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EVENT ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Vin DeCarlo:
DiClassified DRILLS Comes to Montreal May 30 - June 1! Vin DiCarlo of DiCarlo DiClassified has released his new drill-based training, which boasts a total of 36+ real time drills specifically designed for pick-up training. Drills based-training develops your game in a way that is systematic, effective, personalized, natural and best of all, fun! Instructor Orleans & TBA. The curriculum can be found at http://www.vindicarlo.com/drills
Johnny Wolf:
Event: 2008 PUA
WORLD SUMMIT, HOLLYWOOD CA, at the Renaissance Hotel in Hollywood!
Date: May 24-25, 2008 @ 10:00 AM
Confirmed Speakers Include:
AFC ADAM LYONS (London Seduction Society, UK’s Rules of the Game);
DAVID WYGANT (Inspiration for the movie “Hitch”);
SAVOY (Love Systems, Mystery Method Corp.);
ASIAN PLAYBOY (ABC of Attraction);
BRAD AND JOEY (All the way from Australia);
VINCE KELVIN (Hypno Sex Magic);
JOHNNY WOLF (http://www.thesocialsecrets.com);
BRAD P., SINN, MeHow (Get the Girl, Mehow.tv), plus a panel with J.the Ripper and other MPUAS!
The line up this year is even more phenomenal, and the focus will be more on world-class education value, and less entertainment value than last year!
For more information or to sign up, go to: the registration site
Grant Adams:
David Deida LIVE.
You've read his books, The Way of The Superior Man and Intimate Communion. You've heard David D, Grant Adams, AMP, Lance and every teacher seriously interested in deeply-rooted masculine core strength recommend his work. He blew away the Toronto Lair and came away praising the PUA community for being SERIOUS about genuine change, whereas, as he said, most other people just yammer about transformation but do nothing and keep failing. Now, David Deida is leading two Weekend Intensives: 150 men and women together, face to face. Interactive, no b.s., balls-to-the-wall breakthrough workshops. One in Seattle in May. These workshops WILL sell out, as they always do. To learn more and get on the priority list, go to http://www.deidaevents.com/
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James:
I just found something yesterday that I would like to share with you. It's called afformations, instead of affirmations, and it is like the secret of life. I just wrote it out today not even that much and the feelings and results I get are amazing. Usually the affirmation would go "all women want me" or something like that, like the stuff Brent teaches, but with afformations, you're asking the question as to why you have it. Just ask yourself this: "Why do women always approach me?" See how powerful that is? every time i say an afformation which is a question you ask yourself about what u want, like instead of "i am rich" you say"why am i so rich, why does money come to me So freely, "Why does everyone love me?" It's so fucking powerful! I mean, I just found it yesterday and have been sayin' it and I feel like I am the sexiest man alive, and am gettin' crazy responses from women. So I just wanted to let you know that this is the new way of saying affirmations, and you can find more at: http://www.successclinic.com/
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Sean (http://seanmessenger.com):
FR: All You Need is Love
This is from a friend who posted this on a private forum. I asked him if I could tell the story to the world, because the world needs to hear it.
This is what he told me: "Spread the Love. Thanks for this, man. I really appreciate it. If it just changes the life of one man, it's all worth it."
Here is his Field Report:
For the past several days, I have been on to something, not merely done something or tried something, that had been recommended to me in the past, but I that had never truly taken to heart: Love.
Seriously guys, Love is all you need. When you have that and truly live that, pickup is a fucking joke.
I work Thursday, Friday, and Saturday nights. Thursday I blast through a coffee shop and with zero hesitation open a blonde who's immediately into me. She was sitting, bored, studying, and all I did was make her laugh and smile. We're hanging out later this week. There were good times at work with other random girls later on, including one saying "I LOVE YOU!" all night long (she was fun later), but it's Sunday now and I don't remember most of them.
That was just a test.
Friday and Saturday night I went full on Loving everyone unconditionally. Men, women, drunks, bums, whoever. It didn't matter. I just pretended that every single person I met was a long-lost really awesome friend who I had forgotten everything about. Then, I pretended that I wasn't pretending. The result: Loving everyone, without question, without hesitation, without judgment, without fear.
