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- Image makeover with Kinowear
- T Dub: Secret To Making Your Ex Return Your Call
- SashaPUA: Sasha's Semi-Ultimate Day Game Opening Guide: Part 1 of 3
- Dewey: What Do You Really Want in a Woman?
- Noodleboy: Full Body Orgasms AKA Squirting Success
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A Warning about Consistency
I’m going to talk a little about my teaching method this week. One of my main tools for teaching guys how to be great with women is affirmations. I have several different ways to apply affirmations in your life—ways that I’ve developed over a period of years.
During the process of acquiring a “magnetic mindset,” many of my students experience a subconscious block that prevents them from being consistent with affirmations. They start applying them and begin to notice subtle changes in the way they behave and the reactions they get from other people. Some of these changes are so far outside of their realities that it blows their minds.
This is scary for some guys. It opens them up to a new world they never thought possible—a new world that is ripe with possibilities that they had never even considered before. A new world that shatters what they’ve always believed.
So they stop.
But I urge you to never stop your affirmations. Affirmations are your lifeline. They are your oxygen supply. If you stop doing them, then you cut off your own air.
You can’t stop.
Earlier this summer, I personally experimented with stopping. At first, I noticed no difference. But after about three weeks, I began to have negative thoughts that caused me to make a few mistakes...mistakes I wouldn’t have normally made.
We are all the same. Even with all my amazing success with women, in other areas of my life I still have a lot of old negative programming hidden in the back of my brain. We all do.
If we stop our affirmations, we begin to drift backward into bad beliefs that date all the way back to our early childhoods. It’s like the helmsman of a ship who abandons the wheel, hoping that the ship will automatically drift into port.
But we all know what will happen. The winds and currents will drive that ship in random directions. And yet that’s precisely what we allow to happen if we stop applying affirmations.
All your old thoughts and beliefs are deeply embedded in your subconscious mind. By applying affirmations consistently, you slowly change those old limiting beliefs and take control of the direction of your life. Affirmations keep you on course.
See, what I teach guys is a radical way to “detox” yourself from your past. I show you how to build up such a strong defense that no amount of negativity from others affects you at all.
That’s the power of affirmations to completely turn your life around…and why you should never stop applying them.
I know a lot of this sounds New-agey, hocus pocus, or just plain fruity.
But it works. Results don’t lie.
I’m not a scientist. I don’t pretend to be one. I haven’t done ten years’ worth of research in libraries to uncover the mechanisms behind this.
All I know is that it works.
It works for me. It works for my students. And that’s all I care about. Using these methods, I have now personally changed the lives of guys all over the world. As I often say, I didn’t think I could get this across to guys when I first started.
But now, I know from experience that the guys who are willing to take a chance…to suspend disbelief and do what I tell them to do…have infused their lives with changes they never thought possible.
Your subconscious mind is a powerful mechanism…if you use it properly. It will either make you or break you.
The best way I’ve found to communicate with this deep part of yourself is to do affirmations every day for an hour. Yes, an hour! It’s a very small amount of time when you realize the results you’re going to get.
Set aside a time in your day to apply affirmations the way I teach them. I don’t care how busy you are. This is too important. It is the lifeline that fuels everything else you do.
If you do them every day, you’re one step closer to having the life you want.
Secret To Making Your Ex Return Your Call
Are there “magic” words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls?
Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call.
Cool huh?
I am going to share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions I get from guys that are trying to put their relationships back together.
So I am going to answer..."How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?"
BUT...
WARNING!
If you use this technique alone, without an overall plan or strategy...you may damage your relationship more than if your ex never returned your call.
What NOT to Say!
Before we get into the actual words, let's go over what messages almost NEVER work.
And worse...
Put you in an AWFUL psychological position.
These usually fall into 2 categories.
The PLEAD:
“John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you.”
And the EMERGENCY:
“Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this.”
Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches?
So, I won't go on and on...
Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are curiosity & self interest
And here's the BIG SECRET!
When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work “magic”
So...
Let's look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME.
In a friendly tone:
“Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person.”
Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?
