I'm Not The Relationship Kinda Guy

There were five of them, three brunettes and two blondes. I had shared my bed with them all at one point or another, and a couple of them were still making the occasional visit to my bedroom in the late hours of the night. The fifth one, a girl that I saw several times a week for the entire last year, whispered into my ear, “We’ve all been talking about you all night, she’s ready to go when you are.”

“She” was the sixth girl, a brunette I’d met at a party a week earlier and talked to for a few minutes. Earlier that night, the six girls had all been gathered together, drinking wine and talking about boys. My playmates had shared their stories about me and done it in such a way that when I hugged the sixth girl, she grabbed my hand and didn’t let go.

We left two hours later and walked back to my apartment. Why two hours ? Because I was doing an in-field workshop and didn’t really have time to talk to her until then.

This is an example of social seduction at its finest. Your friends, and in this case your female friends that you have been or are currently sleeping with, actually help you pick up the girls that you like. I’m not going to lie, there are a million things that go into creating this kind of lifestyle and I couldn’t possibly cover it all in one e-mail, but I will try to cover some of the major elements of it in a few emails to Cliff’s List so that you can start building this lifestyle yourself.

This article will cover one of the most basic things that you need to have figured out in order to live this way: namely, how to establish open and honest sexual relationships with the girls you meet.

In order to successfully see more than one girl without having to live a double (triple, quadruple, etc.) life, there is one thing that is absolutely critical ... open and honest communication.

Too many guys out there have a tendency to avoid having “the talk” about what their relationship with the girls they are seeing really is. They figure that if they just don’t talk about it, just don’t see her very often and just don’t introduce her to their friends, she’ll figure out that it’s not a serious relationship. This often leads to frustration, annoyances and hurt feelings. Personally, I have the talk the first night I’m with a new girl.

“There is something you should know about me. I really like you, and I want to get to know you even better than I already do. But you should know that I’m not the relationship kinda guy, and that’s not what I’m looking for here. I really do want to see you more and explore everything that we can explore together, but please don’t try to put me in the category of potential boyfriends, cause I just don’t fit in there. If it’s a boyfriend you’re looking for, let me know, I’ve got plenty of handsome buddies (wink).”

This little snippet of conversation is something I repeat with pretty much every girl I go to bed with that I want to see again, and if done early enough, it gets accepted across the board. The girls realize that this is a freebie, this is a guy they can have fun with, enjoy their time with, have great sex with and not have to worry about being clingy or needy. That’s a pretty good deal for anyone.

In addition to this, your honesty from the get-go will inspire a trust in you unparalleled to any no-strings-attached relationship she might have had previously. The one thing I hear most often from the girls I see is, “Everything is so easy with you, TJ, I always know exactly what to expect. No games.”

This might seem too simple, but it’s not. It is exactly as simple as it should be. It’s honest, straight-forward and it prevents drama and conflicts that can ruin great relationships.

If you really want to master this art of establishing open relationships, take a look at my completely free e-book !