Usually A “Win-Win” Proposition

The problem I have with many of the products (i.e., books, eBooks, CDs, DVDs, et al) available these days to loyal enthusiasts of the infamous “Seduction Community” is that too many of them not only do not help men conquer their fear of rejection, but unfortunately, some gurus’ products actually cause the fear of rejection to become even more profound than it was initially.

If you let your fear of rejection dictate your interactions with women (or lack thereof), this will drastically limit your options over the course of your life. In the end, your failures won’t matter ... but your successes will add so much to your life. It’s crazy to cut out all those potential experiences / girlfriends / sexual escapades just because of fear !

Let me illustrate with an example:

Derek Jeter and Alex Rodriguez are two of the best batters and home run hitters in all of American Major League Baseball. Did you also know that Jeter and Rodriguez are in the Top Ten in the league in at-bat strikeouts ? Do you think either Jeter and / or Rodriguez could be top hitters if every time they walked up to the batter’s plate, they let their fear of striking out affect their game ?

Here is the reality: No single heterosexual man alive is going to attract and seduce each and every woman they meet and converse with. I do not care if you have the looks of George Clooney or Brad Pitt, the wealth of Warren Buffett or Bill Gates, or the humor of Steve Carrell or Sean Lock. For every ten women you approach, there is a good chance that at least three, four or five of those women are not going to be attracted to your physical appearance and / or personality.

What if you approached a woman, she rejected you and then days or weeks later, that same woman had sex with one of your best friends ? First, you might be jealous, right ? Then, as the weeks go on, you see that this woman is driving your friend crazy. She is stalking him, and this after passing on a sexually transmitted disease such as herpes to him. Be honest: would you not feel a bit ‘lucky’ that this woman rejected you ? I sure would.

In my experience, rejection is usually a “win-win” proposition. If you approach a woman, express your true desires, interests and intentions to her, and she lets you know quickly that she is not interested, that is a “win” because you did not waste time, and there was not monetary or emotional investment that took place.

If you approach a woman, and this woman rejects you … but deep-down, this woman was really attracted to you … then when she finally decides to reveal the truth to you, you will have the upper hand.

Conquering your fear of rejection and your fear of negative reactions from women is the very first step to improving your long-term success with women. Nothing conquers fear more than taking action. The key is not to try to “prevent” or “avoid” rejection. Instead, learn to become unfazed by rejection. I never allow being rejected by a woman to diminish my level of self-confidence toward approaching the very next woman.

Remember: When rejection is delivered in an upfront, straightforward manner, you will get over it within a matter of minutes, hours, or at worst, a day or two. Having your time (and money) wasted by a woman is what ultimately leaves you bitter.