John will NOT be able to resist! “What did I do? What does she appreciate?” he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message.
Now...
Before you call, you need to do the "Set Up," which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate.
It can be any small thing, but needs to be plausible.
But more importantly...
2nd WARNING!
Please have an underlying strategy BEFORE you call.
If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back, you can do more DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly.
Okay?
What I am saying is...
What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.
Make sense?
Have a PLAN!
:Sasha's Semi-Ultimate Day Game Opening Guide: Part 1 of 3
Hey kids!
Opening is a strong point of mine, so I though I'd write an article breaking down some of my thoughts and strategies. So welcome to:
“Sasha’s Semi-Ultimate Day Game Opening Guide!”
Everyone is always asking, “What's the best opener?” I know it's been said before, but I'll say it again - it doesn't really matter. If you have a good vibe and you're smiling, anything works. It's really my overall attitude and fun energy that is getting girls interested in talking to me. That being said, a good opener always helps!
Oh - keep in mind that I very much have my own style for opening. Not all openers suit all types of guys. Calibration may be required ;) Although there are plenty of ways to open - direct, indirect, non-verbally - my preferred method in the day time is direct/funny, or situational/funny, or situational/direct/funny. Hah? Situational/direct/funny? What the hell is that? That’s me!
For example:
“Nice shoes. God damn you’re hot, I almost bumped into that signpost!”
Cute, huh? It’s one of my own. In fact, in parts 2 and 3, I’ll be sharing some of my killer openers that have never been shared outside the LSS (my lair.) So, let’s get started!
Right, opening is important. It’s really important. If you don’t open, you never meet the girl. And I think you’ll find meeting the girl is really of paramount importance when it comes to…well, anything that comes after meeting a girl.
It is my belief that you have to make a tremendous impression in the first 5 seconds of the opening. Otherwise, you’re going to lose the woman’s attention. That’s right - 5 seconds!
Imagine a socially awkward, nervous guy approaching a woman. How long before she recognizes his insecurity and blows him out? Imagine it now for a moment.
“Hey, I uhh…my name…uhhh.”
There. He’s done. To stutter then took about 3 seconds in my head. Maybe 4. By 5 seconds, she’s already turned her back on him.
So – how do you get her attention? By being original. Even before that, by not having bad body language, coming across as needy, or staring at her tits…do get your basics down as they are very important. But after that, the key is…being DIFFERENT!
Now, I thought I might mention a few “typical” things guys say to pick up girls...the few that actually have the audacity to approach women in the day.
Before I share my super fun awesome openers with you guys – let’s take a look at what DOESN’T work! I’ve spoken to a few ladies on the topic and I’ve come up with the few things that women are hearing from the guys out there that DO have the moxy to open during the day. Unfortunately “balls” doesn’t equal “game.” Here are a few examples:
The #1 afc daygame opener is (are you ready for it…?)
“Hey. I’m a banker. Here’s my card, give me a call sometime. (Wink)”
Yep. There you have it folks. No, I’m not kidding.
No, I didn’t just make that up.
Do I really have to break down why this is absolutely horrifically bad? What you are saying is this: “I’m going to try to impress/bribe you with my money. Even though I am more successful than you, I totally fear you because you are beautiful. Hey. I have no idea how to talk to women.”
Next one: “Wow, you’re so pretty. Are you a model?”
Uggggh. WOW! REALLY? Yeah really. Hell, this used to be my opener pre-game. Why? Because I really didn’t know what to say. The woman is soooo hot, I’m blown away. I didn’t know how to deal with it. Most guys still don’t.
This is tantamount to simply saying, “I have no clue how to talk to desirable women!”
Another popular one:
“Hi you’re cute. Can I get your number?
or
“Hi you’re cute. Let’s get a drink sometime”
Going for the number straight away (though it may work on occasion) isn’t exactly tight game. Where’s the comfort? Where’s the attraction? Most numbers attained in this fashion will be flakes. But amazingly, some girls will give their number out and meet up with you in this scenario. Looking like Brad Pitt would help. At least here you’ve let the girl know that you like her, which is something.
