The Hidden Attractor
Let me introduce myself. My name is Steven Burns, and I am not some tall, dark, handsome, naturally silver-tongued smooth talker who has always been known to have “the gift of the gab” in every social situation he has ever graced. I’m not some flamboyant, flashy extrovert who is constantly the life and soul of the party. I don’t have the charisma of a Bill Clinton or a Barrack Obama, and I’m not a relationship or PUA
guru …
After suddenly becoming single at the age of 30 two years ago, I set my mind to studying what works when it comes to being comfortable with who you are, and radiating attraction from the inside out irrespective of looks, age or gender. Someone who effortlessly makes new friends, genuinely adds value to people’s lives, and generates regular sexual interest from the opposite sex …
I was looking for the differences that made the difference … the most important elements when it came to doing all of the above ...
Add to that the fact that for the last 10 years I have been helping people make changes in their lives using a combination of NLP, coaching and hypnotherapy, and that I currently run one of the leading NLP Training companies in Scotland, and it puts me in an unusually unique position to help you make some changes from the inside out and become more attractive than you ever thought possible.
Over the past 2 years I’ve modeled top PUAs, actors, celebrities, flirt coaches, and international authorities on charisma. What I found was that, while they all possess many different skills and traits, a common theme runs through all of them …
Something that all the supremely attractive people I’ve ever met seem to have ...
Something that actually has nothing to do with looks, age, gender, race or creed, and that we all possess to a certain extent without even realizing it ...
Something that is also independent of social and conversational skills …
It’s what I call the hidden attractor …the thing that people can’t quite put their finger on, but are left in no doubt after meeting you that they feel …
The thing that draws people to you before you even say a word …
And it’s this that I’m going to share with you right now …
To explain, let me tell you about a sticking point I used to have that took me a long time to figure out …
About a year ago, I found myself in a strange situation. I found that I could attract plenty of women only, but there was one small problem …
None of them were the ones I really wanted.
It was kind of weird. For some reason or another I could be attractive and create lots of opportunities with women that I wasn’t really that into, but when it came to the ones that I did like I would turn into a stuttering wreck, come across as needy, stop being myself, and completely blow it … time and time again.
You can relate to this, right ?
Even more interesting was the fact that I had reached the stage where I would only interact with the ones I wasn’t really attracted to, and completely avoid the ones that did attract me as if they were some kind of alien species.
So I decided to do some research. I asked as many people as I could about this irrational behavior and, strangely enough, every one of them said that at some level they could relate to it. I did some further research with people on dating sites, and they said pretty much the same thing: that they felt safe and at ease when they were talking to people they weren’t that attracted to (provided that it wasn't some weirdo) but when it came to someone who really did it for them, something bizarre came over them that stopped them being themselves, and they would invariably blow it.
So I examined a bit closer this “bizarre thing” that came over people (and of course myself) in these situations and found something really interesting …
I found that when people feel out of sorts, nervous or anxious around people they are attracted to and are interested in, it’s because they’ve bought into the illusion—the fabrication—that they are of significantly lower worth and / or value than the person or people they are talking with, or that there is the potential for something to happen that could result in them experiencing a sudden drop in their social value / worth.
They've bought into the whole “Oh my God, because you’re so stunningly beautiful that means I am not worthy” myth.
Now I’m not saying that they moped about all day feeling unworthy and of no value. Most of the time their sense of self-worth and value remained intact until they met someone they were really attracted to and interested in. Then, all of a sudden, the illusion would kick in and they would start acting strangely and blow it …
I then did some research into relationships as well, both successful relationships and ones that had failed, and the theme of worth and value cropped up again … only, this time, in a slightly different way ...
I found that when attraction and interest begins to fade in a relationship, it’s because one or both of the partners stop seeing the other person’s worth and value to the relationship. Either they stop believing in each other’s value, take it for granted, or just get lazy and stop contributing to each other’s lives …
So this is what I mean when I talk about the hidden attractor ...
Your ability to attract and draw the women you want into your life is dependent on the amount of value and worth you exude from the inside out …
This is what all the top PUA’s have that others don’t. They genuinely believe that they will offer significantly more value to the women they are gaming than the women will offer them. Yes, they have the conversation skills, the ability to flirt, tease and seduce, but these count for absolutely nothing if they are not coming from a place of genuine recognition of the amazing value they offer to the world.
So if you’re in the position where you’ve learned a ton of openers, memorized a load of routines, and know the intricacies of seduction inside out, but still aren’t generating the type of attraction you want with the type of women you want, the answer is simple.
And if you are new to the game and just starting to learn some material, again, the answer is simple …
You will have to fully recognize and raise your internal sense of self worth and value.
Because in the long term, you will only really ever get with the women that you feel you deserve …
So it’s time to genuinely recognize and believe that you deserve more, and give off that vibe from every pore of your body …
When you reach that place of genuine recognition of your own true self worth and value (not just faking it until you make it) it’s actually very difficult to not generate attraction, and you will notice an instant difference in the quality of women you attract.
Everything you do and say from this place will have exponentially more power and impact …
And the really good thing is, it’s not even so much a question of starting this from scratch. No matter who you are, you already have a huge untapped reservoir of self-worth and value that you haven’t been giving yourself credit for up until now.
Training and Coaching companies in Scotland. He has trained and coached hundreds of individuals and groups helping them overcome challenges and get more of what they want from life., coaching and hypnosis, you will get the benefit of my 10 years experience and learn the true secrets to inner social confidence and recognition of your own value & worth so that you can start attracting the ones you really want.
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If that's true...
If that's true, why do we even need pick up? You've got a point, sure, but you make it sound like just having the right attitude is going to make all the pretty women come running to you. Hot girl is just like any other girl. You want her, you get her. Girls like to be flirted with, teased, seduced. Attitude counts but what you have said here applies to finding a job or meeting any other goal. Over and above that you need a precise set
of skills to get the job done.
Nice
Some ways on how to raise your vaule would be greatly helpful, value is soooo important.
tekniko, Of course your
tekniko, Of course your absolutely right...your sense of internal value and worth is not the only thing that attracts woman...Skill set
and knowledge of social dynamics are very important. My point is that a lot of people use pick up from the wrong place...If the techniques and skills are used from a place of low value (on the inside) they'll work to a certain extent but you won't be getting the results you really want in the long term. (unless of course you are a very good actor). When they are used from a place of genuine recognition of your own high value, worth and contribution to the woman then all the flirting, teasing and seducing becomes significantly more powerful.
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yeah it's so true Steven ! In fact ,this has happened to me so many times and at first iwas really really confused.Then Vin DiCarlo made me realised in his ebook and at David DeAngelo's seminar that it's how you think that really counts. It's how you think that is at the root of all this because when you are not interested ina particular girl but it is this girl that is attracted to you, it's because you were projecting the real 'you' and you got into that bodylanguage that says all the right things about you. But this is not the case for me when i'm talking to a hot girl because i'm always thinking about what she thinks of me and that of course makes her go away because i'm now communcating through some sort of persona and i start to look strange. The thing that i do now when this happens is that i start to constantly draw my attention to the present but when i do this, the woman who i am interacting to, starts to get a little nervous which i don't know why. Why is that?