My Mom's On Facebook

I also want to spend a little time talking about Facebook and using social networking sites to help you time bridge your sets. I’m completely against using Facebook or Myspace to meet women, but using them as a substitute for a phone close can be absolutely invaluable.

So I know what you guys are thinking here and the problems you’re facing: the main one being that she’s busy doing a set or she has headphones on, or whatever … all the same reasons not to approach as if you were in a club.

I guess if you want to be technical about it, gym game definitely counts as day game, and the principles of day game definitely do apply to this type of pick up (lower energy, etc.)

Again, if you go to a pretty nice gym, chances are you’ll see plenty of hot girls there, and usually they’re athletic (nothing gets my rocks off more.) So the question is how to approach the situation ?

In my opinion, picking up a girl from the gym is definitely much easier than picking up at a club under the right circumstances. And also, when you see guys hit on girls at the gym, they make all the same mistakes they would in a nightclub setting. The patterns are almost too stark not to notice.

Before I dive straight into what I’ve found effective in gym pickup, I want to preface this field report with a slight tangent on working out. Working out has so many other benefits, and when you’re in good health, it really is a feeling like no other. I often hear that people “don’t have the time” or just “don’t have the energy,” which I think is an absolute bullshit excuse. How do you not have the time to maintain your own body for at least one hour a day ? There is absolutely nothing more important than your health.

If you really want to work on your game, the gym is the perfect place to work on your active and passive value. If you look at Matador, even though his active game is extremely well honed, his passive value is exceedingly high, which makes him an extremely powerful PUA. So use this as an opportunity to work on both parts of your game.

One of the main advantages (assuming you’re going to the gym on a daily basis) is that you’ll usually see the same people there over and over again. This gives you the luxury of having lower investment interactions, and when you have them on a day to day basis, she develops much more comfort with you than in most other pick up situations. This is not a luxury you have in cold approach night club game, unless you go to the same night club every night. Use this to your advantage. It’s as simple as making eye contact with her, smiling and saying “Hello.” That’s it, done.

So I just joined a new gym in my job relocation and I noticed that there are 7-8 girls who are regulars and are HB8s and above. It’s really amazing what simple eye contact and a smile can convey about you. I had these “low investment” interactions with roughly 4 of them within a few days' time. They gradually become more comfortable with me and in this case, it definitely worked out almost too well in my advantage.

So I’m on the calf machine. I look at her, smile and nod my head as she passes by me. She stops:

Her: Hey, I see you here all the time, are you new here or something ?

Me: Yeah, I just moved here from Los Angeles (Mind you this is a fairly small town, so it’s a pretty big DHV when you say you’re from a larger city.)

Her: (Intrigued) Oh wow, what made you move here to this small town ?

Me: New job here. Offered more competitive pay than what I had back in Los Angeles.

Her: Oh, so what do you do ? (Her way of gauging my direct value. All women are gold diggers to some extent. No girl wants some poor ass guy.)

Me: I’m a Financial Cost Analyst for a medical consulting company. I work over at the Wachovia Building right off Riverfront. (Plenty of buzz words to peak her interest.)

Her: Oh cool, sounds exciting !

Me: Not particularly. Definitely pays the bills and then some, but nobody likes being trapped in a box. I have a few business plans I’m getting off the ground once I’ve massed up some more capital.

We banter for a little longer and then right at the end, I drop in the time bridge.

Me: Well hey, I need to bang out a few more sets before the gym closes, but are you on Facebook ?

Her: Who isn’t ?

Me: Cool

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I’m really surprised that the power of social networking sites isn’t emphasized more often in the pick up community. Getting a girl’s phone number and e-mail is so 2 years ago. Everyone’s on Facebook. I mean Christ, my mom’s on Facebook and she writes on my wall.

I don’t want to get into too many specifics here. I could probably fill two pages on the advantages and intricacies of developing your Facebook page to automatically DHV yourself. But here are a few advantages Facebook has over your phone:

1. It’s lower investment. Girls have given me plenty of fake numbers, but I haven’t gotten one “wrong name” on Facebook yet. It’s just so low investment for both parties.

2. Mutual friends. Often, assuming you get out, you’ll have mutual friends who are displayed on the friends page, which adds an extra layer of comfort that you would have never had with just the phone number.

3. With the proper use of photos, having other girls writing on your wall, and your overall activity level, she can directly gauge your “social value.” When a girl adds me on Facebook, her interest often rises from its previous state.

All these factors working in unison most certainly increase the probability of your day two.

Anyway, the date’s this coming Saturday. Let’s hope Cupid has some goodies in the bag.