Those of course, are the unoriginal openers that involve talking.
Then there’s the whistling/cat calling. Oh yeah. That gets the ladies turned on.
In European countries (yes, mainly I’m talking about Italy here) men will whistle as girls walk by. In the US, it’s more like, “Heyy hot stuff! Looking gooood!” Which is pretty much the same thing. All I can say is this:
I don’t think I’ve ever seen or heard of a women ever, ever, ever turning around after being whistled at by a guy, walking up to them and saying “Say, that’s some nice whistling there. Here, take my number. Maybe we can meet up later and we can see if you can fuck as good as you can whistle?” Yikes. As I was saying…
An opener should be original, entertaining, and direct. You want to let the woman know you are interested, but in a fun, non-needy way that diffuses the awkward tension that might be associated with one stranger approaching another in a public area (for sex.) At least, that’s my style.
Right – now that’s I’ve covered what NOT to do, next time I'll get into what does work, including my recipe list for what makes a great daygame opener! See you then!
What do you really want in a woman?
Have you ever thought it out? Could you answer confidently?
Most guys will respond with something like “I want to be able to nail every woman I feel ATTRACTED to.” But this is only because they haven't thought things through.
It's not that being able to bed any woman you choose is a bad thing. It's just not an answer to the above question.
I'm asking what you really want in a woman, not “How often do you want to have casual sex?”
I'm putting you through this exercise because it will help you to deal more confidently with women you meet. More about this later.
Once you know what you really want in a woman, you will start doing things that help YOU qualify the women you meet. This is a complete reversal of how things normally happen.
Normally, you meet a woman and she starts her qualification process (sometimes unknowingly.) Being a creature of habit, she is looking for reasons to disqualify you or to turn you into a friend.
That's usually how things go for her, so it's what she has learned to expect.
If you preempt her process however, metaphorically saying, “We're not going to do that,” you are separating yourself from the herd.
Her antennae will go up. You will find her becoming suddenly curious about you. You'll know this is the situation when she is asking DIRECT questions of you.
Once she senses you are not going to cooperate with her normal process, she will try a frontal assault. You have to dodge these questions, though. I recommend turning the tables on her.
“Where do you work?” (Meant to get some clues about your income.)
“I work in the XYZ industry. I like it.”
“Did you come here with anybody?” (Are you in a relationship?)
“Right now, I'm talking with you.”
The key is to answer the question without answering the question. This prevents her from using her qualifiers.
Keep in mind that it is not the case that you are afraid of answering the questions.
You must give her the impression that you are not casual about telling people about yourself. This says you are not desperate for a woman; rather, you are confident enough in yourself that you don't feel compelled to try and impress everybody you meet and that she must “earn” this kind of information by selling herself first.
If she persists in trying to get information, turn it around and ask what she is after.
“We've only just met. Are you always this pushy with men you are interested in?”
Or maybe ...
“I don't think you're my type. You'll have to change my mind before I answer personal questions.”
If you can make her feel as though she has to prove her value to you, she will begin to feel ATTRACTION. I know...it's not logical. Don't try to figure it out. Just go with it.
As you interact with her, teasing gently, being funny and showing her that you understand women, you will be stoking those embers and making her feel an emotional, gut response to you.
This is when body language takes on a much bigger role.
Female body language is not difficult to read. It's important to pickup on this so you know when she wants more than a good conversation.
When a women flirts she is saying that she is interested in you. She probably wants you to get closer to her physically. She will allow you in her space.
When a girl is attracted to a man, her subconscious moves her closer (so her pheromones fill your senses.) Physiological changes and posture adjust to accommodate the opportunity.
It's really easy to understand the majority of female body language.
Follow her eyes when you are talking. If she's flirting, you will see her looking at your mouth, imagining what it would be like to kiss those lips.
If she strokes her thigh, she wants you to look at her legs. It's a kind of tease that women do without realizing it.
We've all seen women with their legs crossed, rocking a shoe back and forth on the tip of her foot. This is an unquestionable invitation. If you doubt that this is a subconscious “come hither,” say something aggressive or negative and watch what happens to the shoe and crossed legs.
