DEATH to the Notion of “Be Laid Back and Unattached”

Sebastian (www.masterthevibe.com):

DEATH to the Notion of “Be Laid Back and Unattached”

Sebastian here. I taught practically nonstop for eight hours straight on Sunday. It was ridiculous, and wonderful. One thing I said was: “If there’s even a 10% chance that persisting will work, GO FOR IT.” Why? Because any girl that likes you and wants to see you will LOVE you persisting if you do it in a high value way.

I touch on this stuff in some upcoming Master the Vibe audio that’s coming out, that you can read a preview about here: www.masterthevibe.com

People loved the presentation. I was thrilled. And I got this question via email:

“If you recognize the window of opportunity I think its great to push forwards, but don’t you risk not being viewed as laid back, unattached, and a guy with options? It also seems like you’re chasing which innately blocks her from chasing you. Finally, if she says no she’s setting up a tone for more "No" 's in the future, ruining any pattern of her being in complete agreement with you and that this rejection affects your value relative to hers.

I like what you said. I just need the holes plugged or more specific examples so I’m not misusing this and so I can identify what the signs of a 10% chance are.

The presentation was awesome. Heads and shoulders above (Name Withheld), the last presenter. I learned some drastically different views than I do in most same old rehashed seduction seminars. Thanks again.”

Well I do appreciate the kind words, and I’ve got to put something to bed right now.

A lot of guys who’ve never had a really rowdy, crazy successful social circle aren’t exactly sure how the highest status crews act. So they guess, and they think… well, guys that get lots of girls are probably super chilled out about it… they probably don’t get too pushy or persistent… if a girl says she’s not going to come to an afterparty, really cool guys probably don’t care after just inviting once…

WRONG! WRONG WRONG WRONG WRONG!

See, I didn’t always have friends in the top 1% with girls, and I certainly wasn’t there when I started. So I didn’t get how the highest status guys act, and how women are used to being treated.

Elite guys are EXTREMELY persistent when they’ve got something good to offer a girl. If you’ve ever seen a crew of really cool guys and really attractive girls leave a nightclub to go to their cars, they’re BIG on saying “C’mon, let’s go, PARTY!” and they INSIST that everyone comes with them.

About her setting the tone for more “No’s” in the future… if she likes you, and you persist in a high status way, she’ll be flattered and your status actually goes UP. The time to back off is when she says, “No really, today is impossible, can we meet on xyz day instead?” When she’s suggesting legit options, you flush those out and go from there. Just beware of the worst possible word she can say to you…

“Sorry”

“Sorry” is the interaction slipping away from you.

Sorry is the worst thing you can hear from a woman.

Once she starts apologizing, you’re in BAD shape, so cut that off immediately.

My favorite: “Don’t say sorry – In fact, I’m sorry if you can’t make it. That’s terrible, we won’t get to enjoy ourselves, connect more… I’m really sorry, you’re not sorry.”

-> Then keep persisting. When a girl likes me and the reason she can’t continue an interaction isn’t a big deal (work in the morning, lame plans already made, etc) I push hard in a high status way, asking oftentimes 8-12 times.

I’ve seen plenty of interactions turn around between the 8th time I ask and 12th – and so have clients and friends. Maybe my favorite was when I met this beautiful recruiting executive on a train and I pushed, and pushed, and pushed for her to meet – but she kept saying she couldn’t, since she had coworkers and friends staying right next door to her in the hotel.

I kept persisting – and eventually she actually called one of her coworkers to ask if she thinks it’d be possible – to which the coworker IMMEDIATELY shut it down, of course.

So we part company, and I go out on the town with a friend, but it’s a dead night. Eventually, I get back at 2AM and I’ve got a flight home the next day. As I’m getting ready for bed, I’ve got images of this beautiful brunette recruiting girl in a deadly, sexy business suit in my head, and I pick up my cell and call her.

“Hey, it’s Sebastian,” I start, and continue, “… Are you feeling lonely?”

She says yes. I say I am too, and ask which room at the hotel she’s in. She tells me, and 30 minutes later I’m there. We both got no sleep and I was absolutely wrecked trying to get to the airport the next day – but man, was it worth it.

So I called her up, at 2AM, and asked in a high status way, “Are you lonely?” Do I seem laid back, unattached, like I have lots of options? Maybe not. But I got the girl.

Don’t worry about seeming like you don’t have options – women respect men who take what they want, and communicate what they like. Any girl that really likes you will be flattered that you’re being so persistent – and it’s going to work a hell of a lot of the time, too.

Sebastian Drake

Sebastian puts out live audio on meeting and dating the women of your dreams. Check out more information here: www.masterthevibe.com