Smells like coconut and mangoes !
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EVENT ANNOUNCEMENTS:
- Vin DiCarlo
- Realman Conference
A FEW NEW PROMOS:
- Carlos Xuma
- Dr. Paul
- Ron Louis & Dean Cortez
- Scot McKay
FREEBIES:
- Mike Patrick Interview by Vince Kelvin
- Payton Kane Facebook group
CONTENT:
- Persian.Player: LR
: The Erotic Masseuse (from my apt. building!)
- Zardoz: The key to constant state-You will be laid
- Intrance2: Women in Lairs?
- Spezzatura: LR: Being bold
- Oliver Turner: 5 ways to “WOW” women with your approach
EVENT ANNOUNCEMENTS:
Vin DiCarlo:
The DiClassified Drills Bootcamp is a 3-day hands on workshop with LIVE in-field training that will quickly and easily instill EACH AND EVERY belief and skill YOU need to become attractive to and successful with women. They just scheduled some new dates and the spots are going fast:
SAN FRANCISCO, USA - AUG 29-31
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Go here for a full course description or to sign up: www.vindicarlo.com/drills/signup.php
David:
The Real Man Conference is going to be the biggest training event on seducing women ever! It's held 20 & 21 September in the luxury 1750 seat RAI auditorium in Amsterdam (The Netherlands). More than a dozen of the finest MPUA's from all around the world are lined up to reveal their secrets. Amongst them are AFC Adam, Gambler, Zan, Johnny Soporno, Sean Messenger and Sebastian Drake. It will be the community event of the year where PUA's gather from all around the world to meet up, learn and get inspired. An ideal opportunity to make new international friends, check out the city of Amsterdam, it’s vibrant nightlife and of course the beautiful Dutch women! Though all speakers will speak in English, it's possible to rent headphones and listen to a live translation in the language of your choice: Dutch, Spanish, Italian, German or French. Make sure you reserve in advance! For our international guests we made a special deal with StayOKAY hostels: for just 75 EU (about $112) extra on top of the ticket price you can have a place to stay for two nights (arrival on Friday September 19th and departure on Sunday the 21st) including breakfast and lunch package for both days together. You won't find such a cheap price to stay anywhere else in Amsterdam! By now you are probably wondering what such an event would cost for you to attend. Attending workshops or seminars of all the speakers we contrasted would normally cost you thousands of dollars. What do you think we charge? $1000? $750? You will be surprised. The price at the door is just 297 EU ($445) for the whole weekend. On top of that: for the first 500 early birds we offer a price as low as 195 EU ($292) per ticket.
As a member of Cliff’s List you get an extra 10% discount so you only pay 175 euro (about $260 or 145 pound). But don’t wait too long, for it’s only for the first 500 early birds. Book your discount ticket here using discount code 567. See you all in Amsterdam! www.realmanconference.com/
A FEW NEW PROMOS:
Carlos Xuma:
If you want to learn more about the most important skill a guy can have in dating... Check out Carlos Xuma's Approach Blog with videos and groundbreaking articles...! Also, Carlos has posted a new video that you're going to want to see. It's a ton of Q&A where he answers some great questions about approaching - especially during the day! Once you get day game under your belt, your game EVERYWHERE will skyrocket. Go see the blog here:
link.cliffslist.com/Vg
Dr. Paul:
There are NO MORE excuses for not achieving what you need to accomplish with dating, relationships and career. If you've been looking for that "kick" to get you into gear, here they are. These essential products from Dr. Paul are instantly downloadable and hold scientific methods for achieving lasting success. Get it here: www.doctorpaul.net/essentials/
Ron Louis & Dean Cortez:
Who else wants to start dating beautiful younger women and feel more youthful and sexually vital? We've got an All-Star team of the top dating & lifestyle coaches in the world, including Zan Perrion, Brent Smith, Sean Stephenson, Savoy, R. Don Steele, Nico Princely, and Carlos Xuma, who share the techniques that get them laid in their personal lives by beautiful younger women! Get it here: youngerdating.com/
Scot McKay:
After you approach a woman and get her number, what comes next? If you actually like her and want to have her stay a while, you've got to know how to manage relationships. Scot McKay's new program THE LEADING MAN is the first complete system for relationship management--arguably the most important skill when it comes to being great with women. Check out THE LEADING MAN and watch four free videos when you log in. Scot also is rumored to have an unprecedented onslaught of bonuses lined up for guys who get in on his pre-launch list. It's all here: www.the-leading-man.com/ Discover exactly how to "wear the pants"...without losing your shirt.
