And Now I’m Simply … A Natural

Assuming you do, why do you still have approach anxiety around hot women ? Do you doubt yourself ? Does it feel like somehow you’re inherently “unworthy” of deserving them ? That somehow women are “above” you, and all of this is too much work ?

More importantly, (doing the same work you're doing now to meet women) how can you create attraction with women instead of getting dismissiveness and rejection ? How can you line up more dates from the work you’re already doing ?

Some of these were issues I went through, and I assume that you may be going through them as well. It may seem like women are so close yet still so far out of reach.

They seem more of a fantasy than a reality. It’s hard to believe you’re really “worthy” (no matter how many self-affirmations you do) when these hot women can seemingly have their pick of the litter and you’re in “competition” with other men.

It seems the reality just “is what it is” and it’s meant to be difficult. And how is it that “naturals” don’t have any of these issues ?

Well, from where I'm at now, I've discovered that more than your “inner game,” it comes down to your belief system. You may have heard that before, but more specifically, I mean your belief system of sexuality, and what you believe represents “sexy” and the path of attraction.

You could call it your “map of sexuality.” And whatever you value (more accurately, whatever your sexual energy values), you are attracting. Sexual energy is a very powerful force that is greater than ego-based power when it comes to attraction.

So what kind of behavior are you attracting out of the women you meet ?

If you have a definition or “map” of sexuality where “sexy” is a prickteasing, posing model in a magazine flaunting her ass, a porn video starlet, or a writhing Lady Gaga, that belief system which you value is what you attract: the fantasy of relationships with women

This repels them in reality.

That is how women will behave around you: out of touch, the prize, and aloof. That effect is the result of your cause (fantasy).

As you keep approaching, you continue to attract more non-physical relationships with women. And this is no matter what PUA routines, lines, methods or systems you follow, because you inherently have an inaccurate map or belief system of the truth of sexuality at the core.

You could say that the “fantasy” of sex is your cause. And that is the effect (fantasy).

Fantasy is what your lustful energy values and believes leads to the real thing, yet it was never ever the definition or path to physical attraction and connection with real women.

You were just conditioned to believe it (because a porn video looks and feels real to your sexual energy, so you associate that with sexuality in women). This was one map we were given and led to believe was real.

And that’s why things are inconsistent at best. By following that path, we’re mixing the fantasy of sexuality with reality.

It's like having a mislabeled map. You could be in Miami using a map of Detroit but it was mislabeled and said “Miami” on the cover. But you believe it’s a map of Miami even though it obviously isn’t.

Even though you are physically there “in Miami” (or “in front” of women trying to meet them), you will be running all over town following all the wrong values, signs and directions on the map.

You’re just not getting what you think you were supposed to be getting (yet it’s easy to just secretly go back to those new hidden skin pics on your computer, because that is the map you have !)

And what does that mislabeled map do ? It's confusing as all hell. You can't “connect” even though everything is right in front of you and you're taking a lot of action. It creates anxiety, especially because you expect and believe the map to be true.

You feel lost, not because of your inner game or personality, but because you have a different map with different values entirely. That is also why high quality men today are failing with women and attraction.

And if you believed the map represented the truth, maybe you would start kicking the tires and believing that you sucked. You’d take all the blame on yourself (like the “Inner Game” paradigm of sexual attraction).

Yet a natural can come along and swoop up a girl. She will act very differently around him instantly before he even approaches.

Why ? Because he has a different map (or belief system) of attraction and sexuality. He has a different cause and thus different effects. He is communicating on a deeper, more powerful physiological level automatically, and she is responding on that level.

He has a map that is aligned to different values and that leads to a physical destination, thus that is what he is attracting in his energy. It's not because of his “personality” or that he’s better than you.

Essentially, there is a fantasy / sexploitation map of attraction, and there is a physical values map of attraction and sexuality. These represent very real and influential belief systems of attraction that do exist today.

One leads to the fantasy of attraction and sex, while the other leads to the reality of the process of attraction and a more natural definition of consenting adults sharing sex (or romance) possibly down the road.

These are completely different maps of reality with different values, and if you don’t get this core fundamental paradigm difference, you’ll be busy continuing to do 100’s of approaches (or being infinitely frustrated solo) while rarely ever connecting with real women, getting numbers or follow-ups.

You’ll keep escaping into your own fantasy world that you’ve created instead of sharing it with real, flesh and blood beauties.

And in the meantime, naturals will continue to be your envy because they can connect with women within seconds, while it seems to you they aren’t “doing” anything.

By stepping outside of your subjective experience of reality and viewing these very real belief systems (that predictably lead to certain destinations), you start realizing (with your Ego out of the equation) that you were never the problem.

The problem and cause of anxiety was in believing your map led to the real thing. You kept using the map for years. That’s the only way in which you were the problem.

So why would you keep using a mislabeled map once you saw it was for a different geographical imprint ? You wouldn’t, but I predict that many reading this newsletter will continue to do so.

