A Cute Gold Digger Is Still A Gold Digger

The problem:

Many women will offer to split the check on a beginning date. Some will take offense and not see you again if you don't pay for the whole check, even if they offer to pay part. Many women are screening men out for cheapness. Some women insist that a man let her share the cost. I've even had women insist on paying for a first or second date. There is no consistency.

What do I tell men ?

Schedule things that are free (go to the zoo, wander an eastern market, visit a museum, etc.) Alternatively, choose dates that are inexpensive like coffee or drinks during happy hour, and pay for it all.

If it goes well, you can then bounce to food, dessert, etc. … but by then you know you are doing fine and want more time with her. Plus, bouncing helps with comfort.

I don't recommend starting with dinner, since that means you have to pay and spend 1.5 hours with a girl who may turn out not to meet your standards in one way or another.

You can also do a second date free or inexpensively. For example, take her for a hike, or cook for her at your place. Also, cheap ethnic dive restaurants work if you can sell them as the best tacos (or whatever) around.

Usually by the third date, many women (especially the more professional ones) will split the check with you and mean it when they offer (they'll be more insistent.)

Keep in mind that it is better to be someone who gets girls through personality and game than someone who gets girls through status / money. A cute gold digger is still a gold digger. Besides, when you get as many dates as we do, it is good to keep expenses down, especially early on with a particular girl.

In a relationship, I do believe we should both contribute somehow (assuming she has the means.) Some of the younger or less professional women do expect you always to pay, but they may not have the means to contribute.

What did I tell a class full of women Thursday evening when they asked who should pay ?