FREEBIES:
Mike Patrick (www.seductionrevolution.com):
Vince Kelvin interviewed me recently and the link is here:
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Anonymous Rightway:
I created a new Facebook group for fans of Payton Kane and we are looking for more people to join:
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CONTENT BEGINS HERE:
Persian.Player:
LR: The Erotic Masseuse (from my apt. building!)
It's been a while I haven't written a report. After getting tons of validation from women, whether it'd them calling you, making out with you within a few minutes of meeting you or fucking you, you begin feeling that sex is probably the most normal thing there is. Just like having a meal is. Or taking a shower. Or taking a shit. We don't think about these things twice.
But when it's sex, at least as a newbie, I remember I used to over-analyze the entire process and the end result. Now I just explain it to women: "Most people in society are very uncomfortable with their sexuality. Most women think they're giving sex and men think they're getting lucky. In my world, sex isn't something people give or get, it's something we share". And I make women repeat this after me.
Cliff always told me, and I couldn't agree more: Women want sex a lot more than men. So accuse them of what you think they're accusing you of.
Milachku told me the other unfortunate fact: 20% of men are fucking 80% of the women. Sad, but true.
Once you become comfortable with your sexuality though, you don't go around with the same mindset of actively seeking sex. You're masculine, comfortable within your own self, and when the occasion arises for sex, you allow it to happen as if it were a meal you were to have.
Keep in mind, that I'm currently looking for a girlfriend. I'm sick and tired quick, monkey, empty sex. I want a connection. Sorry if I sound like the little mermaid, but once people have enough ONSs or short-term shallow relationships, they will certainly want to appreciate and enjoy something deeper.
Nevertheless, I love the art of pick-up and I will always keep my skills very sharp because I consider pick-up a valuable thing.
All right, so I'm seriously thinking of writing a book on how-to-fuck-your-neighbours (see my other reports if you don't know what I'm talking about.) It's gotten easier and easier. It's gotten to the point where they get jealous of each other and some of them snap at me.
I opened this girl a few weeks ago telling her something retarded like, "Hey, I noticed you just moved in." I busted on her telling her I hope she's not a stripper or an escort because I've met too many of those. She says she's a receptionist. I see her a few days later and ask the usual building question: "So, which side's your apartment located?" Then, once she answers, I tell her I'm thinking of moving to her floor because my apartment's noisy as hell because there's a zoo living upstairs from me and a schizo under my apartment. I tell her I'd like her opinion on something. I literally take her hand and bring her to my place. I ask a useless question like, "Do you think light gray paint looks my place look masculine enough or is it a bit dark in here?" She gives me a useless answer. I tell her I want to check what the view's like at her apartment. During this time, I'm doing a lot of playful kino (e.g. I have beach ball at my place, and I throw it on her bum, and when she asks about my peacocking book, "Why men love bitches?" I tell her not to be too nosey and I gently tap her on the back or the shoulder.)
Anyway, that evening I bump into her again and I say: "Well, why are you looking at me like you don't know me? Isn't the polite thing to do to invite me over for a drink, being that you just moved in?" LoL. Of course, it should be the opposite; the romance novels want the man to invite the new neighbour woman to his place.
We go to her place. More playful kino. I'm a bit cocky and when she's offended, I give her warm hugs. This is a very effective tactic. It's almost crucial to create contrast in the interaction (make her feel a bit sad, and then give her some love.) They can't resist this. Sorry if I sound like a manipulative bastard. It's not my fault, I didn't invent female psychology. I just know how to use it to my advantage.
That evening, I am craving for validation, so I go for the kiss prematurely. She gives me the cheek. I say "You don't like kisses?" She giggles. I say, looking her deep in the eyes "You're right. We should only kiss if we're both comfortable, that way the kiss will be more intense, more pleasurable, and we'll both feel it all over." She smiles. I completely shift the energy of the interaction to something else (I don't want her to think all I want is to kiss her.) She has a lot of garbage on her balcony and I throw it all in the back alley. It is funny, we are both laughing.
Idea is, as long as a woman's emotional because of a man's actions, he's seducing her.
