I'm Going To Charge You For These Kisses

I was born and raised in France by North African parents. What you probably don’t know is that as recently as 5 to 10 years ago, entry to night clubs was refused if you were black or from North Africa. So, until my 24th year when I moved to the United Kingdom, I had never really been inside a night club in my entire life. It’s absolutely true.

At the same time, I discovered the Mystery Method and got excited by the idea of picking up women in clubs. Unfortunately, my English wasn’t so good at the time, and I also felt insecure talking to women in a loud environment. So I stopped trying to “open,” women and went to the only place in the club where I felt confident: the dance floor.

In less than a year, I counted almost 40 nights out. In 40 nights out, I got 34 kiss-closes on the dance floor, often with minimal or no talking.

Unfortunately, there are two myths about the dance floor: “the dance floor is a trap” and “I have to know how to dance to pick up women on the dance floor.”

Because of the strong impact of the Mystery Method few years ago, most guys who discovered the game and started this community internalized the idea that the dance floor is place to avoid ... when in fact it’s not.

Don’t fall for these two myths. Success on the dance floor has nothing to do with dancing skills. Anybody with basic dancing skills can be successful on the dance floor.

The number one rule is to make sure you are in a club with music you really enjoy. You will look more relaxed and you will feel good. It’s hard to fake enjoyment on the dance floor.

It’s important how you approach on the dance floor. Always approach from the side and never from behind.

The dance floor is one of the more popular spots to meet hot women for sex and one night stands. They are there for the taking. Take your pick ! The dance floor provides a perfect setting for meeting women. It’s a vibrant and exciting atmosphere, and most of the women are hot. It’s simply a matter of approaching and engaging them. That’s all there is to it.

A lot of guys make the mistake of going to the dance floor and just staring at women. They stroll up and down the floor not smiling or enjoying themselves. They don’t even properly engage a girl that catches their eye. They just don’t have the guts to approach.

What’s really sad is that these women are there to have a good time and attract the opposite sex. Why do you think they are moving their bodies like that ? To turn you on and show off their assets.

So be bold and aggressive, and you’ll be surprised how easy it is to pick up women on the dance floor.

The lowest risk approach is to make eye contact with your target and high five her. Then simply spin her. Don’t forget to smile and to look playful. From there, you can escalate smoothly.

One advantage of dance floor game is that you can do it anywhere, anytime, and it’s always fun. Of course you can approach at the bar, but remember that dance floor game is one of the fastest ways to get physical with a woman. A good approach on the dance floor can get you laid faster. As a matter of fact, most women subconsciously associate dancing with sex.

Another thing to consider is that it’s a very useful skill to attract girls who don’t speak your language. I live in Europe where most of the girls barely speak English, but they all love to dance.

While doing my dance game, I always follow the same model.

As soon as I get into the club, I head straight for the dance floor. I don’t look at the ladies. I don’t go buy a drink or anything.

I just head to the center of the dance floor and enjoy myself for the first 10-15 minutes. If you are with a group of friends, go there together. It will accelerate the attraction process.

I just keep dancing to the music. I don’t look at the ladies at all. I don’t even try to dance with them. It’s as if I were all alone in my own little world just dancing.

I can tell you that you will get noticed very quickly when you do this, because 95% of the men who are on the dance floor are not really dancing. They’re staring at the women. They try to grind behind them, or try to make eye contact.

It’s when you become a guy who just doesn’t care, who is in his own world and his own reality, that you stand out on the dance floor.

After 10 to 15 minutes, I look around the dance floor and try to catch a group of guys or a mixed group who seem to be really enjoying themselves. When I spot these people, I approach them.

Basically, what I’m trying to do is engage and become friendly with them. Just act like you have met a good old friend. Trust me, people are friendly. You’ll rarely be rejected if you are congruent. The image I want to convey is: I’m cool and sociable. I’m on the dance floor to have fun and I don’t care about girls.

When you do that with 2 or 3 groups on the dance floor, what you’ll usually notice is that all the women on the dance floor will be attracted to you. They’ll just start to dance right next to you.

All of the sudden, you’ll have all these women around you. You can then approach because you are socially proofed.

Because I only practice dance floor game, I like noisy clubs. But if dance floor game is just a part of your seduction arsenal and you like to use normal game, then make sure that the music is at a reasonable level, or you'll be in trouble.

One question that I get asked all the time is: “After kissing a girl on the dance floor, what do I do next ?” Well, relax and don’t make out too much. That way she will not feel slutty and it will all be normal. That’s why she’ll see you again. Be cocky-funny (for instance, “I’m going to charge you for these kisses.”) Leave her alone, have fun with your friends and then come back.

Don’t change your attitude ! Remember: you are here to have fun. Just take some time to engage her friends and build some rapport with her. There are enough materials out there that teach this. Use what works best for you.