If she starts rubbing her neck or fidgeting with a necklace it's not because she has a stiff neck or a problem with the necklace. Lifting the arms uplifts her breasts and accentuates the shapes of the upper torso.
She may lower her voice and start whispering. This requires both to lean in and be closer. She's inviting you to share her personal space.
Sitting with her inner thigh exposed means she is comfortable with you. If she is showing you her inner thigh while allowing your legs to touch as you talk, she's thinking of you in a sexual way.
There are countless body language signals women use. I really believe most of them are unconscious. And they are not difficult to decipher.
Generally, if she is inviting you to share her personal space or frequently touches you when talking, she is telling you that SO FAR, she likes the idea of being intimate with you.
How you handle these GO AHEAD signs will determine how far things go.
An important thing to remember is that if you are in a public gathering place, where you really can't be intimate and if you haven't planned anything where the two of you can go to move things along, you probably should see the current situation as an opportunity to trigger ATTRACTION strongly for your next meeting where you can control things.
Just when the flirting is at a peak—end it. Remove yourself, in a gentlemanly fashion.
“I have to go. (pause) Just when this was getting to be fun. I'd like to see you again. Why don't you give me your email address? Or, I can give you my phone number.”
Either way you are in control. If she gives you her email, you choose when to contact her and what the subject will be. If she opts for your phone number, let your machine pick up and call back when it suits you.
The fact is she will be chasing you, hungry to satisfy those ATTRACTION feelings you triggered in her.
But let's get back to why you should think about what you want in a woman.
If you know what you truly are looking for in a woman (not just an afternoon's delight,) you won't have any difficulty whatsoever walking away from a woman as an opportunity. Most won't have what you are looking for, and will simply be another bedding challenge. No loss whatsoever.
It's being able to walk away without looking back that makes you ATTRACTIVE to women.
I will warn you, though. Having thought it through, when you do meet that special woman that has everything you are looking for, you're in trouble.
And if you think about it, you'll probably have to go through a lot of women before meeting the one-and-only.
Full Body Orgasms AKA Squirting Success
Ok, so I can get my girl to squirt consistently now.
The purpose of this post is to share what I've learned that isn't mentioned in the squirting materials out there, which boils down to:
1) Squirting is 75% due to her conscious mind control & pussy muscle control. Only 25% your finger techniques. (yes, your finger techniques aren't that important!)
2) The most important hurdle is the urination sensation. She has to be comfortable with it and actively embrace it and invite it instead of resisting it.
3) The second hurdle is getting her to relax her pussy muscles instead of clenching – all her previous orgasms have probably been “clenching” orgasms so it will take conscious effort on her part to relax the muscles.
4) Long, full-body massages aren't always required. ;)
I thought I was doing it wrong when I first started trying because of lack of results. But esoteric finger techniques have nothing to do with it. It's mostly her mind allowing her body to let go.
I didn't realize this until I eventually made her squirt with only 2 minutes of g-spot stimulation. I.e., no need for 15 minutes or more of crazy finger techniques, it was just plain g-spot pumping, I wasn't even trying to make her squirt! The difference was that, by then, we'd tried several times, so she was comfortable with all the sensations and knew what to do with her body to achieve the squirting.
At first, I would try all kinds of techniques on the deep spot and g-spot. Eventually the first g-spot orgasm was a crazy full-body orgasm for her, but no squirting. (Side note: the look of simultaneous shock and ecstasy on her face due to the totally new feelings is very memorable.)
So, the first time, crazy orgasm, she literally saw stars, no squirting.
The next time she dribbled.
The next time she squirted 2-3 inches, once.
Then 6 inches, 3 times.
Now 12-18 inches and the volume of liquid is insane.
When you bring it up, don't use “squirting” as the goal. Use “full body orgasms.” Then, while you explain the pussy relaxation part to her, mention that “We'll know that you're fully relaxed when clear liquid squirts out.” Make the squirting part a side-effect of the “full body orgasm.” This frames it as “expanding and exploring the limits of her pleasure,” not some nasty “fetish porn trick” she has to do for you so that you can brag to your friends.
