How To Make Your Girl Want To Have Threesomes

Do not focus on the topic of threesomes too early in the relationship, and if it comes up, make sure you don't spend much more time on it than on other topics. Unless, of course, she's already a fun girl, in which case you're one lucky SOB.

The pieces that you see below should be used over time, and definitely not in a single conversation.

When she asks you, "Have you ever had a threesome ?" feel free to steal from Mr. Big and say "Hasn't everyone ?" Your girl probably hasn't.

When the topic comes up, explain to her that there are 3 kinds of threesomes. One that usually doesn't end well for the relationship, and two that can be a lot of fun for everyone, and also feel emotionally right.

1. Sometimes, when a girl is trying rescue a relationship that is falling apart, she'll try to arrange a threesome, when they have never had one. Bad idea. This way, the process of relationship break-down will be accelerated. This is not the way to do it.

2. When things "just happen" between a guy and two girls, neither of whom has a long-term desire for the guy. This is just for fun, healthy and great for everyone. Plain and simple.

3. When one girl really likes the guy (you look your gal straight in the eye as you say that), and the other is just there for the ride. Now, the important thing is to know who's who, so that the special girl knows that this is something to enrich their relationship (which is already very good), and to make sure the other girl understands there will be no 1-on-1 with the guy at a later time.

This way, you're also showing her that you know what you're talking about. This makes her understand that it may be important to you, and also that you have lived though it, so she'll be more comfortable.

At this point you may hear some objections from your girl. This is great. The ones I hear most often are:

"But it is very difficult to find a girl who would agree to such a setup."

"But there's so few girls who would do it..."

That's great, because then you say:

"Perhaps, but think of how much more special a girl like that would be, if she had allowed them to share such an incredible experience."

You also need to make her understand what a threesome means to you. In particular, what it means emotionally. It can go something like this:

"I have several friends who claim it is possible to have a deep relationship with more than one woman. It may work for them, but I have found out that it is not true for me. Yes, I am a man, and by my nature I am designed to have sex with many women. But I found that there is a finite amount of emotional bonding energy that I have, and I always end up getting
emotionally involved with just one girl (and again, you look her in the eyes)."

(This may depend on your own tastes, but the below is true of me.)

"You see, of all the kinks that we have talked about, I think there are many that are quite a turn on, at least to talk about. But there's one that really is my favorite: I really do enjoy having threesomes. Especially when they are shared with someone I really like."

If she understood everything you said and she really wants to win you over, then the topic will come up again. When it does … here's what you do.

Some girls will be more comfortable with picking up a stranger at a bar. Suggest that, and see how she reacts. If she's socially savvy and comfortable at bars / clubs, this is likely to be her preferred option.

Some girls would prefer someone from your extended social circle. Perhaps someone who has been your friend with benefits. This is because your girl may be afraid of catching a disease from a stranger, for one.

Just make sure to explain why it will never work between you and that friend.

For example:

"You see, I have a hardcore lesbian friend who calls me a few times a year. Physically she's great, but since she's a lesbian, there's no chemistry between us."

Personally, I prefer pre-planned threesomes, where you orchestrate everything and you let each girl know a bit about the other. (Emailing pics works, no need to make them add each other on Facebook.) Then, once you've got the ACK ...

So far, you've shown your girl that you've had this experience before, that it will be beneficial to your relationship (you bet it will be !), and that you'll make sure it all will happen and end well. She'll be afraid, especially if it's her first time. Put her at ease.

Walk her over the experience. Tell her what your fantasies are and what you'd like to definitely try, and what the boundaries are.

Just make sure she'll let you fuck the other girl. If she's resisting, then either she's just not a viable candidate, or you haven't provided enough motivation for her, or haven't put her mind at ease. Sell her on the experience.

Instead of "no sex" with the other girl, you can agree to a more emotionally important rule "no kissing" with the other girl. But allow your girl to make out with the other.

Your girl may feel less threatened if you pick up the other girl at a bar / club and you never exchange any contact information. If that's what it takes to have a threesome, no problem. Agree to it.

