You Don’t Even Need To Say Hello

Paralysis—a sad phenomenon. You see her, you groan, she passes into memory. You intended to approach her. You’ve approached in the past. Why freeze now ? What is it … fear, or laziness ?

Fear (in seduction) is the anticipation of a negative consequence. Pause. The key word here is, “Anticipation,” or, “What might happen if ?” What if I look bad ? What if I screw up ? What if aliens steal my balls to create a clone army ?

The best seducers don’t plan … they act. It goes like this:

See girl
Smile
Stand straight
Move left foot
Move right foot
Open Mouth
Words emerge

Repeat 10,000 times.

Laziness is taking the small reward over the big reward. The big reward takes too much effort. So much so that it seems a foggy dream. It’s much easier to play video games, or whack off. Ahh.

Your little pleasure-seeking brain is constantly searching for the easy route. It will even provide you with valid reasons: “Hey buddy. You need to save your money. You should get rest for work anyway. You can go out next weekend when the weather is better. You need some new clothes, by the way. And a haircut ! Just wait till that next seminar … that will give you the boost you need ! Gonna lose twenty pounds first. She looks like a bitch anyway … blah, blah, blah.”

That’s your little guy. I call him The Eternal Virgin. He’s a great speaker. Bigger than Tony Robbins.

“Thinking” is bad. We ask ourselves a simple question like, “What could happen ?” The Eternal Virgin loves the path of least resistance … “Fight or flight ?” He says, “Duh ... I need a drink. Here buddy, before you approach, let me just show you this list of reasons and possibilities.”

Look at your life as a movie. How far has doing nothing taken you ? How far has thinking taken you ? What a boring movie you’ve become. I want my money back.

Guys always ask me where I found the drive, the time, the passion to go out night after night after night to approach thousands of women. I’ve thought long and hard about why I was so successful where most others gave up and failed.

I had a secret best friend. The greatest wingman in the history of the Universe:

My imagination.

I envision a life with beautiful women. Where I bask like a movie star. Where I dine at hip parties and command social power. Desire is all the motivation I require. Desire got me dressed. Desire got me to the club. Desire had me approach the girls. Desire had me write this article.

That was all the “thinking” I required. The rest was “action.” Don’t think ! Do. The more you think, the more power you give The Eternal Virgin. That guy doesn’t create, only absorbs. One hell of a critic, too.

Note: this doesn’t exclude planning. Know your course. But put the map away.

I don’t live like a movie star quite yet. But I have learned to tell The Eternal Virgin to shut up; I’ve got my own story to tell. I’m the head writer. I spent years learning tricks to shut him up.

If there are no women in your social circle, you are going to have to approach new ones. There is no magic spell of motivation. You must find it within.

2. Slouchy Mc Sloucherson

On your first plunge from a diving board, a shrinking sensation kidnaps your abdomen. Your shoulders contract, you slouch forward to protect your vital organs—it’s the same.

It looks terrible—like a dog with his tail tucked. To correct your posture, practice gazing like a bulimic plastic surgery failure into windows and mirrors. After years, I still catch myself slouching. It just looks bad. Develop your muscle memory—the one that stands tall and proud.

We love to hide our hands deep in pockets, (so cold in the club!) or keep them busy playing with pens, cigarettes—anything within reach. This is how we dispel our nervous energy—don’t. It looks bad. To a woman, these unconscious behaviors scream, “I am a snake that can’t shed his skin. I hate my skin. Who lies more, men or women ?”

Don’t nod your head when you talk, don’t play with your hair, don’t chew your nails. The list goes on.

Pay attention to your body language. Ask your friends if they notice anything that projects insecurity. Then take steps to correct it.

3. Roar Like a Lion

Loud men get laid. Girls aren’t attracted to pipsqueaks. I know Hollywood movies love the cute, shy guy that manages to get the girl because she finally realizes how charming and caring he is. Fuck Hollywood. Those scripts are written by nerds who don’t get laid. Be loud.

Go to a public gathering, look out over the crowd and yell something at the top of your lungs. I dare you. If you can’t project your voice under social pressure, you are in for a long, sad ride. Lube up that real doll.

Imagine a guy whispering, “Hi … I just wanted to meet you.” And then imagine another guy with a booming voice, “Hi. I just wanted to meet you.” Even though the line sucks, you can imagine the difference for a first impression.

Like all of these tips, guys read and forget. They have no idea. In your head you are roaring. On boot camps I get guys yelling animal noises and have them do it over, and over, and over. For many, it’s one of the hardest exercises.

The guys that learn to get loud have greater success in faster time. Get loud !

4. Touch The Girl, Dammit !

You need to get physical. You can’t wait until the end of the date to finally give her a hug and kiss. Get that stuff out of the way from, “Hello.” Hell, you don’t even need to say hello. Let your arm do the talking. Touch her !

Instead of saying something witty, just grab her shoulders or waist. Do this fifty times, and see what happens. Chances are … nothing bad will happen. Actually, something great will happen—you will learn an epic life lesson. You can do anything you want within the law !

For myself, it was frustrating because I would talk and talk, but the girls weren’t coming with me. When I started getting a lot more physical, it translated into more attraction. Physical game rules.

How to learn physical game ? Go out and try it. It’s the only way. Learning to get physical is the easiest route to success with women. On my nights out, I spend a great deal of time on this subject. For example, if I see a guy idly talking to a girl, I will literally lift his hand and put it around her shoulder.

“That’s not good game !”

Sure it’s not. Tell yourself a story—it becomes real ! Are you Harry Potter ?

5. I’m A Douche !

“I don’t care what people think about me.”

I’m sorry—you care. We all do. We are hard wired to care.

Fortunately, we can bury this social instinct deep down in a well called “Freedom.” Many guys won’t practice approaching because they worry what other will think about them. “Oh he’s a creep !” Hey, let them call you what they want. They will still be calling you names while you eat whipped cream off your girlfriend’s breasts.

Look at celebrities: we don’t admire them for looks alone. We respect their drive to step outside the box … to be different and live life. Look at rock stars: they don’t conform; they celebrate their unique style. They say and do whatever they want—and we love them for it.

Practice silencing your inner critic (when he’s not needed). Stop wondering what people think about you. Be aware that every action has a consequence—don’t be an idiot and break any laws—but free yourself from the norms. Live the life you desire.

Practice !

Seduction isn’t something you learn in a month. It takes dedication. If you really want to knock years off your learning curve, you could get professional coaching.

You have the ability to be great. Now go do some approaches, or clean your room, or something.