Friday night I opened zero, that's right, zero women. Why, you ask? Because I had several different women open me the entire night, one of whom actually ran Game on me:
Tight: You're cute, and I love the way you dance!
Sonorous: I'm a terrible dancer, and you know it. *wink* You're just saying that to get into my pants. It's okay, though, I Love you anyways *hug*
Tight: You know me too well. Hey, meet my friends!
Guys, girls, everyone in the group is into me.
Another mixed 3-set walks up to me as the bar is closing, and the two girls just come on to me right there in front of their guy friend, who isn't caring at all. Right as they're both about to grab my phone so that they can invite me back to their after-party, Tight walks out with her friends, grabs my phone, punches in her number, and gives me the look of "You. Me. Later." I simply nod and see her walk away.
Two more tried to make out with me. Yet another one offered herself home to me. That made 3 total. I didn't want or need anything from any of these women. I simply lit up their worlds, focusing purely on Loving them. Whether or not they loved me back did not change my internal state.
I wish I could remember more and give more details, because I'm usually great at that, but whenever I try to rack my brain and find out exactly what happened to explain the night, I just get this blur of awesome.
I chose Tight to go home with and close because the logistics played themselves out best for her, and because she was the funniest one of the night. There was absolutely zero resistance in her. Let me run that by everyone again: An 8 opens me in front of all of her friends, grabs my phone later and drops in her number, and offers zero resistance in my bedroom. I did nothing but Love and flow.
Last night was even better. A 3-set of 18-year-olds runs up to me, and the cutest one immediately just launches herself at me out of nowhere. I told her that she couldn't help but Love me as I vaulted her into my arms so that her friends could snap a picture of us.
After a couple minutes of flirting and telling her to "get out of here!", she drops her number in my phone and kisses me. She comes back two more times, kissing me each time and leading both of her friends to me, and her friends casually let the "alpha female" of the group at me without any resistance. And, actually, as I write this, she just texted me. We're setting up a massage session later today. She needs one. I could always use one. Everyone wins.
Another blond I hadn't seen in months just grabs me last night and starts grinding with me while yelling in my ear (loud music): "I haven't seen you in months! We need to hang out at my place. Alone." I just smile, hand her my phone, and make plans with her for later.
Yet another blond comes up and talks about when we're hooking up, in front of lots of random guys. And finally, another blond (lots of blonds last night. I'm normally a redhead man, but there's been a streak of these lovely light-haired vixens lately) who I taught personally how to give a man an amazing blow job, and who I can call up at just about any time to get one, helps give me social proof for all of the other women around me. There is no resistance, no insecurity, no negativity at all on anyone's part.
Again, all of these women opened me.
A mixed 5-set comes up as the bar is closing last night and tell me "We're here from Wisconsin on Spring Break!" Two of the three girls grab me and say "Picture!" to one of the guys with a camera. Right after both of them kiss me in a couple of different pictures (I made no moves to make out with them. It was all them), one of them looks back at the guy with the camera and says "My boyfriend is not allowed to see these pictures!" I just laughed.
Logistics don't work out for anyone last night for various reasons, partly because I had other awesome friends I ended up talking to until the sun came up, and awesome friends > new women, but I had the opportunity to pull, again, 3 (4 if I count Great Blowjob Girl) different quality women back to my place. I'm setting up times and dates for each of them later.
I have no idea what I say anymore to women. About 10-20% is a mix of everything I've ever learned in Game; the vast majority is basically "You Love me. It's okay. I already know. You don't have to hide it. I Love you, too. You don't have to cover up and pretend to be cool just to impress me. Come on, kiss me!" with on-the-fly calibration.
Guys I train now will ask me for specific lines and I get absolutely stumped. I make no attempts to ramp up attraction, to deal with Buying Temperature, to try and "figure out" logistics for the night. I Just Love Women, completely and unconditionally, and everything and everyone else literally falls into my lap exactly as it needs to and exactly when it needs to. This is not logical, not explainable. I can't break it down step by step. Just Love Women.
Let me make this extremely clear: Love does not mean being a pussy who can't close. Love does not mean that you can't still slam the biker-bitch in her up against your wall, before you command her to get down on her knees and suck your cock, because you understand that is what she truly needs in order to get wet. Love does not mean that you don't call her out on her "gold plated pussy" syndrome, and make her realize through your actions and emotions (with words at a distant third), and having other women around you, that she is never more valuable than you are.
