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: Stripper Number-Close on Metro- Magic: Getting Sexual
I’ve known about the Game and the Pick Up Community for about 8 years now, from its early days as the dirty derivative of NLP, through its exciting clandestine evolution into club game with routines and magic tricks, and its explosion into the mass media and public consciousness with the launch of Neil’s best selling book in 2005 (www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060554738).
Being part of what some call the “New Men’s Movement” has always been something I’ve taken pride in. It’s not often uttered, but just knowing about this stuff and belonging to some sort of “secret society” empowers you in a way disproportionate to the value of the information itself.
But if you’re like me and you’ve been involved in this community for a little while, you’re probably tired of how commercialized the community has become. With so many people pitching the same old things at you, “magic pills,” secret techniques, boring books and DVDs that promise to solve all your girl problems – the amount of hype and noise in the dating and seduction information market is deafening. The kind of money some of the gurus and the not-so-gurus charge for coaching is staggering.
It led me to wonder, what is it that we (the guys who claim to know everything there is to know about girls) really know ?
Do we really hold the secret to greater success with women ?
Will learning the information and acquiring the skills of the game lead to greater happiness in life ?
After all, that’s what we’re all seeking in the end, isn’t it ?
Let me tell you about the thoughts that have been going through my mind lately.
I've been back in my hometown for 6 months now, after 4 years of traveling the world doing short term contract jobs and mixing it up with pick up coaching and video production.
A couple of months ago I turned 30, which led to me to reflect on my life and what I’ve accomplished thus far. I look around me and I see old university and high school friends who own houses and profitable businesses earning 100k and over. Of course, there are the odd losers who live paycheck to paycheck, but amongst my non-PUA friends, they're the minority.
I have friends who are engaged, friends who’ve gotten married, and some are even popping out kids. They’re going on couples' vacations, buying Mercedes four-wheel drives, and starting wine collections. Everyone buzzes around them as if their lives are the greatest things since sliced bread. My regular (non-PUA) social circle is starting to regard settling down and starting a family as being more deserving of respect these days. My friends who go out to clubs to pick up girls (regardless of their success rate) were cool when they were 18-25 and mostly single, but these days, they're seen as the ones whom everyone looks down upon and pities.
Me, I have a girlfriend who is 10 years younger, albeit hot, but she's not really ready to settle down and do the domestic thing for at least another 5 years. She was perfect for my gallivanting days, but we have a lot of things we need to sort out before diamond rings and babies get involved.
So despite my adventures and the (many) girls I've shagged, I question the merits of its worth ... I haven't impregnated any of them, or maintained many lasting, productive relationships. Compared to many of my regular friends, I’m starting to feel like I have nothing tangible to show for all the effort.
It was like this whole pick up thing was just a way of retrieving my lost adolescent years. Now, I'm behind the eight ball in terms of becoming a fully-grown adult – with real responsibilities, owning assets and establishing a career, and being with the future mother of my children.
As PUAs, we generally spend our time and energy chasing after dumb, drunk club chicks that either never call you back, or with whom you never wanted to have a proper relationship in the first place. All that effort just to get a chance to bang her a few times at most and then hope to God you don't get her pregnant.
I used to think the guys who worked hard and accumulated a lot of wealth and then got the girl were the chodes, but then I was starting to wonder if we (the PUAs) were the misguided ones instead ?
This was particularly weighing on my mind while I was going through a rough patch with my girlfriend and facing some uncertainties career-wise given the current economic climate.
But then, while out jogging one afternoon with one of my best friends (in our effort to stem the potbelly-inducing effects of beer and aging) he told me about his older brother, Michael.
Michael was a corporate middle manager who had just gotten divorced, and then a week later lost his job at GM Finance because the company was sacking most of its workforce. As part of the divorce settlement his wife took 50% of his assets and his savings, and then another 20% of all his future earnings for child support.
At 40 years old, the once bright star of the family was now broke, unemployed and living back home with his parents.
He had married his high school sweetheart at 22, concentrated on his career while they built a home and raised a family. He thought it was going to be smooth sailing until it all came crashing down one day when his wife woke up and decided that she couldn’t stand the sight of him. He’d grown fat and lazy, as well as bald from all the stress he faced at work.
They’d grown apart. She’d lost her youthful feminine beauty and he’d become a fat slob. Now she was leaving him, taking him for all he was worth, and there was not an awful lot he could do about it.
It sounds like a horror story, but without giving it any thought I can easily list at least a handful of guys I know personally who have been in similar situations. In this day and age, with an over 50% divorce rate, it’s an all too common one.
The story jolted me back into my reality. It made me realize that I wouldn’t trade my knowledge and experiences for the combined wealth of all my friends if it meant that I had to spend the last 8 years of my life working my ass off, being miserable and lonely. As was the life I was living before discovering pick up.
The game itself teaches a lot of great principles: the realization that it is possible to make deep fundamental shifts in the way you think; destroying limiting beliefs; taking advantage of what is presented to you now; giving you insight into the way you think and how others think, and giving you the mechanics of how to actually carry it out.
On the other hand, for all its positives, there is certainly a negative side.
The game encourages obsession and isolation from other social circles. I see guys who quit university, let their work suffer, and abandon their old friends because they seem to think being good with women is all they need in order to be happy. Broke PUAs are probably much more common than you realize. My old friend Darren from London was apparently broke and homeless, picking up girls and moving in with them in order to have a bed to sleep in.
