I Laugh And Say, “You’re Welcome.”

Four weeks ago, I started hanging with a friend of a friend. She lives in the area, and once in awhile she'll text me to see if there is anything going on. She's attractive, but I feel no vibe with her in that way. We get along really well, but I just want to keep a social vibe with her. She's 30, but only had one real boyfriend whom she's still getting over. She's into shaggy haired hipster rockers, also.

I think it was Valentine's weekend, and all the singles were itching to do something. Plans fell through for other things, so she just decided to invite some people to her place and go out afterward.

I was the first one to arrive, but later, two other people come in ... a guy I'd met once before, and another a girl whom she's really good friends with. I'll call her HBFunsexy. She introduces herself as Joe with a smirk, and my friend tells me her real name. I think, OK, she's into the teasing. She asks me now how I know the mutual friend. I tell her craigslist casual encounters, which always gets a laugh. HBFriend is adding to the joke, too.

We hang out for an hour and we chat a bit as a group, talking about whatever. Boys and relationships and sex come up, and everyone is teasing each other, but mostly the guys are teasing the girls. I like it when girls are immediately comfortable talking about sex without it feeling weird. At one point one of them says, “You know what song I like ? That song 'Fuck the Pain Away,' that's a great song.” Then they start playing youtube digital shorts like “I Just Had Sex,” “Jizz In My Pants” and “Mother Lover.”

At this point 80% of the conversation is sex related. The important thing in my mind was that I was socially accepted by the group, and fun sex-related topics came up, which made it fun and flirty.

I suggest we go to my favorite hang out, because I feel comfortable there. On the walk there, the teasing continues in between the regular conversation. At one point, HBFunsexy is walking ahead of us and HBFriend pinches her ass. I say “Sorry, that was me,” then walk ahead and pinch the guy's ass, too. A few seconds later, HBFunsexy pinches my ass for good measure.

I text a friend to say where we are going, and suggest that he meet us there.

When we get there they go to the coat check, and I go say hi to the bartender who is working on her own. She’s a club pal and is always nice to me. She takes my coat and I buy us a shot. We shoot the breeze for a while and HBFriend finds me and tells me they are at the other side.

My friend shows up and we all are hanging out together in the bar, 3 guys and two girls. The girls were in a fun mood and HBFunsexy was very flirty. My friend told me later she was giving hard IOIs to him, too. She was just out to have fun and was obviously very comfy with these guys she just met.

At one point in the night, my friend asked me to go with him to open some cute girls who were sitting down. I must give respect to my friend, as he had already walked around with HBFriend’s guy pal and they opened some people. My friend has a very cool, relaxed, friendly vibe and a million dollar smile (I hate my smile, so I always find it hard opening with a smile).

I was having fun where I was, but I figured sure, why not ? He went up and opened them while I stood nearby. I was checking the room out, and he came back right away and told me to open them. I was a bit uncomfortable since he just did, and they saw us come together. I’m also not sure how they reacted to him since I was looking elsewhere. But I was already there, so I thought ok, what the hell, I’m having a good time.

I come up to them and say, “Hi guys, my friend here wants me to ask if you are having a good time.” I don’t remember how I said it, but I probably approached them with a shy vibe and they felt sorry for me, or else they thought it was funny that another guy had just asked them that. Anyway, one of the girls smiled and said “Yes, we are having a good time,” in a very friendly tone.

I immediately called shenanigans and was faux-angry. “What ? No way. You have nowhere to go from 9, really, so you’re saying that sitting here is a 9 ? What if Brad Pitt walked in and started hitting on you ? That’s a 10 ? There’s no in between !”

At that point, I was surprised the interaction went as friendly and as well as it did. I was so stunned that I just reverted to AFC and turned to my friend said, “OK, can I go now ?” (What a tool me is !)

I went back to the two girls and they were buying shots (my friend bought everyone a round earlier because he’s just that pimp). The two girls were talking, I spoke to HBFunsexy for a bit, then switched places to talk to HBFriend. We were talking about her ex, blah blah (the pattern emerges: drunk, starts talking about ex). HBFunsexy comes back to my side and says, “Hey I’m starting to get jealous here, guys.”

At some point, every interaction I have with HBFunsexy is sexually framed. She turns to HBFriend and the guy friend, and I just lean in close behind her and she just starts pushing her ass against my crotch and is lightly grinding. From this point it's logistics. She lives right near HBFriend.

I buy her a shot and say, “OK, this shot is on me, you can me owe me next time ...”

She immediately says her place is messy, and I say I don’t care about that.

Fast forward to end of the night. We make out for a few seconds outside the club while everyone is still inside. She says again that her place is messy. I reassure her that it's not a big deal.

The group grabs a bite to eat and we say bye to the guy. I part with my friend, telling him I that I’m going home with HBFunsexy. We walk HBFriend to her street and go back to her place.

Within 2 minutes of banter she says, “Well you didn’t come here to talk,” and immediately we start going at it in the living room. She goes down on me while I stand there, and after a minute, I grab her and say, “Let's go into the bedroom …”

She is very vocal in terms of dirty talk, which I love in girls ...

The next morning we both have huge headaches. I want to have sex, but am wary about how to act now. I have to meet a friend later, so after lying in bed for awhile, we talk and chat, and she says “Thanks for giving me your cock …” I laugh and say, “You’re welcome.” I get her number and leave.

I hate Valentine's Day, but two days later on V-Day she texts me saying happy Valentine's Day at 10 PM. We text back and forth, and I say hey, I should cook for you this week, what do you say ? We settle on Thursday.

We meet up and I cook a nice meal for her, and we chat about work and all that stuff. After the meal, which she really likes, we have a bottle of wine ... and the meal itself had wine and sherry in it. We listen to music on the couch and start cuddling. I wait for some signals (she takes my hand and wraps it around her chest). We start making out, and soon enough our clothes are off and we are having sex. It's getting late, and I tell her I should probably leave since I have to work the next morning (it is already 12:30 AM).

I have not really spoken to her since. Last week I texted her to see if she wants to come out with HBFriend to a house party, but she already had plans to see the ballet.

So that’s it. I promised myself I would stay single this year and not get into a relationship. I just need more experience with different girls whom I enjoy. I'm not interested in just getting laid. I like her and want to keep hanging out with her and HBFriend's social circle. How do I avoid the weirdness from this point on ? I'm fine with us never sleeping together again if it comes to that, I just want to continue being the fun guy and have fun with her regardless.

To summarize the night, here a few things I should mention:

I tell myself to forget everything about what to say. I can read stuff at home, but once I’m there, my main focus is to have fun, and be friendly to everyone. And hopefully the vibe will come across.

Whatever responses I get, I always tease and keep the conversation fun.

The whole interaction felt natural, and I think that only happened because I was already past opening and being accepted. Once I was comfortable I just tried to have fun. I still suck at opening in clubs, and it's something I need to get better at.