This is not the "romantic" love society wants us to believe in that has an opposite of hate, jealously, anger, neediness, and other bullshit built into it.
There's a reason I use Love with a capital L.
Other guys who are in Game have told me "You're starting to sound like a New Age hippie" whenever I talk like this. With all due respect, guys, I don't give a fuck. It works, and it works amazingly well with zero effort on my part. I never get "blown out" or "rejected". These concepts are foreign to me now. Negativity just does not exist when I go out. Situations that I would once upon a time ago perceive as such magically work themselves out.
I get more women now more than any other time in my life. I truly don't need them for anything, and they just flow in and out of my bedroom and my life. I light up almost every one that I come into contact with now. I radiate joy.
A few months ago, I thought that I was coming close to the peak of my Game. That there would be little else I could do to skyrocket my success even more. I was completely wrong.
Loving women just for the sake of Love itself has eradicated every single fear, every single sticking point, every single resistance I have ever had. Ever. And I'm just getting started.
You want to be a hurricane everywhere you go?
Love women unconditionally while being completely direct and honest at all times with everyone.
It's that fucking simple, gentlemen. Really."
Clifford's Comment: If you liked that, go to http://fsturl.com/3R
for Sean Messenger's audio interview with the author of the above.
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persian_player:
J. Soporno - Intro to Seductive Reasoning (Review)
In the past couple of weeks, some guys have been suggesting I watch the Johnny Soporno Introduction to Seductive Reasoning videos. I've only had the chance to watch the first one up until now. I decided to post a little review of it for you guys, and for myself because it helps me put some order in my own thoughts.
It has been tremendously helpful to me in my success with women and with relationship with myself as well.
This should more be viewed as a point-form version of my favorite aspects of Johnny's videos, not a complete summary. Just the juicy stuff!
After a while of being in the community, you really start to see things in a different way. I can't even put into words and besides, if I was able to make you see what I see within women and myself, it would probably boggle your mind. Your reality changes. Threesomes become normal, just like eating when you're hungry is normal. Fucking in the streets is also normal. Fucking in the ass is also very normal. Unfortunately though, social programming has conditioned us to associate certain things with the negative and others with the positive without allowing us to think for ourselves. Anyway, there's a lot to say, I won't go on over here right now.
But, if any of you would like to discuss this or would like to talk about Johnny Soporno's his frame, feel free to contact me.
--PART ONE--
Making people feel good makes you feel good yourself. Doing good things for people who are grateful for it makes you feel good yourself.
Offer help to someone who needs your help.
Them: No I don't need your help
You: Ok, well if you change your mind, I have a few minutes, and I'd be glad to help.
This is going to make you feel great about yourself, in the long run.
Sexually liberated people don't rate women based on what society rates the "correct woman". This is non-judgmental acceptance.
For nomads, initially, property was not important. When humans became sedentary, property became more and more important. Women and men became property-like as well.
Women fundamentally crave a lot of security. Men crave approval. If a man feels something will get him disapproval, he won't do it, unless he's sure he can get away with it.
People don't like that feeling of belonging. They only like the natural sense of belonging.
For many men, their child being their own is very important. That's why humans developed something called "The value of virginity". And in order to terrify people into behaving themselves, people were starting to be terrified of "GOD". Don't do this, don't do that. "Don't have sex with people you're not married to". "Don't steal". Most of these rules come down to valuing property.
We all value variety. Even in women. Even if it costs us validation.
When in sex, males or females say sex with a person doesn't count, it's for different reasons. While males use it for guilt relief because of what other people may think of them or what they may think of themselves for e.g sleeping with an ugly chick...Females use the "didn't count" thing to protect their social reputation.
Johnny's frame is: I'll be good to you, and yes, I am sexually attracted to you and I will sleep with you. I will be your friend and will be around when you need me, but I'm not interested to be your boyfriend. Not because you're not attractive, but because have no interest in taking on that role of the boyfriend. No more than I would like that title.
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All women over the past thousand years, have been thrown in two categories.