I tell her a bit about my philosophies of life. Usually when I tell a woman this stuff, it's a guaranteed close. Whether it be today or tomorrow, women realize that with me, they have nothing to lose and everything to gain. My views on life are something along the lines of "Isn't it sad how women get judged for sex but men don't?" I then give her a definition of the word slut and how appreciated sluts should be because they're sexually emancipated. Magically, after this speech, she starts telling me about work and upon inquiring about her job, she tells me she's an erotic massotherapist. I ask her about what she does exactly and it goes like this:
1. 15 minutes of warm up massage
2. 15 minutes of deep massage
3. 15 minutes of Thai massage (naked body against naked body)
4. 15 minutes of hand job
Of course the idea is that you're not judging her for what she does. Furthermore, you praise her for having found such a highly paid job and ask her if it makes her happy. If it does, you praise her further. If it doesn't, you don't become her therapist. That's unattractive. Instead, you hold her in your arms and say "It's ok, I'm sure everything will work out for you." Women appreciate hugs WAY more than talk.
It was surprising though. When we talk about the erotic massages and the hand jobs, she told me a lot of guys are just lonely and looking for someone they can cuddle with. She tells me often they don't even want to fuck, they just want to hold her. Damn, thank God some of us found the community.
Anyway, after hanging out with her a little bit, I tell her I had to leave. Always being the one to end interactions on a high note is a good rule. Although everything must be calibrated! Listen to your gut.
I see her a few days later downstairs, I say what's up. I was going to the pool for a swim. I ask her what she's doing. She's coming back from work. I tell her to come to the pool if she wants. She agrees. Whenever you have the occasion to do something different and you can bring a girl along, DO IT.
We go to the pool, and of course I do my usual teasing. I ask her to tell me what that "thing" is in the bottom of the deep end of the pool. And upon her bending down to see what I'm talking about, I push her in, and make fun of her.
I then jump in, I hug her, because I initially pushed her in. Do you guys see how the touching escalates? It's good old: Push, Pull!
Now we've gone from politically correct hand touching, to hugging, to hugging naked. We play with the ball. The idea was to have fun. I was going to have fun at the pool anyway. Luckily, she came along and we were able to double the fun!
We come back to my place…and this is where things get fucked up. We start watching a movie. My place is set-up in such a way that she HAS to sit on my bed. Otherwise, she can stand. I tell her to come closer, we hug. I kiss her cheek. I kiss her neck. I move away. A few minutes later, I kiss her again, and then we proceed to make-out. She doesn't let me go further and she's a crazy bitch. She bites. Hard. Yes, another one of those. Horny women that weren't taught the concept of pain.
So I tell her that if she bites one more time, she'll have to pay the price…and of course…tell a woman what not-to-do and it's a guarantee that she will. She bites again.
I tell her she's going to pay for it. I grab both her hands and if I'm arresting her (playfully of course). I say something along the lines of "You're under arrest for biting. You have the right to be fingered. Anything you say can and will be used to finger you right now." LOL. I pull her pants off, pure caveman style. I start fingering the shit out of her using Steve P's yin and yang techniques, as well as Guru Master's squirting technique. She's going crazy. Unfortunately I have a class during the evening. So I tell her to get out in the middle of her pleasure. She's gasping. She' can't believe it. I tell her "I'd fuck you more passionately than any man who has ever laid hands on you, but I really have to go. Come here." I hug her, give her pussy a warm rub, and kick her out.
30 seconds later, she's knocking on my door again. She says "I didn't forget anything did I?" I say "I know why you came back". I slide my hand into her thong again and finger her a bit more while kissing her against the door of the entrance. I tell her I will see her soon for Part II of our adventure. She smiles and leaves.
Two nights later, I get a text from her saying "I want you." This is where I potentially fucked up. When a girl gives you a green light for sex for the first time, NEVER DECLINE HER OFFER. I did, I had a final law exam the next day. I sent her "I want you too. We'll see each other one of these days."
She's angry. She's got game.
She messages me with "Oops, I'm sorry, I messaged the wrong guy."
I say "O…k"
She says "I swear, you're not the kind of guy I would sleep with. I'm not even attracted to you."
Nice. She's justifying herself, which means I made her react. She's pissed because she got rejected.
2 weeks pass. In the meantime, she sees me game some other girl in the hallway and she's like, "Who's tonight's superstar, having fun flirting?" I love when girls AMOG, so I say, "Why don't you come gimme a hand, she's pretty good at flirting!" She giggles and leaves. The other neighbour I was gaming should transition into a LR soon.
