David Shade's Sex Manual

David Shade has sent in the following with some fun techniques.

About 5 years ago, I was dating this 22 year old woman who had never had an orgasm. She did have one long term borefriend, so I knew that intercourse or face fuck would not do the trick. So I just took my time finding what would feel good for her. With my middle finger I searched for her "g" spot, but received no response. Then I decided to slide my finger in as far along the front wall of her vagina as I could. There is a depth within the vagina, which encircles the cervix, where the diameter increases. This area is no longer spongy, but instead smooth and firm, with slight circumference ribbing. Gray's Anatomy calls this area the "cavity of the cervix." I curled the tip of my finger and pressed the tip of my finger hard against the ribbing. I stroked this area by straightening and curling the tip of my finger and pressing hard while pulling down slightly. She immediately responded to this. After continuing this for a few minutes, I watched the face of this beautiful woman as, for the first time in her life, she came. That was sweet. Eventually she was able to orgasm readily in any manner.

Later I was seeing a woman who had never had an orgasm without the aid of direct clitoral stimulation. Basically, she had only had clitoral orgasms. I used the deep spot on her, and after a few minutes, she experienced her first vaginal orgasm. After a few sessions of awakening her vagina, she was able to readily orgasm in intercourse.

Another variation to this is to get her on her hands and knees and go in along the back wall of her vagina. Go in as deep as possible. Along the back it is deeper because the cavity of the cervix is tilted along with the uterus. Curl the tip of your finger as if to press against her tail bone. Repeat. To her it will feel as if she is getting butt fucked. Some women find this very exciting and will experience a very powerful orgasm.

Another variation is to lie her on her back and go in with two fingers, your index finger and your middle finger, against the front wall of her vagina. But keep the tips of your two fingers about an inch apart. This also leads to a very powerful orgasm.

The deep spot has one added benefit over the clitoris. The problem with the clitoris is that after a few seconds of an orgasm, it becomes so painfully sensitive that it cannot be further stimulated. The deep spot does not have this problem. The deep spot is one way to give a woman a very sustained orgasm. While rubbing her, use your other hand to gently pinch her nipple. Once she is about 5 or 10 seconds into her orgasm, work the spot even harder and pinch her nipple even harder and insist that she keep cumming. You can keep a woman cumming for a whole minute, maybe even longer if she wants. This is difficult to do. You will feel like a rodeo cowboy trying to stay on a wild bronco, or like a priest trying to hold down a possessed woman during an exorcism. hehe.

One night about 12 years ago, I was going about my usual licking on my wife when I decided to try something new. I used my index fingers to hold her lips open and then I placed my wet lips over her clit and sucked her clit into my lips. She had a religious experience. Then I let it slip back out, and then sucked it back in and flicked the tip of her clit with my tongue. Doing this brought her to a quick and powerful orgasm. A few years after our divorce, we had a summer time affair. She asked me to "do that thing you used to do."

Do not start with this move. It is too powerful. Use it as an "end game" only after having spent some time with the usual licking.

It makes for great narrative during phone sex. "And then baby, I am gonna take my index fingers and I am gonna hold your lips open. And then I am gonna make my lips really wet and I am gonna place my lips in the shape of am 'O' and I am gonna place my lips right on the tip of your clit and then I am gonna SUCK your clit into my lips!" (They always gasp.) "And then I am gonna slowly pull back and let your clit slide back OUT of my lips. Then I am gonna SUCK your clit back INTO my lips." (Repeat a few times) "Oh yeah baby, fuck my lips with your hard clit. Oh yeah baby, cum in my mouth, hard baby." hehe. They fucking LOVE it.

About a year ago, I posted an article to the asf news group entitled "thinkoff." It happened to me again recently.

I am currently seeing a woman who lives 2 hours from me. Occasionally, on those nights that we cannot be together, we enjoy some "phone." Recently I decided to try thinkoff on her.

So I say to her

So then I go into the usual stuff, but this time I take even more time and I go into much more detail, excruciating detail. Starting with how I will undress her and caress her. A lot of time is spent on this. It is driving her crazy. After lots of tele fore play I work my way towards to the part where I suck her clit. She goes fucking nuts. I narrate what I am doing on this end of the phone and the progress that I am making. (hehe, they love that part.) I can tell she is very close. Then I go into the "Oh baby, fuck my lips with your clit. Oh baby, cum in my mouth baby." Then she calls her maker and goes into her orgasm. I keep her orgasm going by saying "Oh yes baby, I'm gonna cum! Cum now baby!" (Repeat as often as you think you can get away with it.) I was able to keep her orgasm going for much longer than usual by holding out on her for a while. (They want to cum when you cum.)

I have done this with about 5 or 6 women. I believed them when they said that they kept their hands at their head.

This only works if you have already had phone with her at least once before. This only works if they do not know what you intend to do. If you tell them, they will not believe you and they will resist. After you have done it, future times are easier as she knows it is possible and she welcomes it. The above conditions apply whether or not you have slept with her.