1) SLUT: A woman who has sex because she enjoys it. A woman who has sex with no intention of marriage or relationship. We call her SLUT. Everyone has been raised to see sluts as something bad.
2) WHORE: The other woman is the one who sees sex as something she gives. A girl who will have sex if she's certain she's getting something out of it. We call her a WHORE. There are 2 types of whores, the sleazy one, the HOE. The other is the WIFE. A woman who makes a contract to give her sexuality to just one guy in exchange of a lifetime of support for her and her kids.
So basically, marriage is like life-long prostitution. Give exclusive sex to a man in exchange of money and support.
Women have been so ingrained with hatred of themselves if they believe they are being slutty, that they will go out of their way by not doing things they'd love to do.
Society has taught women that if she does things for her own reasons, because she enjoys it, then she has no self-respect. This makes no sense.
To Johnny Soporno, every action we take is a selfish act. Every act we do is selfish, to make us feel good, to get something. Being selfish however has bad reputation. For example, altruism (the act of helping the others) is a selfish act because we always forget that altruistic people give to others because it makes them feel good.
The goal of his teachings is to be able to allow women to liberate their minds of having a choice of being a slut or a whore. To understand that whatever decision she makes, you won't judge her, as long as it makes her happy. And yes, you would love to sleep with her and [will make no excuses for your desires as a man - Mystery].
A worthy playboy is a person who's not looking to be with women because he wants external validation (vs. Worthless Playboy).
Human females are the only females that don't advertise when they're horny. It is because society conditions them and judges them.
According to Soporno, women will try to get the strongest seed to impregnate them and find someone else to support and give them the comfort they need to raise the child.
One of the things that makes a powerful image when talking to a woman is to tell her what you want to become. It is disarming. Johnny's looking out for the best interests of the woman. He tells her "I will never fuck you over, but I will gladly fuck you over and over".
When he's looking and talking to a girl, he's thinking "how beautiful she will look covered in his semen". The girl knows that Johnny is here to get to know her. He wants to know what she tastes like, and he wants her to know what he tastes like. Women love sex, especially when men know how to handle the sex.
Let women know you're comfortable with them. Communicating with them as a person.
Johnny's LMR is generally the same. They ask "Why me? You've got all these other girls?". The answer is "What the fuck is wrong with you. You're a person, I'm interested in you as a person because you're YOU! I'm not going to bed with you because I need to get laid by some girl. There's plenty of girls.
He decorates women's lovely smiles with his creamy affection. LOL.
Do nice things for people without wanting anything from them. Appreciate people for who they are.
People get into couples and make social contracts. They then get bored of the sex and forget to pay attention to each other. Even if they are having sex, there is no sexuality to it.
Often men who can't get it up with their wives, if they spend enough time with other attractive women, when they get back to their woman, then they are enthusiastic about the sex again. To Johnny (and I agree myself) we need sexual variety as men and women.
You must tell women the truth. You tell them the terms with which you live. He believes that sexual exclusivity (if I understood correctly) is against our nature.
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James:
I will never be without sex ever again... How? Because I've built up a network.
Right now I have one regular FB, and two others I know I could go to if needed. There are other girls who could come into this role, and of course I'm always looking out for new people.
In this position, if one girl gets a boyfriend there are plenty of others. It stops me being needy. I got to this place by never burning any bridges... I only ever sleep with girls I like to spend time with, so even if things aren't working out, I always leave on as good terms as possible.
So you may be asking... how can this help you? Well, firstly don't burn bridges. Just because a lady is saying no now, doesn't mean that she will do so in the future. Keep things friendly. If you like having FB's, make sure your ex's and female friends know the score.
Now this even works if you're moving countries. My ex girlfriend arranged meeting with me even before she got to the country. I picked her up at the airport, and things went from there!
I went overseas a couple of years ago, back to a country I used to live in. In the couple of weeks before I went, I was busy emailing and messaging all my favourite friends. All I will say is that it paid dividends.
The next step for me is to build a network of girls I find really truly attractive. I want a good solid relationship with a special girl, and these are girls that I don't find often... So I'm getting to know all the girls I find drop dead gorgeous. It doesn't matter if they are currently taken, or are in another country, or whatever. The idea is by the time I've got say 20 of these, I'll have my choice of 2 or 3 at any time. I'm not going to be chasing these women, but enjoying my time with them as and when I see them, and of course letting them know my intentions for them.
