Split It In Half

What I am going to do today is give you what has to be the world’s easiest strategy for making your very first interactions with women tons easier on everyone involved … as in both you and her.

You see, our first impulse when we see a woman we want to meet is to think of what we want to say, and then rehearse it a few (hundred) times.

From there, of course, we’ve got to be sure to remember that it’s just a conversation instead of a competition, and actually gather the stones to go talk to her.

Assuming we do so, if we’re indeed expecting to be effective in meeting a woman for the first time, we’ll generally say something like, “Hey, my name is Scot. I saw you from the other side of the room and knew I just had to meet you.”

There’s nothing particularly wrong with that plan.

Plenty of women all over the fruited plain would practically melt if a great guy went about meeting her in that manner.

But you can do way better.

How ?

Well, for starters, when it comes to the very first thing you say to a woman, split it in half.

Next time try this.

Walk up to her, introduce yourself … and stop.

Resist every urge you have to finish the great opener you’ve rehearsed.

Discipline yourself … and wait.

Then, listen for her to tell you her name in return.

Maybe she indeed will. Or maybe she won’t.

She might simply say, “Oh … hi,” or something.

But either way, you’ve just increased your chances at getting somewhere with her.

Why ?

Well, let’s assume for a brief moment she doesn't give you her name.

Fine.

I always say that having been taught “never to talk to strangers” has affected all of us as a culture.

We just never “unwire” that habit once it’s drilled into our heads as kids, right ?

And subsequently, it’s really easy for us to read that “deer in the headlights” look when we “break the silence” with a stranger … especially a sexy woman … as irritation, disdain or even disgust.

So we often throw in the towel right there, thinking she’s already not attracted … when all we actually have seen is a normal human response to … well, having been “talked to by a stranger.”

I’ve had lots of guys tell me they've had real-world experiences that have shown them just how true it all is.

The question then arises as to how to deal with that.

Well, cutting how you plan to start your conversation in half effectively creates a magical “buffer zone” for that initial (and perfectly natural) “stranger shock” to happen in.

And after she gathers herself and responds, you simply continue with the rest.

I assure you that she will receive the second thing you say with far more comfort than the first.

As a result, you’ll instinctively read her body language as more open and you’ll keep going forward where you may have wimped out in the past.

Sweet.

But it gets better.

What’s everyone’s favorite word … including beautiful women ?

Their own name.

So let’s go back to the example, this time assuming she does give you her name.

Now you’ve been empowered in a way you couldn’t have been before … unless she had a name tag on, which you can’t always count on, obviously.

Then you continue with something to the effect of, “Well, I couldn’t help but notice you from across the room and wonder what you were like. And I thought to myself that if I didn’t go over and meet Melissa, neither of our days would be as bright.”

Money.

What you’ve accomplished is demonstrating potential interest without telegraphing pre-approval.

You’ve simultaneously served notice that a man is in front of her—a creature of the opposite sex.

All the while, though, you’ve put the onus on her to impress you. Not bad.

And … she’s already heard the sweet, intoxicating (and some would even say “hypnotic”) sound of her name on your lips.

I’m not kidding in the least when I tell you that once you’ve said that much to Melissa, the “heavy lifting” is done.

By taking your initial opener and “splitting it in half,” you get over the “talk to strangers” issue even as you seamlessly engage her in a real conversation.

She hears her own name, further increasing her comfort level along with her intrigue.

And you get the message across that this is more of a potential “movie moment” with a real man in her presence than a simple request like, “Uh…what time is it ?”

From then on, you can act normal.

Seriously. All that’s left is to have a conversation … on any inane topic you’d like, really.

As always, if you can ask her open-ended questions to get her to talk about herself, all the better.

But there’s already no chance you’ll be seen as “neuter,” and you’ll not have to worry about wrecking the “moment” because it’s already happened.

Just talk to her from there like you would anyone else, see whether or not you actually like her, then get her number and call her later.

Uncomplicated …without the pressing need to “prove” your masculinity to her any more, at least for now.

That die was cast from the second line you ever spoke to her. From there, both of you can truly relax and enjoy.