A Comprehensive Guide to Cold Reads

Outside the cube, how good are your cold reading skills ?

Do you use cold reads in your seduction process ? Do you even know what a cold read is, and if so, do you even know how to use it ?

After reading The Game, the community's eyes were opened to the art of the cold read and the power of the cube. All over the world we had kids grabbing girl’s palms and blurting out what seemed to be an accurate description of their qualities.

I remember a girl bursting into tears after I ran the cube on her so accurately. She was a very superstitious woman and the storm on top of her cube was a little too close to home.

In my beginnings with the game, I could not for the life of me learn to use the cube properly. Most of the time some half-assed image of some colorful square would emerge and the girl would eventually be creeped out. It took me a long time to properly master the cube, and subsequently cold reads.

The cold read is a very powerful seduction technique that can boost attraction, create instant rapport, and raise your value above any other guy that she’s met.

The technique has been generally discarded lately, because most people use it as a way to seek value rather than add it. I could not run the cube properly back in the day because I did it to impress girls, rather than to have fun doing it.

Personally, I love cold reads. I love how they react, finding out how accurate I was and how much fun it is to see how she instantly opens up to me from there. I genuinely enjoy molding her into the girl I want her to be by cold reading a personality she will work relentlessly to match. It's bloody awesome !

As a rule of thumb, stick to general truisms. Nothing too specific. Use your vocabulary to deepen the effects of your read. Example:

Bad Read: You have two brothers and 1 sister, and ate a pastrami sandwich for lunch.

Good Read:You seem to have an open spirit ... like you deserve what the world has to offer and really live in the moment.

Do I need to explain why example one was bad ?

As for example two ... if you tell a party girl at a club that she loves life and lives in the moment (like when her friends come by with a tray of drinks and she screams “shots !”), you're pretty much dead on.

Avoid negative emotions because you risk having her associating them with you. For example, when reading the storm in the cube...

Bad Read: You're very sad about something, someone close to you is about to pass away.

Good Read: There is something stressing you out. Right now, you are living your life as best you can, but in the back of your head, there’s something that you're going to have to deal with, something bothering you.

See the difference?

Sad ? What if she isn't sad ?

Stressed out ? Which girl isn't stressed out about something ?

It could be the smallest thing like her makeup running, or something bigger like problems with her boyfriend. Whatever it is, you're spot on.

The point is, try to stay as general as possible while masking it with a rich vocabulary. It sounds like you genuinely know her inside and out.

Here are some examples of my own cold reads to give you an idea of how it works:

Did you know she communicates more with touch than with words ? As in, she loves to cuddle and hold hands and feel close to her man ? No shit ... which girl doesn’t ? These are all standard qualities in a girl, and sprinkled with a bit of qualification, she will actively work to be the person you projected her to be.

I hope this helps. Remember to do it because you have fun discovering what kind of person she is ... not to try and impress her.

Bonus: below is a compilation of easy cold read lines you could use every day.

I can tell just from your (demeanor) / (aura) / (how you present yourself) that you are a person who:

... doesn't like to give in or accept things you know are not right.
... can fall in love easily.
... just takes everything one day at a time.
... forms your own opinions while remaining aware of your reasons just in case you have to change.
... likes to stay busy.
... seems to attract the same kind of mate over and over.
... enjoys an adventure.
... needs to be surrounded by positive energy.
... is very honest about everything.
... will help anyone if you get the chance.
... thrives on contact with others in your day-to-day work world.
... always looks for the best out of life.
... in general, likes to handle your own issues, and you definitely don't like to make work for others.
... can handle a new experience.
... likes to question things more than just nod your head and say okay and sit back.
... likes to meet people and experience everything.
... sometimes surprise people just when they thought they knew everything about you.