I said earlier that I'll never be without sex... the intention is that I'll never be without a super hot girlfriend who I find drop dead gorgeous.
The same goes with not only ladies, but also any other sort of social connection.
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AFC Adam (http://www.adamlyons.co.uk/):
An explanation of value with a hint of outcome independence.
So I've spent the last few weeks in some interesting conversations with some guys on the essence of value. After a particularly insightful conversation last night I think I've come up with a few theories I thought I'd share.
Since starting the game I've never really had approach anxiety ("AA"), I just don't suffer from it. My desire to succeed outweighed my fear of rejection. Until talking yesterday I never really understood just how valuable this was.
As far as we understand a lot of attraction is based on value.
We all want what we can't obtain, we seek girls with higher value. A hotter girl isn't as attractive if she's slept with everyone as her market value decreases, unless we are lower value than her, i.e. struggle with girls, feel the need to validate ourselves by sleeping with her based on her looks alone, etc.
This value, however, isn't a measure of our physical or financial worth. Being rich doesn't automatically make you high value.
If you have a posh car and you show it to everyone you meet, you're actively seeking validation from them. Therefore you don't feel higher value, you're seeking confirmation of your value from others. Ergo you don't recognise that you have value. If you don't see it, then why would anyone else?
So real Value is portrayed in our body language, in the way we speak, hell in everything you do.
You could be working at Macdonalds, yet portray incredibly high value.
For example:
HB: What do you do for a living?
Maccy D Dude: I could tell you, but I don't think you'd understand.
HB: What do you mean?
Maccy D Dude: Well I think you may make a judgement without fully understanding the situation.
HB: I don't understand, tell me.
Maccy D Dude: Ok, I work at Macdonalds, but you need to understand why. I work here because I've had a very poor upbringing and while here I can get aid in a catering qualification which I plan on using to get myself work in a kitchen at a bar. With only a few years working there, I hope to work my way up to being a head chef and eventually completing all the qualifications necessary to be able to open up my own restaurant where I will be serving delicacies that I like to invent in my spare time.
Now as you can tell despite the fact that he currently has a job that isn't particularly impressive, he is able to convey value by having a clear ambition. He also doesn't degrade his job, or hide it. In fact, he sort of qualifies the girl before telling her what he does to get her to actually view the situation without pre-conceived notions (well, as many as possible).
So value is capable of being translated via communication, or, to be more to the point, Sub-communication.
However how does this help us with regards to game aside form the obvious attraction building? More importantly how can we actually portray this value?
One of the key factors is actually outcome independence. Something I'm beginning to realise is fundamental to Value.
In any given situation, the value of that situation can be viewed differently by any two people.
E.g if a random AFC is in a conversation with an HB the value could be represented as being
Conversation value to AFC = High
Conversation value to HB = Low
So the AFC would be needing the conversation more than her. If someone were to come and interupt to take the HB to an interview for a new modeling job then after a few moments she may forget that conversation completely, whereas the AFC would remember it for a good while to come.
Now, lets look at the situation again but add numerical values to the value.
AFC = 20
HB = 1
He is 20 times more invested in the conversation than she is.
Now imagine someone who is COMPLETELY outcome independent going into the same situation.
MR Outcome Independent Conversation value = 0
HB = 1
Now even though she may only give the conversation a value of 1 it is still significantly higher than his.
Therefore she is alot more invested than he is by default! The situation means more to her than him, and therefore she has more to lose. When she senses this loss she will begin to invest in the situation to try and ensure she doesn't lose any value, i.e. the value of the conversation to her.
This investment increases her buy-in to the conversation.
This increases the value of the conversation to her.
MR Outcome Independent Conversation value = 0
HB = 2
The more she invests, the more she feels a need to maintain the situation, and the more she becomes attracted to it.
Now obviously I've given the HB a value of 1 because if I gave her a value of 0 both parties would walk away without anything. However, when you take into account how often people actually seek validation you begin to realise that they usually do give some form of value to absolutely any given situation. It's just that normally it's a lot less than an AFC.