We learn the skills of the game in our quest to get laid, but in the meantime it permeates into every other area of our lives. It is a fucking amazing journey, and when you think about it, a great percentage of guys in the community are well ahead of most people in this world – who spend most of their lives half asleep to the possibilities open to them. All of us already have the tools for greatness and success; it’s just a matter of striking a balance with the other areas of your life in order to find true happiness.
Sarge on !
FR
: Stripper Number-Close on MetroI had a 2-hour fighting class tonight. All my rage gone, I'm fucking bleeding because we fought really hard. I head to Element's house to have some conversation. We discuss about our journies in the game.
Something I've also been doing lately is I only go for chicks who give me some sign of interest. No point wasting your time desperately investing energy trying to seduce some chick.
I leave his place at 11:15 p.m. I get to the Metro around 11:30 p.m. I notice a hot girl, HB9 who's standing really close to the edge of the platform. I tell myself, "Go open her man, don't be a pussy." These days, I've been a pussy about approaches, but whatever, we all have our ups and downs. What I usually do is come up with a very in-the-moment opener and then approach. The opener I wanted to use was, "Hey, I'm curious, do you always stand so close to the edge ?" Not the best, but who cares, because I pussied out anyway lol.
So at some point she looks at me (IOI#1.) Guys, I looked like shit tonight (ask Element). Bloodshot eyes (not weed, just too much exercise and fatigue,) dressed in dirty jogging pants, hands bleeding a bit. I look away when she looks at me, but I don't start feeling guilty because I didn't smile. I think to myself, fuck it, who cares. When the metro arrives, she has the choice to take either of the wagons. She takes the one I go in. I lean back against the doors (she comes and sits across from me – IOI#2.) She looks at me again (IOI#3.) I look at her and I smile. She completely ignores me and looks away. I go and lean against the doors on her side. Now, I'm next to her and looking at what she's doing. Nothing special. I'm still too much of a pussy to open (and it's weird because I've pulled so much from buses, metros, coffee shops, etc.) Then I get off, and as I'm getting off she bumps into me (IOI#4) and I notice she's still going in the same direction as me. I think to myself, man I should open with, "Excuse me, are you following me ?" But I pussy out. This is bad.
We go up the stairs and she looks at me again (IOI#5.) This time I've had it, I should probably get slapped for asking a girl to give me that many IOIs. I tap her on the shoulder and go in with the classic cheap pick-up line that still somehow works: "Excuse me, do we know each other? You look familiar."
escalation.) What's your name by the way ?. At some point I ask her to shake my hand and she's like:
I just text her with, "Hey, just making sure I got your # right, my phone's weird - PZN" (I made this line up because they always text back. Not only does it break the ice for texting a stranger, but she now has your number and will save it.)
She texted back "Yup. It's me."
Anyway guys, if there's one lesson to be learned here, it's don't be a pussy lol. But for real, go for the chicks that give you IOIs, don't waste your time.
I notice also I say the words fuck and shit a lot when I talk to girls. To some extent, it's masculine; to another extent, it's just useless language. I also call them dude a lot, and that sort of creates the vibe that they're just another guy.
Getting Sexual
Are you someone who talks to women for hours without getting sexual ? Do you wait for the right opportunity so you can initiate touching ? Do you believe, or have you been told, that women do not like to be touched until they get to know you ?
I have been observing for a long time now that lots of guys are afraid to get sexual with women. They will approach a woman and talk to her for hours then leave the set feeling accomplished. I call this “emotional masturbation.” You just enjoy the validity from the woman and you do not want to risk losing it by trying to get sexual.
Big freakin mistake !
You have to risk losing her to get her !
I know this because I have done it myself for the longest time. I started from a place where no woman wanted to talk to me. As a consequence, any time a woman opened up to me, I would do everything to ensure I did not fuck up. This was a very bad thing to do.
First, I was sub-communicating to myself that a woman would not be interested in getting sexual with me. Which also translated to: I am not good enough. Second, by assuming that women did not like to get sexual, I was sub-communicating to women that I did not understand them and that a relationship with me would be a boring drag. As a result, very often a woman would get bored out of her mind and things died. Yes, granted, it felt good at times that a woman talked to me for an hour, but that did not land me a lay or a girlfriend.
All this made me frustrated ! I had been going out for months and no lay. Forget getting laid. I wasn’t even getting a kiss or a date. And I cannot tell you how many guys are making the same mistake over and over.
Let me settle this for you once and for all:
Women are sexual beings. Hesitate to get sexual with them and lose them to another guy, or end the set with no result ! Stop emotional masturbation !
Start touching women as soon as possible and keep advancing with physical escalation. I usually never open the set unless I have already touched a woman. If for logistical reasons I could not touch her prior to opening her, then I will touch her within the first 15-30 seconds of my interaction with her. I will establish strong and extended eye contact from the very beginning. I want her to know I am confident, sexual and want to have her. I am not ashamed of this and I know she enjoys it. I would rather have my set end in 2 minutes and move on to the next girl who would respond to my sexual advances than waste my evening with this woman who wouldn’t get sexual with me for X number of reasons.
My students are completely blown away when they see women chasing me in groups. Yes, in groups. They are amazed when they see girls making out with me right in front of their boyfriends.
The secret to my success: I get sexual right away. I start touching right away. I establish strong extended eye contact right away. I read her signals and calibrate. I get 2-3 positive responses, then I go for the kiss. Depending on my goal and situation, I try to pull her to the bathroom or my place. Worst case, I set up a day 2.
Do not hesitate to get sexual and keep pushing things forward. This is the only way you will get any results.
Good Luck !
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