I see her once last week and say hi. She's acting cold and dismissive. I tell her I didn't mean to hurt her when I sent her that text declining sex, I had a huge exam. She tells me it doesn't matter, she has a boyfriend now. I tell her "I thought you had a boyfriend all along and that I felt special being the guy on the side." She laughs but tells me I'm such an asshole lol.
Anyway, last night I was at the video store and I get this message from her (I had deleted her number.) She says, "You look cute in that black shirt and those jeans." I can't see where she is. I don't show too much of a reaction to this. Besides, I was kind of pissed because another girl had flaked on me.
I walk into Subway restaurant to grab a bite. I get another message "Bon appétit." I was cracking up because I had a stalker after my ass. I SMS her: "I just rented 5 horror movies and you're stalking me. Crazy gal." I eat and go back home. She calls me. She asks if I have a mold for making muffins. Useless question. I tell her I'm busy writing a business letter and that if she's interested, she can come down and check if there's any muffin stuff under my oven. She doesn't show up.
I go take a shower. She knocks. I come out all wet and scream, "Whoever it is, WAIT, I'll be there in a minute, I'm all wet." I open the door, she comes in, she checks to see if there's muffin molds. She says there aren't. She says "Ok then, I guess I'll go." I say "Ok, peace," completely unaffected, as if I'm writing an e-mail. She says "Bye." But she doesn't move, lol. I say, "Usually when someone says 'Bye,' they leave." She says, "You're kicking me out, whatever." She leaves lol. I was soooo pissed. I had run into my ex earlier who was being bitchy and my date had flaked.
I had rented all kinds of movies and I figured that, in retrospect, I'd rather have a girl's company than watch the movies alone. I went up and knocked on her door. She opens but doesn't let me in. I tell that I had a few things to do but that she's welcome to come see the movie but not to make muffins!
She comes down, we start watching the movie and I ask her for a massage. I take off my shirt and give her some grape seed oil. She tells me she has pain too. I say I'll massage her too. When it's time to massage her, she doesn't let me take anything off. No escalation.
So again, I caveman. I tell her "I'm the man, I make the rules." I take her top off, she lies down, I massage her using the techniques I learned in my Swedish massotherapy class. She's enjoying it. She has the biggest and nicest natural breasts I've ever seen. I start massaging her thighs but her short is in the way. And she's resisting. So I pull everything off at once.
I tell her to feel comfortable. The funny thing is. Women who do this kind of sexual thing for a living are more comfortable with guys and sexuality, but they're also more resistant to sex because everyone constantly tries to fuck them. I explain this to her, and tell her to be at ease. I tell her. The only thing that counts is that we have fun. I massage her thighs and start massaging around her pussy. Just teasing her.
I get my fingers in there again, I do a bit of bowling-ball, a bit of yang, and a bit of random shit and she's horny as fuck. I want to take a shower because I'm oily but she doesn't want to come. I tell her to remember my rule. She follows me. She tells me I have no candles! I ask her if she does, she says yes and she brings 3 beautiful candles, with seashells and stuff! Ahhhh, women are all so cute!
She brings her tropically fragrant body gel. Smells like coconut and mangoes! We get in there, we wash each other. From there, I grab a condom, put it on and proceed to fucking the living daylights out of her. The sex was good, although I was very tired.
It's funny because women in the sexual industry are very knowledgeable when it comes to knowing what a man's body responds too. She knows exactly how to touch a cock. Not too gentle, not too rough. Just enough to make you want to pin her down and ravish her.
Anyway, the best part was after sex. She really opened up. She showed me all the websites of all the places she works at. It's an amazing industry.
She's moving into a condo soon and she showed me the girl she's moving in with. It's another erotic masseuse and she's bisexual and they really like having fun together.
She was asking me to promise I'd come see her once she's moved because her apartment is so cute. This got me thinking, if you're in the right reality, and with the right kind of woman, sex is the most natural thing ever. So is being with a bisexual woman and having threesomes. This is the kind of girl this sort of thing happens with. Girls who don't feel guilty having sex.
Moral of the story:
1. You don't have to rush for sex. As long as you keep the sexual tension, she knows you're voluntarily not escalating.
2. Don't be offended by what a woman says. If she's insulting, cold or mean, it only means she has her own insecurities and discomfort. She insulted me a few times but I just looked at her as if she's socially inept.
3. It's good to know open-minded women who have this kind of job. It opens your eyes to the game and the realities behind the society we live in.
