A Real Woman Is Hard To Find
We all know men who can’t get women interested in them. These men feel lonely and suffer from a lack of affection in their lives. What happens is they start feeling negatively about themselves. They feel unworthy and anxious.
I’m a seduction and intimacy specialist, and I help men bring more intimacy and peace of mind to their relationships with women. There are some “gurus” out there who teach men how to seduce women, but somehow nobody talks about how to deepen those relationships.
What I’m going to say may be the total opposite of everything you’ve heard up until now. Here are the top 7 ways to get women to care about you.
1. Try to give instead of trying to get. Instead of trying to get a girl or trying to get new friends, try to give good vibes, connect people together, inspire people and give sexual experiences. There are some people who will use the fearless caveman approach and just get whatever they want, and it may work for them, as they give off inspiring vibes of self-confidence and fearlessness. By having bigger goals in life than just getting laid, by not being attached to being with anyone in particular, and by instead giving good vibes to people, it will bring success to a whole new level.
2. Don’t think about what to say and do. You may want to say and do the right thing, but the truth is, the less you think or care about what to say, the more spontaneous and genuine you are and the better it is. Also, when you want to please a woman, you’re not being yourself, and they smell it. They want to see who you are behind your mask. When you are truly in the present moment instead of wondering what to say next, it gives women space to continue the conversation so you don’t have to work to build rapport.
3. Accept your fears and anxieties. If you are anxious talking to a woman, if you have fear of rejection or if you have difficulty expressing yourself, don’t resist it. What you resist persists. Once you allow yourself to fully feel the fear, it already starts to transform. You can release fears in three steps: become aware of it, accept it, and then let it go.
4. Do Natural Grounding. Let your state of mind be affected by specific music videos of very pure Shakti energy, which is feminine, Yin energy. This will help bring out your masculinity, uncover your self-confidence, develop your intuition, raise your mood and ground your energy to the Earth. It will also help you have more presence by extending your energy field and dissolving your fears. Earth energy is sexual energy, so this will help you develop a strong passive sexual presence.
5. Give women space. The space you leave them matters more than what you say and do. You create a space by feeling good about yourself, by feeling good about them and by not having any attachment to outcomes. You can approach women and talk to people in your daily life without trying to get from them. Throw a comment here and there. Have fun with people. Share good vibes. This non-neediness creates a fun space that draws women to you like a magnet, especially if you also have a strong sexual presence.
6. See and value femininity. Men and women are meant to complement each other in a very natural and harmonious way. Femininity has been repressed in our western society but it is still within every woman. It is up to you to see it and to encourage that part of them to manifest. In the following video, you see small glimpses of Beyonce and Shakira with very natural character. They normally look and behave very differently in front of the camera. You want to relate to the real woman inside, not to the social front-end. You rarely if ever see their vibrant and inspiring nature in Medias. A real woman is hard to find, but you can bring it out of her.
7. Go to places where you can meet new people. If you stay home, nothing is going to happen. Arrange your lifestyle so that you meet women daily, such as at events, meetings or bars. Small events where you are considered more than just a number are great to meet human beings. Some people like to meet others in coffee shops and in the streets while some others prefer to meet them in bars and clubs. See what fits you best. Don’t go out of your way to places where you think you can get women, because that vibe will repel them. Enjoy your time in places you like to go. I personally met some of the best quality women in holistic healing trainings and meetings.
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A real man is hard to find
I like your post and find some valuable points in it. I am just not sure the title is the most appropriate, I mean most men who haven't women in their lives haven't that problem because they can't find a "real" woman but because they aren't a "real" man. An issue that you start to address in your first points.
Let's not generalize about
Let's not generalize about "most men who don't have women" because we don't really know most of them, and we don't even have statistics about them.
Even if we did, the problem isn't always not "having" a woman at all, but having and consistently finding poor-quality women... flakes, princesses, girls with emotional issues, etc. I don't think Etienne's so much addressing guys who aren't finding women, but ones who have difficulty making an impression on the more high-quality women.
"consistently finding
"consistently finding poor-quality women... flakes, princesses," isn't necessarly a problem on the women side. I see princes, flaky women,... becoming very nice, caring women when interacting with a man who has the right attitude (some may call that man a "real" man, at least thats how many women refer to it).
Innocence of women
I'm surprised to realize how many men would put their life to defend the innocence of women and take all the blame on themselves. Why would you do that to yourself? Why would you want to be the powerless guy who puts women on a pedestal? Do you want to be single for the rest of your days?
P.S. I didn't choose this title. My original title was Top 7 Ways to Attract Women
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Some flaky women turn nice
Some flaky women turn nice when a guy has the right attitude and some don't.
One thing this community completely ignores is the fact that there are women out there who are just damaged goods. Doesn't make them bad people necessarily, but they have psychological or emotional issues that cause them to be flaky or behave in an emotionally draining way. And if you try and "Alpha" your way into fixing these women you're only going to make yourself miserable.
At the same time there are a lot of normal, healthy, positive women who will enrich your life without subjecting you to endless "shit tests" and bitchy, flaky behavior that you need to have "the right attitude" 24/7 to deal with. Wouldn't you rather be with one of those in the first place?
And I agree with Etienne: this attitude that it's "always the guy not manning up" is precisely the attitude that ignores the reality that some girls just have problems and they need help, not your sweet sweet lovin'.
I addressed two points in my
I addressed two points in my initial post. First point is that I found the title not fitting the article content and Etienne's choice "Top 7 Ways to Attract Women" would indeed have made more sense in my opinion. Secondly "Hard to find a Real Woman" makes me tick, many times "manning up" will give you control and it is the man duty to do so since he leads the dance. Of course I agree that some women are "desperate cases" and that dealing with that will lead to constant drama having you on your toes 24/7. However that's only rarely the case in my opinion and you can dismiss these girls if you are not up to that kind of stuff.
I don't know how rare it is
I don't know how rare it is; someone awhile back on this list pointed out that lots of women these days are complete ego maniacs, even when they aren't that hot, and that has been my experience often enough for me to say there's some truth to it.
I think maybe it's kind of a cliche by now to talk about the "man's job" to do x y and z for the woman's attitude. There are a *lot* of low-quality females out there who need to do some serious growing up. What you say is true, Christophe, you can often bring girls up to your level or at least establish some kind of authority/dominance over them. But I think the point being made here is why should you want to? There are lots of really great women out there that won't require such behavior.
It's not necessarily "desperate cases," either, lots of women are simply vain or childish. Why waste your time? Find the high-quality ones, and when the little girls grow up, then go after them.
The way I see it, although the "seduction community" has given guys a lot of previously-unheld power in the dating world, there is still an emphasis placed on the man's "job" and the role he is supposed to play to "win" women. But if he's "the prize".... shouldn't the women be the ones winning him?
Titles
Just for the record, the titles of Cliff's List newsletters are almost always eye-catching phrases taken from the article (Etienne does indeed say "A real woman is hard to find.") This is a practice that dates back to when we were publishing multiple articles in the same issue, and is part of the overall style of the newsletter. They aren't usually meant to be matter-of-fact or to "summarize" the article's theme, exceptions being things like interviews.
You're not ticking yet
> But if he's "the prize".... shouldn't the women be the ones winning him?
Bingo :)
> Secondly "Hard to find a Real Woman" makes me tick, many times "manning up" will give you control and it is the man duty to do so since he leads the dance.
That's nothing. My next article will make you tick :)