Mention that “not everyone can have these,” so that she doesn't get performance anxiety. State that it will be enjoyable whether or not she has the full body orgasm. Tell her to not actively try to have the orgasm, that it will come by itself “like a wave passing along your body while you lie in the sand on the beach.” This is just to avoid her being nervous about making you do all that intense work for nothing.
Trim your nails very short. File them to get rid of corners. She may bleed the first few times (mine did.) Those areas of her pussy aren't used to the roughness. You can use a latex glove if she bleeds all the time. This won't feel as good to her, but will create less friction, which will mean less bleeding. And her tissues will get used to it, and you'll eventually be able to skip the glove (hopefully. Wink.)
Use LOTS of lube.
Resources I used:
David Shade's Masterful Lover
The 2 Squirting videos out there
AtoZ's mini-seminar at a Lair meeting a few months ago
She has to be at ease with the urination sensation. My girl felt like she was going to explode with pee. I told her it was normal and she wouldn't really pee, so not to worry about it. But she took it a step further and would actively let go of trying to hold it back (like when your bladder is full and you just relax the pc muscles and the pee just comes out on its own instead of you pushing it out) and consciously embrace the feeling and change her attitude about it to enjoy it. She would feel the pee pressure go up at the same time as the pleasure, so she “enjoyed the ride.” So she has to totally embrace and invite the urination sensation.
She has to be comfortable with herself and with you, and not afraid to be vulnerable and potentially embarrassed. I think this only applies because of the urinating aspect. If they can't get over the fact that they might piss all over you and your bed, it will not happen. Guru master's pee anchoring helped, accidentally. By chance one night she was so drunk she needed help walking and I held her hand while she peed (she kept telling me to get out of the bathroom, but I just held her hand and kept repeating, “Just hurry up and pee already!”) A week later she told me that her peeing in my presence had ended up making her feel more at ease with the pee sensation in my bed. In her mind, it was no longer a big deal if she actually did pee on me or my bed. I throw out some bath towels to cover the bed so she doesn't feel so bad about "making a mess".
She has to totally relax her pussy, not clench it throughout the process. This will take intense conscious effort to achieve because her body will naturally clench. If you feel her clenching your fingers early into it, pause and tell her to concentrate on relaxing those muscles.
She has to be horny. Tease her a lot. Take your time. Give her an oral clitoral orgasm first. Start giving her another orgasm but just stop completely right before she comes just to bring her to the edge even more. Unlike men, subsequent orgasms in women can be more intense than the previous ones. Start the techniques, then do whatever gets her crazy hot while you're pumping her g-spot (e.g. dirty talk, spanking, hair pulling, biting, etc.)
My physical techniques: (again, don't worry about strictly adhering to to these other than the "MEGA" section.)
Start with “TEASING” the g-spot: light pressure, slow and long stokes. Open your fingers (v shape) and stroke in “come here” motion along the sides of the g-spot—not directly on it. Do long, slow, light-pressure “come here” motions starting about an inch past the g-spot and ending with your fingers at the pussy entrance. Do short “come here” motions with light pressure only on the g-spot (i.e. you're only stroking the g-spot, not the space before and after it, so half-inch strokes.) Alternate/cycle between the above 3
Switch to a FIRMER pressure when she gets more vocal: medium pressure medium speed and shorter strokes. Use the same “come here” motions as above but with harder pressure. Hook the back of g-spot and pull towards the entrance, but fingers move only half inch, kinda like you're pressing a button (but on the back of the g-spot mound, not center.) “Edge” her: as she gets louder, switch back to “teasing” for 10-20 seconds, then back to firmer. Keep this cycle going as long as you want.
When she starts getting really loud and you want to go for it, switch to “MEGA” pressure. This is what you see in the squirting videos. Insert index & middle fingers closed, you pull your arm up to push straight up on the g-spot towards the ceiling (as if you're trying to lift her ass off the bed.) Put the palm of your other hand on her pubic mound (where the hair is) to hold her body down, as this puts more pressure on her g-spot. You can do this really hard and fast, she won't get hurt. Her eyes will bug out the first time—it's something she's never felt before.
