Rambo Or Indiana Jones ?

Over the last year, I've concentrated my efforts on eliminating all approach anxiety, and getting confident with any girl, no matter how cute she is. And it's worked.

The player attitude, behavior, and accessories are, in my opinion, just more crutches like openers, techniques, wingmen, etc. It's not that crutches don't help or are bad, but they only help when you have flaws. For example, if you can't keep the interest of two women at the same time, you might need to improve on your communication skills ... or just find a wingman ! But the wingman will not solve your problem in the long term, and you might become dependent on having one.

We could do the same exercise with other crutches, but you get the point.

Now what the player tools offer is a marketing-type way of increasing how confident you appear. It helps you open sets, because women will be curious about this confident young man walking around.

After a few months of having a pretty high general confidence about my skills and my personality, I slowly decreased my peacocking and player techniques because it seemed too much. Too much in the sense that the girl might think, “This is just a facade, he's not really that confident.”

Now back to my theory. If a women (HB8-9) sees a man approaching her who is too hot or too high-value compared to what she normally gets, she might fall into defensive mode and be really doubtful about it. She might think that he's a cool guy, but would end up just using her because he obviously doesn't need her … he probably could get any girl.

But what about courage ? Take the same situation, but add some shyness on the guy's part. He is as handsome, as talkative, as intelligent ... but he's not used to approaching strangers like that and goes anyway ! He walks up to the girl, she can feel he is a bit stressed ... but she is too, because he seems a good catch. He smiles and starts talking, stuttering a bit, but after a few minutes, he manages to calm down and becomes much more fluid and interesting.

All the theories talk about confidence, and it's true that you have to be confident at a certain level … but too confident may hurt you as much as not confident enough. And by “too confident” I don't mean someone who tries to look really confident ... I mean too confident relative to the girl's own confidence.

Who do women find more seductive, Rambo or Indiana Jones ?

Rambo is the invincible machine who is so skilled at killing that he will be confident even against an army of 200 soldiers.

Indiana Jones is scared shitless of snakes, and is sometimes a bit goofy, but he faces the challenges and goes anyway.