The Two Of Them Are Just Going At It

You're born
Life is hard
At the end you die
In between is a lot of hard work, many challenges and failures and probably a lot of suffering.

Sounds like a good time to me, who's up for it?

I think our young man is suffering from a big delusion of the age of entitlement: that life should be easy and that we don't have to work for anything. If women suffer from the princess syndrome where Prince Charming is waiting for every woman, men suffer from the beer commercial syndrome where the hot ladies just hang on your every word and all are ready to be wheeled back to your place to do your nasty bidding.

Life does appear that way when we get a little confirmation like what happened to our friend as he watched some guy bang the girl. The guy he writes about gets laid when he wants. The girl is giving it up easily. How come it's so hard for our writer?

The reality is that life is hard for everyone, and that anything worth having - like a hot girlfriend or a great job - is something that everybody wants. Therefore, there isn't nearly enough of it to satisfy everyone. You have to work for it to get it. And work hard. You have to compete. The truth is that it takes 10,000 hours to master anything. Why should our writer be the exception? Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant have worked their asses off to get the rewards. Same with Tiger Woods. Why should any other guy who doesn't work as hard get to the top ahead of those guys. Why should our writer get laid when he hasn't done the work.

The problem for our writer is that he probably doesn't have someone like his dad telling him the facts of life - from a position of unconditional love of course. I constantly tell my son that he'll have to work for what he wants, it's not easy and I constantly give him ideas about how to get an edge in the competition for school, making the top soccer team and getting the girl. The main idea, over and over again, is to work it, work harder and work smarter. Be smarter than other guys. This is the formula, the foundation, for everything that "looks easy." After you put in the thousands of hours of work, that's when suddenly you get the hot girl who can't get enough of you.

Thinking that life should be easy without work is boy thinking. Our writer needs to start thinking from the mentality of I am a man. What would a man think and act like in these circumstances? And then think those thoughts and act on those actions.

I would give the writer two suggestions.
One is to become more aware of your emotions. Someone once said, there are only two emotions: love and fear - with fear being exhibited in hate, self loathing, jealousy, envy, anger, etc. all the negative emotions. He's exhibiting self-loathing and frustration. In self-loathing he needs to adopt a less critical and fearful view of his own failures. Look at failure not as failure but always as an opportunity to learn something about how to do it right. Frustration is a valuable emotion. We always need to channel it into "Yes, I'm feeling frustrated right now but I'm going to work my ass off to do better next time and get what I want."

Both these emotions feed into the most important mindset our writer needs to develop. The idea of constant self improvement in all areas of life, for life. Dress, style, communication, talking with women, sex, school, work, friends, family - all these areas can be improved all the time. Young men need to decide to embark on a lifelong mission of self improvement. Focusing your emotions in support of this mission is key to building a foundation of success in life.

Do this and you will find that by the time women are begging you for sex, you'll be so far beyond where you are presently, their validation won't be needed. You won't be needy, and this, paradoxically, will make them want you even more.

If you decide to go on a quest for self improvement, I found that David Deangelo's CDs were very good. Style's books are excellent. Both are designed not just to get the girl but to build your inner game for life. The journey will be long and hard with many advances and failures (opps to learn) - 10,000 hours is something like a decade - but the journey and result will be well worth it.

I would also say, get a girlfriend - whether she's a 2 or a 6 - and work with David Shade's books on sex tips. This guy knows what he's talking about. As you improve in life, you will meet more and more high-quality women. You want every single one of them to say, that guy was amazing in bed, he was the best!, and want them to stay with you until you're ready to move on to someone else. This will be great validation as you continually work on your inner game over the years - yes years. And when you finally meet a super high-quality girl, you will be the master in bed and she will never want to give you up. All your years of inner game work and self improvement will pay off in that moment when you meet her and become her Prince Charming.
You can do it , but the plain truth is that it's a lot of work. That's the one message you can take away from this.

What are you waiting for? Stop crying while you're playing video games and pick up some books and work on self-improvement. You're worth it aren't you?