I Come In to Look at Those Chairs 4 Times a Week
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Put Your Balls on The Line
I've noticed a trend in the game: it has gotten me laid, but it has basically just gotten me more of the girls that I don't really want.
The point of the game, for me at least, is to bewith someone I want. Whom I choose.
I find a lot of tactics are great training wheels. They'll get me tons of IOI
's. But in the end, the fundamental question is this:
Am I in the game to get validation, or am I in the game to get laid?
I heard there are some guys who will approach nine women a night, escalating until one of them fucks him in the bathroom. This is having a purpose. They lay it on the line. I had not been laying it on the line. I was making excuses for my approaches. Making excuses for asking them out. Making excuses for having them over. Making excuses for my sexuality. Making excuses for myself as a man.
This dies right now.
In fact, all of this must die, over and over, so that I can reach that one state of being that has never been rejected: me, fully self-expressed.
I invite you to consider that none of you ... none of you ... have ever been rejected in your entire lives. None.
When you were what you thought was “rejected,” you were not being fully self-expressed.
I have never laid a girl without being self-expressed. Never. Even with tactics at the beginning, all they did was allow me to become more comfortable.
Read that last part.
Allow me to become comfortable.
Here I was trying to make her comfortable, which made me even more uncomfortable. That didn't sound pleasurable.
I can now say without a shadow of a doubt, that yes, it is all in our heads. We are the ones who say “no” first. They respond to us. We are the ones who create the comfort or the discomfort. The seduction or the non-seduction. It starts and ends with us. With everything in life. To get the girls we want, at one point or another we must lay it out on the line:
I don't want your validation. I want you.
Let her know that you are willing to let your ego die for her. Only this way can you have an authentic relationship.
Leave the wussbag AFC talk where it belongs: in the past.
You are a leader. You choose her. You allow her to be chosen.
Stop protecting the child that was hurt years ago.
With whatever you do, instead of asking “Do you love me ?” say “I love you.”
Lead with an erect boner and an open heart that is willing to die a thousand deaths for her gifts. And you will be rewarded, no matter what the result.
Been doing a lot of phone work lately. Also, there's something about my feelings for the female race that makes this stuff so effective.
Funny, I had a 20-year-old secretary about 15 years ago, very hot. We would clear my desk at least 3 times a week, but I got away to North Carolina before she could boil the rabbit and kill my ex.
Anyway, I decided it was time to stalk her down, so I had a friend in a law enforcement agency get her phone number ... evil, I know. Turns out she's an AA counselor and Sunday school teacher, married with one kid, and was cured of her bisexual appetite until I got her on the phone. Apparently I have somehow shed my Southern accent, and now I'm told I sound a little too much like Kevin Costner. That can't be a bad thing.
Anyway, 2 weeks into our little guided imagery sessions and she has moved into a separate bedroom, stocked her bedside table with all sorts of exotic stuff, and re-engaged with 2 friends that she promises to feed to me (or visa versa) if I ever come back to the state she lives in.
If I ever get hitched again this would be the girl. She's awesome, but that's the furthest thing from my mind since I'm living with this hotass little blonde I chased down in a hotel parking lot. Also have a new love interest that I met at (of all places) Auto Zone while she was installing a new battery in my car. 15 minutes was about all I needed. Store owner's daughter … devastating.
Hey, you know where I've had a lot of success lately ? TJ Maxx. It's always filled with hot, slutty girls looking for $10 dresses. God, I hope they never sell those fucking purple chairs, because that is the best conversation starter I've ever seen. But last time I went, I got busted by a store clerk who told this chick (after I got her number) that I come in to look at those chairs 4 times a week. Hahahaha.
If I told you about the 19-year-old redhead who's going to Jamaica with me for her birthday, will I get arrested ?
Sorry for the rambling bullshit. I'm back. : )
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First impressions
Just some first impressions from a first-timer here. Got motivated to look into this after losing a Very Hot Persian Lady who made out with me one moonlit night on a dock right behind the Four Seasons hotel here in Austin.
So...I have a certain predisposition that some might call a bad habit (this is part of the first impression, so pay attention): I am plenty OK with getting laid, but I still insist that true love is best, and don't see those as being mutually exclusive...at all.
So, again, my first impression is that this seems way too low-brow. Low-brow to me means fostering random sex, not love. Take that at face value...I certainly mean no offense. But I calls 'em as I sees 'em...and this sort of an approach strikes me as being, ultimately, self destructive.
Sign me "Been There, Done That, Got the T-Shirt."
Focus on love, not just PUA
101 stuff, and you'll get everyone's attention in a HUGE way.
- M
Second thoughts
It's a good point (and those Persian chickies are hot !! I love those big doe eyes) The way I see it though is that to really appreciate a woman you need to separate who she is from every other woman out there, so you can love her for who she is, not just for being a woman; IOW, you have to get the urgent need for sex out of your system, and pick-up 101 is certainly a good way to do that. Love's the end-goal for a lot of us though, although not for everyone.
Perfect "10"
Urgency is the problem for all of us men, me-thinks...but 'fixing' it via getting laid in a sort of medicinal way is not the solution, as counter-intuitive as that might seem.
Cliff's "The Ten Biggest Mistakes Men Make" of today is a must-read in this regard. I see absolutely nothing in it that top-ten list that I disagree with, and so give it my own personal standing ovation. Simply superb. I'll be paying a lot more attention here as a result.
M