Others Kick The Girl Out Right After

There are a few reasons I'm willing to try this out. First of all, it's been two years of non-stop strange pussy. Don't get me wrong, it's been fun. I had it before from 2002-2005 and I enjoyed that run, as well. For a dude, the independent lifestyle is certainly fun and unencumbered, but it has downsides. Below, I've compiled the Top Ten Reasons to Get Out of the Game:

10. Casual girls aren't that much fun. At least not the ones I've met. Maybe the ones who give it up are self-selecting, or perhaps it's the treatment I've given them when they do come inside, but I've found that many of these women are just plain dull. They may look good, or dress well, but for the most part I find their personalities flat, or worse, perverted by some American social expectation. The truth is, even though my girlfriend Emma is amazing, I'd probably stay in the game longer if the girls were more compelling. I will say that the scene in Europe is a bit more dynamic ... the sexes seem to have more fun with each other, with less antagonism. I find a lot of the girls here defensive, grasping and egotistical ... even though they rarely have much to be proud of. I think blame lies with the American male, who through his covetous moves, has inflated young girl's heads beyond the point of redemption.

9. With a lot of casual sexual partners, none meaning much more than the next, it's impossible to do anything involved, meaningful or expensive. I'm not the type of guy who wants to spend money and exquisite experiences with a girl I don't know. There is a limitation to the playboy lifestyle: expense. Few men have the means or inclination to spend their hard-earned money and vacation on a woman who hasn't proven herself a worthwhile companion. This New Year's in London I'm going to the theater, a Gala on the Thames, the Royal Opera House, Stonehenge, and I'm staying 6 nights at the Ritz, all with Emma. You think I want to schedule something so wonderful with a mere booty-call ?

8. Disease. Self-explanatory, really. I've had several STDs and they're a pain in the ass. They've all been treated and have cleared up, but it's an ever-present part of single life if the guy is any good at pulling tail.

7. Guilt. This is a new one. I cut it off with a hot Brazilian a few weeks ago, when Emma and I made the decision to go exclusive. I was happy to do so because although the chemistry was strong, our expectations were entirely mismatched. Vanessa thought I was her white knight: a handsome, competent man with whom to build a life. In fact, I wanted nothing more than “one potato chip,” as my friend Dominick says. If they like you, most girls will give you the whole bag; if they don't, they won't give you any. It's the rare chick who is happy doling out “one potato chip” here and there ...

6. Fatigue and frustration are realities of the game, at any level. I remember joining two girls at a restaurant table last winter. They were buzzed and finishing dinner. One of them was texting back and forth with a NHL hockey pro. He wanted her to come over; she was leading him on. This bullshit exists at every level, and depending on your point of view, it's either an exciting hunt or an utter waste of time and energy. At the moment, I find it tiresome and repetitive. Keep in mind that's only because I've done it for the better part of 10 years, and I've mastered it. For a guy in his 20s, there's a lot of value in mastering the short-term sexual relationship. Do it before you move onto something more serious.

5. Theft. About a month ago, on the eve of going monogamous, I had a hot Swedish ballet dancer over for the night. I'd met her during a coaching session here in NYC and she was easy to like: big tits, nice figure, big brown eyes and a cute ponytail. She came over previously and we ended up having sex. I found myself with her again, lying in bed. This time, she was planning to sleep over. As I was drifting off to sleep she told me she was an insomniac. Lying on my pillow, I started to consider the risk of falling asleep next to this girl who, though she seemed perfectly sweet and normal, I actually knew very little about. We'd met twice, and both times it was primarily sexual. I had recently moved up in life, and now my apartment contained a flashy MacBook Air and petty cash of $5,000. I realized that it would be very easy for her, while I slept, to cart off my belongings, smiling falsely to the doorman as she exited the building. He wouldn't stop her; in fact, he'd probably hold the door for her as she left with my shit.

4. Quick sexual burnout. A by-product of lots of casual sex is that a “new” girl gets stale very quickly. Eventually, the whole thing becomes the conquest, and once you've had her, the thrill is gone, as the Eagles said. After all, there's only so much you can do with the female body, no matter how attractive the girl. Without dimensions beyond the physical, the whole thing becomes mechanical. A deep emotional and spiritual connection with a woman promises to keep the sexual connection strong. Without it, there's no chance. If you feel like you're screwing corpses, it's time to re-evaluate and think about striving for something more ...

3. Morning After Awkwardness. There's an old saying: “You don't pay a hooker for sex; you pay her to leave.” Over the years, I've come to understand the truth of that statement. For a guy who's only hunting the next thrill and a bit of tail, morning-after management is exhausting. Some players work during the day; others kick the girl out right after the deed. For a man who wakes up to a booty-call, he must quickly and graciously get the girl dressed, out of his apartment and on her way. There's always a tension between avoiding displays of raw selfishness and honoring my personal daily agenda (which has nothing to do with the sex from last night.) The crux of the problem is that “getting laid” is a take-take proposition; a quality, loving relationship is much more of a give-give arrangement.

2. Free time. This is a big one. No matter how efficient a dude is at getting laid ... and this is coming from a guy who makes a living teaching other guys how to get laid quickly, easily and cheaply ... it still takes a lot of time to arrange dates and actually have sex. One of the benefits of re-directing my energies is that I have more time and focus for activities that will have an enduring positive impact on my life: business and making money, reading and self-education, and my male friendships (and one female friendship, actually.) Time invested in such places will pay dividends; many one-nighters are “lost” time.

1. Sleep. Does anyone actually like sleeping next to a stranger ? And how effing tired are you after staying up all night banging a new piece !

Finally, though not a reason, it's something to consider: when is it time to get out of the game ? There are two right answers to this question: when it stops being fun and / or you meet a girl whom you don't want to lose !

So, there's a short list of compelling reasons why I'm making the choice to settle down ... for now. There are undoubtedly other reasons, such as pregnancy, that force a guy out of the ring, but I'm stepping down out of choice.

I'm sitting out this season. It remains to be seen if I'm truly retired …