Maybe She Was A Lesbian

I know – it’s crazy. Am I going to tell you that you will actually get laid more by telling women the truth (I.E., that you are there for sex) ?

Yea, you read that right. Aren’t you guys tired of lying to women ? I’m not just talking about the outright lies like “Uh, yeah, I make 100k a year” or “I used to date a model.” I’m talking about the one big lie we’re all living every day.

What am I talking about ? I’m talking about all of us men walking around and talking to women like having sex with them is the last thing on our minds.

You all know what I’m talking about. You’re standing behind some cutie in the grocery store and you say, “Hey, that’s a lot of groceries !” and she says, “Yeah … we all gotta eat !” … and you say, “Yep.”

And then nothing.

You’re at a bus stop ... there’s some cute woman standing around. “Do you know how long till the next bus ?”

“Yea, should be here in a few minutes.”

“Ah that’s a relief, I thought we’d be out here all day !”

And then nothing.

Or … in any one of a million situations:

“Hey, nice day out there isn’t it ?”

“Yeah, it’s beautiful today.”

“Hope it keeps up !”

“Yup.”

Come on, guys. You don't care about the weather ! What you’re really thinking is “God damn, you’re hot as fuck. I’d like to kick those groceries out of your hands and make sweet love to you right here on this counter !”

And hey, that’s assuming you’re making the effort at all. Some of you will just sit around and stare at women. In either case, you know what you really want to say.

You’re thinking you’d like to tell her she’s hot as all hell, and that you’d like to take her out for a drink sometime ... but for some reason, you don’t …

How about this one: you’ve been “friends” with a woman you’re attracted to for weeks, months, or even years. Are you still hoping to “Get in there ?”

You want to say … ”Hey, listen. I think you’re hot. I’d like nothing more than to go to bed with you, and exchange orgasms with you for hours on end.”

That’s probably what you’re really thinking. But you never tell ‘em what you’re really thinking – do you ?

Why not ?

Probably like the vast majority of men, you don’t believe you can be honest and upfront with women about your intentions. You probably think if you came up to a woman and expressed sexual intent, she’d go ape shit. To say something that “crazy” would result in the woman calling the police, swearing at you, or her trying to kick you in the nuts !

What if I told you the probability of any of those things happening is near zero ? In reality, nothing could be further from the truth.

In fact, most women are extremely flattered to be approached in this manner. If they have a boyfriend, they often apologize profusely for not being able to go out on a date with you. In either case they are flattered, happy … and more often than not, willing to have a bit of a chat.

The vast majority of women are tired of their romantic prospects beating around the bush, making nice, and trying to be their “friends.”

Do you really think women don’t know what you’re really after in all of those scenarios ? Let’s not underestimate the fairer sex, fellas. Women aren’t stupid. In fact, they are much better at figuring out “what’s really going on” than we are.

If you approach a woman directly, and let her know you’re interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with her, there are only 3 things that can happen. Yes, yes … I know ... I can hear you all thinking, “Ok sure … but what if she rejects me ?”

Fine then. Let’s start with …

The Worst Case Scenario: she rejects you.

So what ? Who cares ? Does it really matter what some woman you don’t even know thinks ? That took 10 seconds of your time. Big deal. Now you know where you stand, and you can move on to the next woman ! Even the women that turn you down will appreciate your directness, as it wastes a lot less of their time, as well as a lot less of yours !

Next best scenario … and this is what will happen the vast majority of the time: women will be interested in chatting to you and getting to know you better. In other words, “Maybe …”

From here, just have a chat and see if you’ve got some chemistry going with the woman. Make sure to keep your eye on the prize and never forget that you’re trying to get her to agree to meet up with you at some point in the future. Don’t let yourself veer off into uninteresting small talk. Your conversation should be focused on getting to know her and figuring out what similarities you’ve got ... but ultimately you should be trying to find out if there’s a “click” or not !

The best case scenario, of course … is that she agrees to your proposition ! Get her number and arrange a time to meet up – or better yet, go on a date with her right there and then ! You never know, you might even end up in bed with her that very same night ! Hey – some women are not only available, buy horny and sexually promiscuous ! Fantastic.

If you do get her number, stick around and chat with her a little bit afterwards though, just to make sure you have at least a bit of chemistry. Otherwise you may get stuck on a date with a woman you don’t even fancy !

There are several advantages to being upfront with women.

Balls Points – as soon as you have the audacity to approach a woman and let her know what your true intentions are – you get massive points for having the balls to do so. Very few men will approach women in this matter. If you don’t go back to acting like a wuss after this – this alone can get you into bed with a beautiful girl !

Women Are Instantly Attracted to You – Most guys aren’t confident enough to approach directly unless they’re really drunk. By going up to a woman and saying what you really feel, you generate tons of attraction in most women automatically.

Stand Out From Other Guys – By approaching directly, you’ll set yourself apart from all the guys who use cheesy pick-up lines or faff around with indirect nonsense.

No Room for Manipulation - Another great advantage with telling the truth is that it doesn’t leave room for you to be manipulated by women. How can you get stuck in the friend zone buying her drinks and dinners when you’ve made it abundantly clear that you’re interested in a sexual relationship ? You can’t.

No More Wasted Time - Don’t waste time on women that aren’t interested. The faster you find out she’s not interested, the more time you have to talk to women who are interested. Fantastic ! Ever have a 30 minute conversation with a woman you were interested in, only to find out she had a husband / boyfriend ? Or maybe she was a lesbian ? Or just simply wasn’t interested ? I have – and it’s really annoying ! When you let a woman know what you’re after, she’s forced to let you know.

Know What to Say Next - When you’re upfront, you have to worry a lot less about what to say next. If you know what you want, and the woman knows what you want ... then you’ve always got something to talk about. You and her hooking up. You don’t have to worry so much about small talk because you know where the conversation is leading.

So … next time you see a gorgeous woman, what should you do ?

Tell her exactly what you’re thinking – and what you want ! It’s not about any specific lines, as long as your intent is clear. Some random examples:

“Excuse me, you look absolutely amazing. I’d like to get to know you … when are we hooking up ?”

“Damn woman, you are fine ! Are you married ? No ? We should get together sometime. When are you available … ?”

Or, if you want to add in a bit of humour, you can use one of my classic lines:

Or, as Alan Roger Currie would do:

“I think you are very attractive, and very sexy. So … when would you like to share my company (in order to exchange orgasms)* … next Friday, or next Saturday ?”

* Comment in parentheses only for ultra-bold “advanced player” types

Many women will be immediately turned on by you being confident enough to approach them in this manner. By showing that you’re man enough to express your true desires and intentions, not only will she have more respect for you, she will furthermore appreciate your honesty. She will either tell you she’s not interested, agree to the date, or (in most cases) engage you in a conversation in order to determine whether or not she’s interested.

Either way, you manned up, told the truth, and laid it all out on the line ... like a man. And that’s a great place to start !

Good luck, and good hunting !

P.S. - Massive shout out to Alan Roger Currie and David X for continually instilling in me the lessons and philosophies of the Direct mindset !