They won’t see the most elusive yet obvious truth. They will keep believing in some of the 16 popular belief systems of sexuality that I’ve found exist (only 2 or 3 of which lead to real, physical attraction).

See, we were given these inaccurate maps (belief systems) of sexuality by society, and unless you do something to get a more accurate map of the physical process of attraction, the confusion and anxiety will most likely continue for years, or your entire life.

I would safely predict that, and that you may even keep thinking you “suck” and you’re a disaster. That there must be some other inner game or outer game “trick” to get women attracted to you.

The behavior we're led to believe represents a woman's sexuality (skin, flaunting, porn, teasing, pussy on a pedestal) is not her actual sexual behavior. It is not the natural process.

That is simply social behavior; more specifically, social-adaptive behavior, and it’s meant to manipulate your energy into more of the fantasy.

Women buy into it as well with makeup, beauty, fashion, cosmetic enhancements, etc. Cars, romance novels, beer, bling, video games, the game, nightclubs, etc. These are big industries selling the illusion of relationships or providing direct outlets for the sexual repression they’ve created.

That fantasy map of sexuality (sexploitation) embeds and imprints the belief system that you aren't worthy (and that to attain it you “buy into” something associated with the idea of “sexy”). Follow it and you do suck because that’s your map.

It’s a self-propagating cycle, yet seemingly no one can see the entire system is just a map that is mislabeled.

As soon as you put fantasy in front of that definition of “sexy” and reality in front of the natural definition of “sexy,” you will start to see the profound and massive differences between them. That difference means everything.

The fantasy of sex is all an illusion that we take for granted because it’s all around us. It leads to consumer relationships that inappropriately associate sex with it. Yet it doesn't lead to real relationships, nor was it ever the actual path of physical attraction.

That’s why the “game” is so unnatural. It is based on these fantasy values of a social definition of sexuality. Each map is believable and has its own printed values. When you adopt a certain map, you are limited and restricted to its own rules and definition of reality.

With a natural map of physical sexuality and attraction, everything is different. No consumerism, no fantasy values, no sexploitation; very different. Real connection with real women. You now have the power to choose.

You are inherently worthy just by being a man, and it's an entirely different dynamic of communication with women when you have natural values. On that level, you can empower your sexual energy independent of your personal self.

It’s a path that leads to present physical attraction with women in front of you. Now you can get back in line with that natural birthright that says you are masculine and confident.

You may have to unwire your hardcore beliefs in the fantasy or ego-based (“inner game”) maps of sexuality, however.

Without a natural map of attraction (or belief system) you’re literally left to trick, dupe, manipulate or coerce women into feeling attraction for you to “get something” from them ... because they remain an out of touch fantasy.

You’re left to communicate on an entirely different level of values: a social level you believed was sexual instead of the actual, real sexual level. And women will respond to your values, so it’s up to you to know your values.

Change your map and you change your values. And then everything changes. With an accurate map of physical reality, you’re far more likely to get where you’re going regardless of how sucky your inner game and self-blame is.

That is why and how naturals connect with women even when you can't (and are doing 1000s of approaches). They just have natural beliefs of sexuality and the physical process of attraction.

It’s not something Rion or any guru made up. Society and ego is what redefined and screwed up the force of life itself.

Naturals have a physiological energy relationship of direct polarity with her sexual energy, one that isn’t blocked or associated into a fantasy relationship.

They have different values of what equals sexiness in a woman.

Once you can value the authentic sexual behavior of women (which is flirting, feminine and natural) more than the social sexploitation (and manipulative use of female skin as a stimulus which gets you to buy more into the fantasy), that is what you will attract: more real, physical relationships.

Even doing the same types of approach you will start getting more flirting and numbers instead of stuck-up aloofness because you're finally connecting with the one thing greater than social influence and its manipulative use of sexual energy: the laws of nature and energy itself ... what women really want and how they really respond.

It’s that heterosexual polarity which really drives and influences sexual behavior.

So it's up to you to adopt and embed a more natural “map” and definition of sexuality (which is untouched by the ego of man or variations made and skewed by mPUAs); that which our social matrix has completely warped and covered up with its own definition of sexuality.

They are just different maps, equally as believable or real, yet each map leads to a certain outcome. Fortunately, I chose the natural map and now I’m simply … a natural. You can be, too.

So how can you start to see more real-life attraction with women today ? What is a technique you can do that will get you more attraction success, numbers and follow-up dates? Try “Natural Grounding.”

“Natural Grounding” is a practice that you can do to help cure your anxiety and align your belief system to the natural and physical path of relationships. It gets you right in your relationship with the authentic sexual energy of women.

Then, just keep meeting new women. You don't ever have to use pick-up lines when a woman starts behaving naturally around you (and when your natural frame of reality is stronger than her social frame of reality and sexuality).