separate me from the bunch. I am not a loser, and heck, I am a lot of fun to boot.
Always keep in mind the proper frame. Remember Ronald Regan when asked about his age.
He replied that he was not going to exploit his opponent's youth and inexperience for political gain.
I myself think if a girl has gotten to know me and doesn't want to be with me, she has some emotional problems.
I recently told a girl I just met, “We could be friends.” This was done as a forward statement without the disconcerting talk of long term stuff.
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