Why does negging work?
It works because it shows the girl that you haven't given her any value in that specific situation and she bites back because she has given it at least some form of value.
Now obviously being completely outcome independent is easier said than done. However maybe it'll give you something to focus on. When I first started in the game my desire to succeed outweighed my AA. Consequently I opened everything not with the aim of getting the girl but with the aim of learning what WOULDN'T work. Therefore I was outcome independent. I am beginning to understand just how much this was a key area of my own development.
Anyway guys, just a few random ramblings.
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Scot McKay (http://www.thechickwhisperer.com/exclusive/
slist):
SIX WAYS TO MAN UP
One of the most prevalent themes of questions I receive has to do with how EXACTLY to "be masculine".
Inherently, most of us---men and women alike---suspect that the diametrically opposite personae of "Mr. Nice Guy" and the "Bad Boy" can't be the only possible choices when it comes to slotting guys according to their general demeanor.
But based on what you tend to read nowadays, you'd think that was the case.
Well, by now you know that I spend a lot of time talking about the concept of being a GREAT MAN.
He is not a neuter, wussified "Mr. Nice Guy" who believes he can get somewhere by "kissing up" to pretty women. He is also not an abusive, cold-hearted slacker who slaps women around.
What he IS about is being a HIGH-QUALITY human being, who happens to exude sheer masculine presence all the while.
And it's that "masculine presence" factor that tends to confound guys everywhere. Surely this isn't about being "macho". It isn't about "slaying dragons" and "conquering enemies" either.
Of course not. At least not these days, for most of us.
So how about some straight-talk about what it IS about?
Right on.
Here are six measures of TRUE MASCULINITY, as adored by women everywhere.
Notice "adored" starts with an "A". I've made it so every point below starts with an "A" also. Call this lesson "How To Get Straight "A"s In Masculinity". Ready? Here we go:
1) Assist With Strength
Recently I was talking to a guy who was told by a great woman that he probably wasn't her "type", as disappointed as she was about it.
When pressed why, the first reason that came to her mind revolved around how she had been struggling with a heavy suitcase at the airport...while he watched glassy-eyed and empty-handed.
Sure, women are more independent now than they've ever been. But here's a major hint: That doesn't mean they don't appreciate you doing the "heavy lifting" for them.
In fact, if you proudly do the high-reaching, heavy lifting and pickle-jar opening...and she DOESN'T appreciate it, it's not your problem. I promise.
2) Assert With Strength
About two hours ago I got an e-mail from a VIRTUOSITY guy who is making exceptional strides in his newfound ability to make high-quality women desire him immensely.
The latest? At the end of an event the other night, the venue was closing but a woman (whom he wasn't even particularly attracted to) needed to use the bathroom before leaving for a long-ish drive home.
When told she couldn't by some employee of the venue, our main man reasoned a "newfound commitment to customer service" into the employee's mindset. He did so with calmness, but with resolve.
And EVERY woman around, including the one he WAS attracted to took notice. Terrific.
Take up for the people in your life when it's the right thing to do. Care not whether or not who you're standing up for is attractive to you.
Do this especially when it's potentially uncomfortable for both you AND for the person who requires taking some initiative toward.
Try opening such conversations with, "You and I need to 'visit' about something." That's a Texas-born phrase with universally understood intentions, signaling that a disagreement is about to be addressed in a very direct, albeit civil manner.
3) Attend With Strength
Do what you say you'll do, when you say you're going to do it. Keep promises, without complaint.
When you mess up, which will be rarely, apologize.
When women can trust your promises, you build that level of SAFETY in their minds AND in their hearts. When you tell women you've got things handled, they BELIEVE YOU.
This is not to be confused with being predictable or with having a supplication problem. If you are repeatedly being "owned" by women, then you aren't getting the concept.
Think rock solid LEADERSHIP versus kissing up and you are well on your way to greatness.
Women can't resist a man who is trustworthy and dependable. It speaks volumes about your central core character strength as a MAN (as we'll discuss more next).
4) Align With Strength
While #3 above (Attend) speaks to your actions, this one speaks to your CORE character. This is the more overarching, far-reaching concept.