4. Try not to decline sex. Women don't like getting turned down for that, it took me a lot of effort to rekindle the fire.
Note: This girl's definitely NOT girlfriend material (in case you hadn't already noticed.) I'm going to keep her as a good friend to extend my social circle. Having a few friends like her is doorway to meeting some of Montreal's top sluts.
Zardoz:
The key to constant state-You will be laid
How to be in state, all the time.
This is a guide on how to get laid. More than that, it's about how to feel good. There are many aspects that aren't covered. Self esteem is a complex topic, and each case is unique. And that's really what all this stuff is about…self esteem. This is about feeling good and getting laid consistently.
How to feel awesome (State): You want to lead a happy and fulfilling existence—so strive for it. As long as you're working on an aspect of your life, that core drive will be satisfied. I like to write, and not just about pickup. I write poetry, fiction, non fiction. I play in a band, I throw parties, I practice and teach self improvement, I'm training to be a bartender, working out, and saving money to travel to Southeast Asia. These are the fundamentals of my purpose.
Identity is not for the world, it's for yourself. Get a hobby, a passion, and work on it daily. Not so you can tell people your value…so that you have a mission. Without a mission, man is lost, and people sense that. Work on your mission daily; that may mean cleaning your room, working out, going to school, meeting new friends, playing sports, seeking a promotion. Own what you do.
Don't go home at night, watch YouTube and fall asleep with your dick in your hand. Create a life and move forward. Work on your legacy. When you start making progress, you will gain a sense of power, and people are drawn to power, seeking admittance to your reality. Forward action is the key to building power.
The Care Bear Stare: keep your energy contained. This creates a magnet. People want to tap into that energy. When someone insults you, don't react. Stay positive and let it flow past like water: Don't feed their negativity with your energy.
If someone gives you a compliment or attention, open up a bit; allow the positive energy in, and give equal or greater value in return--then close the gate slightly—but not completely. Think of "The Care Bear Stare," when the little bears shoot rainbows from their belly. Share some of that strong, positive energy, and people will be intrigued. Radiate this energy at all times. Don't give it away for free. That means don't supplicate, don't apologize for truisms, but control your ego and realize when you're wrong. Apologies are pure.
Breath deep and smile often. When you smile, endorphins are released, and you feel good. Try it now. Suck back that oxygen. Breathing oxygenates the blood and pumps state. Smile.
Do it again. Believe it.
Now say out loud, "Damn I feel good."
Say it again. "Damn…I feel good!"
Sing a song. Sing it loud. Don't give a crap what other people think about you. Just blast them with the Care Bear Stare.
By now you should be feeling pretty damn good.
Do a rockstar kick. Give a high five, a hug, a tickle. Shout, "Fuck yeah biatch!"
So you feel fulfilled, on your mission, you're happy, energized and vocal. Good.
Now go approach some women.
All the tactics, lines, routines, old school community beliefs: they are training wheels. Throw that shit out. Shake it like a snake sheds its skin. It's still there; you've read enough, you have approaching down. This is what will get you laid. You don't need external validation from women, from your friends, from society. The only thing that matters is you are happy with who you are, in control of your emotions, your reality, your energy, your destiny, and you share your knowledge, power, and being with whomever deserves it.
Trust me--you get this down, and you will have choices.
Intrance2:
I am currently associated with a Lair and at this point in time I will not comment on which one. It is however not in the USA or Canada. Now, the Lair I am involved in has for some time included women and they provide comment and feedback to others either on the forum or at meetings. Now my initial sense of having women in the Lair is what the hell for, why do we need these ladies here, isn't there plenty of other places/sites for women to be a member? What other reason could women be joining the Lair except for a ego boost where she is giving advice to male members? As background, there was some initial resistance to having women in the Lair, but then after a while people just said what the heck and the women where let in. Now what I would like is the opinion of your newsletter readers: is it a good or bad idea or does it really matter and why?
Final comment: my sense is that it's like going to a bar and you go to the mens' bathroom and there's a chick or two in there. Most guys would like or encourage it. However if a man is seen in a womens' bathroom in a bar they are most likely going to be thrown out. Aren't those two reactions odd? Is letting women into a Lair like women in the mens' bathroom? It may seem useful but is one party really benefiting?
Spezzatura:
LR: Being bold
While I’m actively gaming the girls I like, I tend to randomly pull girls without any preplanning or premeditation.