Once you feel her clench at this stage, you pull your fingers out and she should squirt. I couldn't get her to squirt if my fingers stayed in. She explained that when something's inside her, her body automatically clenched on it to heighten the orgasm feeling. So one time she autonomously told me to pull my fingers out and this was the first time she squirted a decent distance instead of dribbling. She says she got the idea from one of the videos (she's such a good student!)
If you don't feel clenching, get her to tell you as soon as she starts orgasming, and this is when you pull your fingers out. Unlike guys' orgasms and clitoral orgasms, they don't need stimulation DURING “squirt” orgasming—as soon as the orgasm starts you can pull out and the orgasm will keep going and going. Pulling out the fingers is the key; after I pull them, out she squirts, then convulses for 2-3 minutes (just like a wind-up toy!) then laughs and giggles uncontrollably for another 2, then needs to cuddle.
I debriefed her after every session. She explained what she felt before and during orgasm and what she was doing in the pussy area. I provided suggestions for next time.
I kept a "experiment" journal. I'd note all the aspects of the session. Stuff like drunk or not, how many previous orgasms, time between orgasms, finger techniques I used, what she tried mentally and physically, amount of liquid, intensity of orgasm for her. One of the key questions was how was this orgasm compared to the previous sessions? This was a guage for my techniques so I'd add/remove techniques depending on whether last time was better or not (obviously you want the orgasms to keep improving.) In the end this wasn't really needed. Just make sure her orgasms keep getting better and that she's doing what she needs to do internally (relax, declench, welcome the urination sensation.)
I lucked out with this girl, super high self-esteem. She was fearless and eager to challenge herself. She respected my "authority" and followed my suggestions without questioning, and provided her own. It's going to be harder for the low self-esteem women.
After a few tries I had her watch one of the squirting videos with me. I'm going to do this with all girls; the guy on the video's demeanour & respectfulness demonstrates to her that this is not some sleazy nasty thing I found on the internet. It puts them more at ease. Seeing the girl convulse and giggle proves that it's an awesome experience for the woman.
I asked her to do Kegels after the first squirtless g-spot orgasm. She did these almost every day for 2-3 weeks. In retrospect, I should have waited because now I don't know whether or not they actually made a difference (i.e. changing too many variables at once.)
Like I mentioned, at first I was obsessed with my finger techniques, but it's really mostly about her. With the 2-minute squirt, I skipped the light/teasing pressure and went straight for firm pressure and MEGA pressure before I pulled my fingers out and she gushed. So I used minimal finger technique, but it was about our 5th session, so she knew what to do with herself.
More evidence of this is that I've been trying to get another girl (that I've been with for 1.5 years, so theoretically she should be comfortable with me by now) to squirt and she can't even have a vaginal orgasm yet! I use all the same techniques on both girls. Same explanations. Same reassurances. Nada. Her fear of peeing is overwhelming, so she can't relax. I think she's got some deep-rooted urination issues as ANY vaginal stimulation causes the pee feeling—even the side deep-spot (i.e. towards either hip, so no contact whatsoever with her bladder!) That one's gonna be a fun, tough challenge!
I'd like to clarify my reformed reasoning for this “squirting” goal which I realized after writing the above post.
At first the "squirting" goal was just for the silent power rush. To bring the sexual aspect of my game to a point where 90% of guys would not be able to compete. I would be able to get a woman's body to do this crazy over-the-top trick you only see in pornos, so that means I'm a sex God—woohoo! Yes, slightly ego-centric. But I've come to realize it's SO MUCH MORE than a cool trick.
Before experiencing it first hand, I thought “squirting” was just a plain vaginal orgasm that was accompanied by squirting, but it's much, much more:
She gets extremely tingly from the tips of her toes to the top of her head and tips of her fingers. It starts at her pussy and radiates outwards along her body.
She loses control of her body. It just convulses heavily and there's nothing she can do to stop it once it starts. Wow, the power of the pussy. Why the heck is this a part of women's bodies? There's no biological/evolutionary need for it! Amazing.
