Forgot Her Name ? Check.

sarge

Chodey me didn't want to go sarge, but I still went.

We wanted to drink so we went to this place where drinks were cheap. Warmed up a little on the way, asking women on their cells if they could hear anything through the music. This was to get loud and out of my bubble.

We drank a little. I needed to know the name of the place, as another friend was meeting us there. I opened 3 girls and asked them the name of the bar. They had no idea . Talk about clueless ! I left disappointed, then asked a bunch of dudes who were close by. They didn't know either. Bleh ... I went back to my peeps, asked them, and they told me.

We did a few more approaches but nothing hooked. I was probably too low energy, but no matter. My other friend arrived, we talked for a bit and started moving from set to set. Met a few drunk girls, but that place was dead.

We bounced to another venue. Buddy found a 3 set and opened. I heard that they were from Boston. So I told my target that I love their pizza. I felt like being silly. It went well, and one of my friends left with one of them.

We chatted for a bit (5 minutes). They came here to drink because they were underage in the States. Turns out they'd never been out clubbing. She asked me which clubs were nice and I told her there was one down the street, then suggested we go. She asked if it was free, which it wasn't. They had some free (useless) cards for another club. I told them that place was bad. (I had never gone, but I doubted they had enough for all 6 of us).

They went to look for their friend, who was with one of my friends. She was down, but again with the cash. They would rather go to the other club. Thing is, I didn't feel like paying, either. So I told them about a free club.

When we got there the dude tried to card me, and told him he already had carded me earlier (true). He let me in. The women were upstairs first, and stopped at the booth because they had to pay. But I had a bunch of tickets that would let us in after 12. The lady at the booth said they were no good. I knew they were. I told her they were. The bouncer said they were. The lady stopped talking and we went in.

Shots, etc. My friend was with his girl, so me and another friend were dancing quite innocently with the 2 others. (I forgot to mention, they were all HB 6-7ish.)

The 2 girls go to the bathroom. We dance, 10 minutes go by. No big deal, don't really care. They come back a bit. I feel like it's time I should start showing intent, because I haven't already, but they leave again looking for their friend. I'm bored.

I try and open a few sets, grabbing and twisting. This is actually a first for me. I have thought about doing this, because it seemed so easy. But I never have. 1 set hooks, then what ? I don't know, I couldn't get close and physical. Another set, she throws my hand away. I smile and keep dancing.

After awhile I get bored again, walk around, and see the 3 set from earlier at the coat check. I ask them if they are about to leave. They aren't ... they're just trying to get their purses in their coats or something. I say cool and leave, walking around smiling and having fun !

They come back to the dance floor and we dance. Now I start grinding her. Then solid eye contact. We get our faces closer and closer. We make out. I can't say it was a good make out ... I don't have much diverse kissing experience.

Then she wants to look for her friends. She wants me to come with her, but I don't. Instead, I go upstairs and find her friend in a heartbeat. I tell her my HB is looking for her and go back to the stairs. I have texts that I forgot to check. My HB shows up and I ignore her ... my texts are more important. She gets her friend and goes back down. I'm not budging.

I meet up with her a few minutes later and we dance again. Her 2 friends are with 2 guys. I see them all making out close together on the dance floor. I stop dancing and talk her to her friends. She loves it. We grind more and start making out more. It's more natural ... better and longer. 3 minutes later, they decide to leave.

Coatcheck ? Check. Go outside ? Check. Forgot her name ? Check. See her leaving, I don't say goodbye ? Check.

So this was my first time getting a grind and make-out from game. Talk about getting out of your comfort zone ! I'm glad I did it ! I wasn't really too into the grind and kissing, and because of that I couldn't tell if she was. I didn't get a hard on at all.

What's the policy on boners while grinding ? Okay ? Not okay ? Recommended ? Weird if not ? Women feel bad if the guy doesn't get a boner ?

Lessons:

The night is over when you say it's over.

Warm up approaches are good to get talkative. Talk to everyone.

Women from out of town are easier to approach and they respond better because they probably don't know many people.

Venue change changes everything. It's hard to have solid approaches in a loud environment.

Bringing them to the club shows social proof, and that you know where the party is (in your pants).

Not caring, not being clingy, and having fun no matter the situation allows you to be yourself.

Approaching is good. It gives women a boost of self esteem, and separates men from children.

I also saw this guy who was there alone, but he kept on approaching, no matter what. He was a little creepy because of it. Women ran from him. Men laughed at him. But at 3 am, who do I see sitting on his lap? A cute girl.

So props to you, whoever you are.

Persistence is key. There will be more bad sets than good sets, not caring about the bad ones and seeking the good ones is what makes you progress farthest.

Does anyone have other opinions on this ?