Get information on any bi-sexual experiences your girl might have had. Has she ever kissed a girl at a club ? Has she grabbed a girl's boobs ? Does she have an appreciation for the beauty of feminine body ?

Your girl can be straight and that's still fine. At a minimum, she only needs to have sex with you, and possibly let the other girl play with her. Tell her that if that's what she's okay with, no problem.

Tell her "The game plan is we have a drink, we chill, we talk, if nothing more happens, I'll just fuck you really hard that night ;)"

Promise her everything will be all right. After all, the first rule of hanging out with you (or at your place) is: "Everybody has to have a great time. Nothing else is allowed."

I always meet with girls at my place, in general, whenever possible. That is assuming you're not doing the "bar pick up" version.

If your girl is really into it and in her mind she has already decided to do it, leaving the apartment to go somewhere else is counterproductive. If you do have to go out, I usually pick a place with a wide couch (make a reservation !) where all 3 of you can fit, and where you smoke shisha. This way we can drink and pass smoke mouth-to-mouth.

Important: Do not stand in the way of their getting to know each other. Girls will interact differently and get comfortable much faster when you are notaround. After 15 minutes or so, have an excuse to leave for at least 20 minutes. At my place, I go grab another bottle of wine at corner store. At a shisha place you can go to the bathroom, then get some fresh air and call a friend or two while outside.

Back at your place (if you're not there all that time), provide lots of booze. Something each of them likes, that goes down easily and is strong. My favourite mix is: Baileys, vodka, and coconut liquor in a martini glass. Cherry and whip cream optional. But if your other girl is a lesbian she may prefer beer. Don't drink as much yourself !

I usually do it sometime soon after I came back from the 20 minutess away. The girls are comfortable now and it's time to start the party. It can be as easy as grinning at them uncontrollably and then when they ask why, telling them you took Viagra or Cialis (whether this is true does not matter).

Or you can go physical. When the "other" girl leaves for the bathroom (and they always do) you get hot and heavy with the primary one. The other girl will come back and see you making out. Invite her in. You can start touching her while making out with your primary. The point is you're creating a link (through you).

Escalate from there, e.g. put your girl's hand on other girl's boobs (it may help if your own hand has been there just moments ago). It's great if the girls kiss, but not necessary.

Then escalate more and more, and have lots and lots of fun !

If the girls are into each other, you can usually let them play for awhile and just watch. Most of the time they will want you
to be there, though. You've rehearsed with your girl what you want to do, so you should have a plan in your head. Use it.

Girls will be looking to you to provide the direction. Move them around, suggest to them what to do. It is OK to ask them questions about whether they'd be OK with something or not if you're not sure. At this point the games have begun, the sails are up. You as the captain need to make sure sailing is both interesting and smooth for everybody.

After sex like this, girls feel like they have "given." And they did. Reward them. Yes, you need to focus on your primary girl, but you don't want the other girl to feel cheap. You can whisper to your primary "Julie shared so much with us today, I just want to make sure she's feeling great too, is that OK with you ?"

Then go and hug or cuddle with the other girl. Take your primary's hand and kiss it while doing so. You're there now to emotionally soothe and calm down both of them. Make sure it's a joined experience, and nobody feels left out.

By the way, do you want the other girl to stay? (It's kind of cool if you have a large bed !) Is your primary girl OK with that ? What did she say when you were planning ? Even if she said "No, she can't stay" before, she may change her mind afterward. Ask again, and be tactful.

Otherwise get the other girl a cab, make sure to extend all allowed pleasantries, emphasize how a unique experience it was, make sure she leaves with good memories. Call her the next day, if your deal with your main girl allowed that.

Your girl will likely want to see you again, soon after the experience. Perhaps she'd like to spend another night at your place in a row (if that's not usual for your stage of relationship), or maybe she'll want to come by 3 days later instead of the usual weekly visit. The fact is, she'll want to reaffirm that you're still hers, so let her.

The next time around ask her about the parts she liked best, the parts that were surprising. And in the sack … give her a great ride. She's a great gal, she deserves it !