Intense euphoria. She gets really happy and giggly. She gets a huge smile on her face and she just cannot get rid of it, and she doesn't understand why she is feeling this happy.
It lasts longer and longer every time! 2 minute, full-body orgasms just to start. After a few times, tell her to try to concentrate and indulge in the sensations. The orgasms will last longer! (Just like how you can devour a cheesecake vs closing your eyes, taking small bites, and letting it melt in your mouth.)
Her body is tingly for hours afterwords.
She's relaxed and happy for DAYS afterwords.
Note: these results don't seem to be present in “natural” squirters. I confirmed this with a natural squirter platonic friend. She can squirt during regular sex but she has no idea why. It just started happening one day. Her squirting orgasms feel better than regular vaginal orgasms, but nowhere near the craziness I experienced. I think this is due to lack of the “MEGA” pressure technique. I'm going to get her to try MEGA and see what happens.
Anyway, after succeeding and seeing these unexpected results, getting repeated praise from her (I respond with “You're welcome, and I'm jealous,”) and the big smiles and happiness radiating from her, I realized the squirting part is a cute bonus that goes along with the real gift.
The real rush now for me comes from giving a woman this incredible gift. Unlocking this hidden part of a woman's existence for her. Unlocking this insane and unexplainable source of pure happiness that is already within her.
LR
: Long Term GameI just came back from dropping off a girl who I can honestly say made me come harder than I ever have before. This is a girl whom Orleans would describe as a “Miyagi.”
There is a lot to this interaction, and it spanned out over 6 - 8 months, so I will just give the parts that I think will be the most beneficial to those reading.
1st approach:
I had noticed this girl on the first day I was taking the bus to my new job. I saw her getting onto the metro and I walked up (keep in mind I am paraphrasing, as it was awhile ago.) She is an 8 and looks very unapproachable.
Finally she invited me to go to La Boom with her. We went there with her friend, and I ended up making out with her and feeling up her friend at the same time on the dance floor. That made me feel great, but we didn't get the time to do anything after that.
I was really horny last Friday, so I called her up and tried to get her to come over to my house. She was giving me resistance, so I decided to try to turn her on over the phone:
Before getting off the phone, we made plans to do something tonight. We met on the bus and went straight to my house. On the bus I started introducing some light, incidental kino while we were sitting beside each other. After about five minutes of seeing she was comfortable with the way I was touching her, I started being overt about it (putting my arm around her and rubbing her back.) When we were walking towards my house I gave her a hug while we were waiting to cross the street, then a couple of light kisses on the forehead and we brushed lips a few times.
When we got to my house she helped me make some lasagna. While we were waiting for the lasagna to cook, I brought her onto the couch in my living room where I had already put on some sex music (Marilyn Manson, Rob Zombie, NIN and others.)
We made out a little bit, she started brushing against my cock “accidentally” with her hand while we were kissing. I started caressing her stomach, legs, neck and back, and eventually started fondling her breasts and gently rubbing her pussy through her jeans. Then we went and ate some lasagna and then went to the store to pick up a bottle of wine. At this point when we came back to my house we watched some funny videos on YouTube.
I took her hand and guided it over my cock and showed her how I wanted it. She really liked this and started breathing harder. I removed her shirt and did the bra (one handed, I might add.) It was my birthday, so I described to her how many times I had visualized her full, luscious lips sliding up and down on my shaft and how it would be a wonderful birthday present to have her do that to me for the first time.
She eagerly partook of this for a full 15 minutes or so. Finally I couldn't take any more, and I slapped on a condom. I started slowly at first, really disciplining myself to ramp up to full out ramming after a few minutes of slow, gentle and teasing type of thrusting. When I finally came I was really fucking her very hard and, like I said, it was an incredibly intense orgasm, it felt like I lost a lot of pent up tension when I finally blew my load inside of her...
I hope this doesn't come across as bragging, I just know that escalation is a very common sticking point and I figured that if I went into detail about the full close from beginning to end, it might help a little bit.
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