Essentially, by "alignment" here I mean that all your "numbers match", just like what makes a classic car valuable.
Consistency in all your thoughts, beliefs, and values...above and beyond words and deeds.
There's a distinct CONGRUENCE between who you appear to be and who you really are.
In case you're wondering, YES...this is yet another way to perfectly encapsulate the elusive cure for "What Do I Do Next Syndrome".
5) Assume With Strength
Yeah, I know what happens when you assume. But what we're talking about here is not being naïve but putting away neediness in exchange for social confidence.
A real man assumes approval and even attraction while neither demanding it nor begging for it. This results in an unmistakable aura of flat-out confidence that exudes masculine presence and dignity.
Lots of guys have no idea what women could possibly see in Leonardo DiCaprio. He used to be one of my least favorite actors for exactly that reason.
Once I buried myself in learning about what women really want, I soon (and unwittingly) figured out why women dig him.
He's got THIS down, that's why.
6) Anticipate With Strength
Well, since "A Plan" sounded a bit, well, forced...I chose "Anticipate" as the 6th "A" on this particular report card.
Come to think of it, I believe "anticipate" is exactly the word I was looking for anyway.
Have a plan. When you pick her up, know where the evening's headed. Don't offload that on her. She won't appreciate it.
Have a plan for your LIFE also. Think women want rich guys? Well, being rich is merely a symptom of AMBITION, as we've discussed around here before. Women love a man with a plan for his life. It's irresistible to them.
But "anticipation" is more than a plan. It's LEADERSHIP.
The anticipator has his "plan" mapped out several chess moves in advance. That way no matter what goes down, he's never rattled. He's the guy with the Swiss Army knife. He's the guy with the jumper cables. We already know (see #1) he's the guy who rescues his woman when she has a flat tire.
With the measure of confidence afforded by #5 above, the guy with the deeply-rooted "field sense" we're talking about here becomes the de facto leader in any situation when the chips are down.
A few such battle-tested sorties and genuine WISDOM is naturally the imminent--and desired--result.
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Note that all six "A" words are modified with STRENGTH. My purpose there is that I want you to clearly see the difference between what women view as STRENGTH versus the traditionally male understanding.
The musclehead guys aren't necessarily the "strong" ones to most women out there. In fact, depending on their motivations they can appear quite the opposite.
Can you see that distinct difference now?
Ruminate for a moment upon the persona of the kind of guy who fulfills upon the 6 "As" above.
Can you see how the MASCULINE traits combine with CHARACTER to form an image that is intensely attractive precisely to HIGH-CHARACTER WOMEN?
To sum all of this up, being a GREAT MAN who gets somewhere with GREAT WOMEN is more defined by what WOMEN THEMSELVES WANT from a man rather than our own visions of speed, power, all-conquering wealth and world domination.
So many of us as guys throw up our hands and pronounce women as "impossible to understand". Meanwhile, women are on the other side of the fence puzzling over the "enigma" that is manhood.
Truth is, we're all human. And we're a lot more ALIKE than you think--especially with regard to what our CHARACTER is composed of.
If you want women who will lie, cheat and finally cuckold you someday then deceptive "quick fixes" and pure "pickup" game may do the trick.
If you want a GREAT WOMAN, the strategy is WAY different.
But still, understanding the ways we ARE different is the true secret to transforming exceptional manhood into exceptional ability to ATTRACT the MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex) you want most.
And it's by no means impossible.
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CHECK OUT THESE LINKS (THESE ARE NOT PROMOS!)
Mick: Check out Cliff's List on Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seduction_community
Konen: Savage has an interview with a stripper...an awesome quote... http://fsturl.com/3S
Savage also has a great quote on his MySpace Page - “The only thing women hate more than being viewed as a sexual object….is NOT being viewed as a sexual object.”
Mystery Applies for a Patent:
http://fsturl.com/3T
Pick Up on Dr. Phil: http://fsturl.com/3U
see also: http://fsturl.com/3V
Greg (myspace.com/jokeswithoutlaughter):
I've spent a lot of time over the last couple of months working on a video parody of The Mystery Method. It is finally finished. The link is below - I hope you like it!
http://my.break.com/content/view.aspx?ContentID=486643
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