Anyway, this one was giving off the vibes. In fact, I was getting the 3-some vibe, as I was with 2 girls alone in an apartment. I was confident to go for the 3-some, but once her friend left, I knew I was going to go for it.
The problems were that there was no kino in advance, and she kept sitting in a chair while I sat on a couch. The other thing was, this was a professional meeting. In my field, those lines get blurred.
She kept getting up to change the music. Finally I decided to make my bold move.
"Sit here," I said while patting the couch and holding eye contact. This was critical. Her eyes looked at me as if to ask "Are you sure?" And my eyes answered "Yes."
I have lost it many times at the above stage by pussy footing around the first move by almost apologizing for it as I go for it. This was critical.
Once she was one the couch, she started talking. Still no kino. I stopped her mid-sentence by saying, "Do me a favor. Finish the rest of this story after." Then I leaned in, grabbed the back of her head and kissed her. Also critical.
Got some back and forth LMR, as she was bringing up some concerns, which I addressed perfectly. She started mentioning our social circle. "Your reputation is important to you. It is to me too." (Credit Kermit)
She stopped me several times, putting her top back in place. Finally, I started escalating and got her with the MONEY line which is, "You can stop me anytime you want and anything that happens is completely my fault."
Afterwards, I asked her when she was first attracted to me and she said, "When you were inside my vagina." Hmm. Not sure about that. She confessed to be seeing someone afterwards. Ah, to be a PUA.
Other teachers have talked about "being congruent," but that word has been used ad nauseam, and I think it’s lost a bit of its meaning. Being clear and comfortable with your intent is a good reframe.
Oliver Turner (link.cliffslist.com/Su)
5 ways to “WOW” women with your approach
Have you ever had the feeling that you’re really having an awesome vibe going on with a woman, but when you try to escalate things (get her number, schedule a date, or get her back to your place) she says no?
Well you’re not alone. I was stuck in that same rut a couple of years ago. It can be frustrating. Sometimes you may even ask yourself why you keep screwing up.
The good news is that it’s not bad luck. It can be fixed most of the time. I’ve picked out some of the issues that need to be addressed when you’re doing day game pick ups. If you’re still not getting the results that you want, then you might want to read this article over and over again.
All these tips are geared especially for day game
I don’t want to keep you waiting, so let’s get down to the fun stuff
Don’t be creepy – Simple yet overlooked factor. Don’t put up a front and start being the “Pick Up Guy,” or even worse “The Desperate Stalker.” It just won’t work. Just relax, take a deep breath, and act normal. That’s the secret. Act normal.
Picking up girls is less fancy than it really seems. First step is learning how to be social. Second is to be comfortable with being social. Third is being normal. Fourth is never forgetting the third.
Create the “Our World” Vibe - You want to get her from the “we just met” to the “I feel like I’ve known this guy” mentality as fast as you can. Once you get to this point, you can easily get to know her and vice versa. The faster you can create the “Our world” vibe, the better off you are in the long run. I’ve discovered a couple of techniques you can do right from the beginning, in order to create this kind of environment. A couple of them are introducing yourself right off the bat, talking about your childhood memories, and going on an instant date.
Respect her personal space - She needs to be comfortable at all times. Meeting women during the day is totally different than if you were to meet them in bars and clubs. There are several things that you need to adjust, and one of them is personal space. You need to respect her personal space. Don’t sit too close to her too soon, it’s uncomfortable. Heck, I feel uncomfortable when people do that to me.
Gear it down when it comes to touching her - Another area that you need to focus on. When you’re in bars and clubs, you can escalate things sexually almost right away. When you’re outside of bars and clubs, there’s a huge trust factor that you need to take in consideration. They don’t know you. You’re a stranger, so just be very casual with the touching. You should touch her just enough to communicate that you’re a touchy-feely person.
Always lead - You got to be leading the interaction at all times. It’s one thing to know how to lead and another to know when to lead. You always have to be pushing the interaction forward. Pick up is like playing a video game; you have to go from stage to stage. You don’t want to be stuck in stage 1 forever. It’s very similar to sales; the only way to get the sale is to ask for it. Just go for the close (whether it’s getting her number, getting her on a date on the spot, or going for the kiss) in all you interactions. It really makes a big difference.
Let me ask you this…
Have you ever seen a pick up gone wrong?
Let me suggest this…
Don’t be one of those guys that screw up. Ask a female friend the things that make her uncomfortable when she’s talking to a guy. Then make sure never to do those things.
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